Sleeping with separate blankets and sheet is the optimal way to share a bed with a partner

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Sharing a bed with a partner is one of the cornerstones of an adult relationship. Every main bedroom in a home has a single bed and a single set of linens. Your parents, their parents etc etc slept together under those same linens constantly pulling and tugging on each other throughout the night until one person ultimately gets more blanket than the other. This is not optimized.

In my home, my wife and I have come to engineer a perfect solution to this problem: we each sleep with our own blanket and sheet. This way we can both roll up like burritos in the night if we choose, or cuddle together if the mood is right. No one is stealing blanket from each other, and everyone gets the blanket they choose. I get my fluffy feather filled blanket and my wife gets her favorite embroidered cloth like blanket. We simply use two sheets to go with our blankets to keep everything fresh.

When making the bed in the morning, we fold the blankets up in a way that they can just be pulled to expand out fully. All of our needs get met with this perfectly engineered solution.

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  2. ExismykindaParte Avatar

    This is how we do it. My wife needs a weighted blanket and I despise them. I have a thin fleece blanket.

  3. XRaisedBySirensX Avatar

    After several years sleeping in the same bed, with the same blanket, my wife had this idea. We started sleeping with our own blankets. It wasn’t long after that, I was relegated to the couch and had to invest in another mattress.

    For some people, I’m sure it’s great, but it’s also possible that this is the first step of many to push you out.

  4. Semicomedic_Truther Avatar

    I have to because apparently I hog them… but instead of kindly asking for some blanket back he snatches it… I call it night rage.

  5. Hitdomeloads Avatar

    Don’t mean to sheet on your post, but you are making a blanket statement

  6. Bernkov Avatar

    What about sharing a bed with a homie?

  7. IYFS88 Avatar

    My relatives in Germany all had 2 big fluffy duvets folded into their beds and I always loved the idea! Not sure why I haven’t thought to do this in my home lol.

  8. ZzzzDaily Avatar

    I absolutely agree. We’ve been sleeping this way for many years. It started with those dark blue silk sheets. We thought they were sexy but they were so slippery. Partner hated the top sheet and refused to sleep under it. Jusr rolled/slid, right from under it. Took the blanket and left me with the slippery sheet. And we have never gone back to shared blankets. Yep. We even do this in hotels.

  9. LovecraftianCatto Avatar

    Huh, I thought that’s how majority of couples already does it. I mean two duvets make sense as much as two separate pillows do. Me and my partner have always slept like that.

  10. OkStructure3 Avatar

    I just bought a king sized blanket for a queen sized bed. Problem solved.

  11. fugineero Avatar

    How do you cuddle under the blankets if you each have a blanket? Unless each blanket is a queen sized blanket and then you have too much blanket. Sounds like a logistic nightmare for couples who don’t have an issue with blanket hogging.

  12. Aeowrynn Avatar

    My fiancee and I have always had separate blankets. I never thought about sharing one lol. Pretty sure my parents always had separate blankets too!

    He gets cold and has heavy comforters. I get too hot and have either just a top sheet or one thin blanket.

  13. PrettyRetard Avatar

    This is what my boyfriend and I do too. We can and have shared blankets without issue but I prefer my own blanky.

  14. okaaay_letsgo Avatar

    I’m Scandinavian and we’ve always done this, it’s the best and only way that I’ve known for most of my life. It wasn’t until a few years ago, when I saw some articles in US online newspapers about the «Scandinavian Sleep Method», that I realized it’s not the default way to sleep everywhere!

  15. ZoixDark Avatar

    Been with my wife for 20 years and we’ve been sleeping under separate blanks for 20 years. We both like to burrito ourselves and one blanket would never work. Also for the past 19 years we’ve had dogs sleeping between us.

  16. metalmankam Avatar

    Getting cold feet?

  17. Megmelons55 Avatar

    Separate beds even sometimes can save a relationship lol. I agree with this take too though

  18. Sleepy-Blonde Avatar

    We do this too. I have my sheet and thick comforter while my husband has his sheet and a thin blanket.

  19. Vritrin Avatar

    Is this unpopular? I have always done this with anyone I have slept with. We have our own blankets and pillows because we have very different ways of sleeping.

    Sharing blankets seems like a lot of hassle for no real gain.

  20. The_Lurker_Near Avatar

    Completely 100% agree, sorry for the downvote

  21. Myopic_Mirror Avatar

    we do this so I agree