I’m 26f and I used to have a friend who is 30m. Long story short, we met though a mutual friend maybe 6 years ago and we became friends. Hung out quite a bit together before he confessed he had feelings for me, but he had a gf during that time (still with her today) so at first I tell him I’m flattered but we couldn’t because he was seeing someone. Well after a while, I stupidly said yes to a fling with him which grew to a small affair we were having. Kept telling me all kinds of lies and making empty promises until we started talking a lot less and less. To the point where he would only hit me up if he was wanting to smash or I would hit him up asking for money. Then it became to the point where I told him I didn’t want to do anything with him anymore because it wasn’t fair to his gf for him doing this or me with all the empty promises he kept making me but would like for us to try going back to being friends, next day I woke up blocked on everything. Was I upset to see he ended up blocking me, yes and no. I’m hurt to lose someone I thought was a friend but I’m not at the same time because it proved he wasn’t really a friend, just a guy looking to get his dick wet
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Went through something similar a few years ago and I still have a hard time looking at relationships in the same light.
why did you say yes?
Please tell his gf. She deserves to know how trash her bf is.
Wait… he got sex and you got money?
Tell his gf
I know it’s hard to lose a friend, but I’m having a hard time feeling bad for you because you knew he had a gf and slept with him anyway. and what is this about hitting him up for money, too? what kind of “friendship” is that…?
who knows why he blocked you. maybe he had feelings for you too and is hurt by you saying you didn’t want to have sex anymore. or maybe he’s scared that you’re going to tell his girlfriend now. or he’s pissed and is giving you the silent treatment because he’s an immature manchild. either way, he’s a piece of shit and you need to move on.
you should really tell his girlfriend. she deserves to know so she can make her own decision about the relationship. he doesn’t deserve a girlfriend at all.
and you should do some deep soul-searching and possible therapy to figure out why you slept with a man who was in a relationship in the first place.