My Gf and I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now. Since we go to the same college and pursue the same degree (we study in the same yr even though we have the difference of 1 yr in age)we both often study together during exam time. And last year during exam time, we travelled every single day all the way to the college just so that we could study together. She used to ask me to explain her some topics and I would do that. She was very happy when we both passed the exams.
And few months back, she started using chatgpt for tracking her calorie intake (cause her eating disorder and bulimia relapsed after years. And she didn’t tell me about it, started acting distant and only when we fought she told me about it. I am not upset with her, its not something easy for anyone to share and I respect that). Slowly she started asking chatgpt much more than that (exercise routines, what does chatgpt suggest her to do to decrease weight).
She started sending chatgpt the pictures of the weighing scale readings, started sharing every single detail of what’s happening with ChatGPT. Despite telling her that it’s not safe to give chatgpt your information (also it’s mentioned that the chat is not end to end descriptive), she doesn’t stop doing that.She stopped speaking with me or anyone else like she used to do. And If I tell her that she just says sorry and after few days it’s again the same.
I am not gonna lie, I feel really jealous that she asks chatgpt all the time about almost every detail. Stuff that girls usually ask their bf (eg. Choosing between colors and all basic stuff), she asks that to chatgpt.
And now we are back in the exam season. Even if she doesn’t know a topic and she knows I can explain it or even If I offer to explain it to her, she tells she will read it on her own and then uses chatgpt in front of me to find the answers. And yes, she stopped coming to college to prepare with me. (I know it’s her choice, all of this is her choice and I don’t have a say in this. But I can’t help but feel hurt and sad).
TL;DR I don’t know what to do and what to say. Anytime the topic goes towards this we end up fighting. I don’t want to leave her as well. What should I do?
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From my own personal experience, there have been times I have shared information about me that has been sensitive or” triggering “ and people have thought that it was a burden or that I was too clingy and that I needed to find better ways to cope with my emotions. And now ChatGPT is very easy to talk to and non judgemental. I think sharing with another person about her eating disorder that she has had to deal with for a long time in her life, and probably have been told to deal with it by other people, she probably doesn’t want to be burden you with such heavy topics and doesn’t want to repeat past mistakes. Be patient with her and don’t corner her. Be gentle, after all it’s about a difficult part in her life.