My MIL and I have never got along, I’ve never said or reacted to anything she has done which is a very long list of horrible things including attempting to sabotage my wedding, spreading lies about me to my husbands entire family, bully, mean remarks you name it anyways.
We went no contact last year after being at our breaking point and we found out her (MIL) and her sister (aunt) were talking back in forth about me pretty harshly it lasted about for about 10 months during this time I had a baby and let her back in after she apologized and promised it was all a misunderstanding and I didn’t have proof other than what her sister had showed me on her phone.
Usually my husband handles all contact with his family I’m pretty soft spoken and things get to me easily I’ve sobbed over and over about this. But last month we went no contact because his mom came into town and we picked her up and took her to lunch during lunch we thought she was acting weird but not unusual for her to be in a bad mood so all was well we drove to drop her off at her hotel. We started to drive back and about halfway home we start to get like calls like crazy from his brother saying she left her phone in our car no big deal we will bring it back. We didn’t even know it was in our car. So we start driving back and my husband picks it up it’s an apple and there was a text from his brother a horrible text about me. We froze and yes we shouldn’t have but we opened it and then proceeded to scroll through months of texts from his brother and mom saying the most gut wrenching things about us like horrible things. Somehow my husband kept his cool dropped off the phone without so much as a word and we drove home and cut off contact. They showed up at our house multiple times sense but we’ve just not answered the door.
Now it’s been about a month and for some reason, not all the time but a lot of times it keeps scratching at my brain. I never get to say anything to these people who in my opinion have gotten to take a punching bag to me for years I just wish I could have said something anything it wouldn’t have changed my course of action but it just keeps making me so mad when I think about how every moment since we broke no contact last year was fake. So if you’ve read this far,
How do you guys get over this?
I also feel so incredibly sad/guilty for my husband that was his only family he had left (he has an incredibly small family also) I feel like it’s all my fault, they have only started this after we got married I feel as if I’m the reason his family hates us. I keep hearing from his grandma that his mom and brother do not care and have been going on vacations etc so it feels like my husband is grieving and they clearly are unaffected by the situation. Sorry in advance this is basically a huge rant
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Time is the only true healer. Give it months, or longer. No contact. The answers about a reconciliation, if any, will come to you. Be the best you can can possibly be to DH. Show him how wonderful your little family is, and while painful, you don’t need extended family to make it so. I know it hurts, but now you both know the truth. ❤️