found out my boyfriend watches and likes other girls online. i’ve finally found the courage to walk away because why do u feel the need to look at other girls when ur in a relationship with someone you seem to love and find attractive so much. my last message to him was i hope all these girls that don’t even know u exist fill the void of not being with me anymore. wish u all the best. i’m not crazy or dramatic for thinking this is wrong and i deserve better?
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I agree that OF and the like are too far.
it’s not even just OF girls it’s genuinely just random girls on tik tok that are showing abit of their body on a video or obviously girls he finds attractive.
Good for you, ways stand up for your values. You find others with different values from time to time stay true to yourself, I’m poly for example so my partner liking others is perfectly ok but those are my values different from yours.
In the old days, men only had two magazines and strip clubs.
Then came videos they could buy or rent.
Everything has escalated, and now porn is interactive. He can pay to chat with her.
It’s just very sad and scary.
Your story is very common.
Basically a whole generation of women have to date sex addicts.
In our grandmother’s and GG generation they had to contend with drunks and abusers as partners. When women got their right to vote they immediately started prohibition.
I believe pornos will eventually be outlawed. It is illegal in Iceland.
My ex-husband used to do this all the time. Sometimes inappropriate images, even while lying down next to sleep or after/before having sex.
Then he used to claim that he loved me. He didn’t consider this as creating, but I did because firstly, I never had a single good compliment from him in my 10 years of marriage. His phone was full of girls’ photos, even paintings. He used to give compliments and look at them in awe.
When confronted, he said this isn’t cheating, and I am old-fashioned. And if I am insecure, then this is my problem. At that time, I said these insecurities were given by you, I never had before. I asked how you would feel i look at other men all the time while you are stung next to me? He didn’t reply.
He had this imaginary woman in his head thar he tried to fit me in it.
Long story short. He ended up cheating in real while we were trying to give wachother space.
So we’ll done for you made the right choice. Looking at other women isn’t wrong, but looking at all the time and when it starts to affect your relationship.
That’s not social media’s fault that’s just your boyfriend being scum.
You’re not crazy, I think most women hate the idea of their partner following/liking IG models or any girl at all. I feel the same way about porn too. My husband has instagram but all he follows are watchmaking accounts and art accounts since he’s a watchmaker. Whenever he’s on instagram, I check his feed/suggestion and it’s all watches, jewelry, artwork, and sometimes funny animal videos bc we often share each other memes and stuff. He only follows 20 accounts and has two followers which is just me and his boss lmao. Tbh, I think it’s the healthiest use of social media. Minimalistic. We often have this convo but he hates the idea of cheating, strip clubs, OF bc he doesn’t want to hurt me and it’s not worth it. It may be rare these days with all these contents in our faces, but there are good men out there! Bravo to you for standing up and leaving him.
Women do this all the time…looking for attention. But good on you for walking away