Somebody please help me.

Hi, I’m a dude (26M) who is in a long term relationship with a woman (40F) currently dealing with hormonal issues.

In April, she had a hormonal IUD put in her, due to some tumors she’s had. The IUD is supposed to reduce the tumors or prevent them from growing.

The problem I’m experiencing though is it’s completely changed her behavior, and it’s only gotten worse since it started in April. She seems to want nothing to do with me, yet she claims she loves me. It’s contusing my brain. My logical side is telling me she needs space but my emotional side is confused because she was always clingy before the IUD.

I’ve been doing my absolute best to be supportive and understanding, but it’s weighing on me. I’ve never felt so insecure in our relationship.

Her behavior has been cold hearted, lacking empathy, lacking any need or desire for intimacy. I feel like I’ve lost her in a way. I miss her.

I’m pretty sure it’s temporary though. Maybe I’m a fool for feeling the way I do, but I can’t help it. I’ve been doing my best to be strong and patient, but I’ve been really struggling emotionally about this.

My question is, is there anyone out there who has had similar experiences? Maybe someone who can reassure me that this is normal and that it will go back to how it was, after her hormones regulate themselves?

Some bonus information: She’s had a history of mental health struggles as well, such as Borderline personality disorder, bi-polar, depression, and anxiety.

If anyone can share their perspective on a similar experience, and can help me understand better and feel not so alone, that would mean a lot.

TL;DR, read the whole thing, without the details, there’s no point.