I saw a post today and the girl said she texted her ex bf and asked to start over and fix things a week after they broke up.
She said he texted her and told her and he has a new girlfriend.
While in some cases yes that person may be a rebound but that isn’t always the case. My previous relationship ended two weeks before I met my current partner and we started dating a little under a month after we had broken up. I broke up with my ex bf because I resented him and honestly should’ve broken up with him a while before I actually did. He emotionally cheated multiple times and I practically had to beg him to visit me or give me undistracted time the whole relationship. We stopped contacting each other about a week and a half prior to me breaking up with him.
Never once has it occurred to me that maybe I want to fix things with my ex bf, get revenge, find someone better solely for the purpose of rubbing it in, or missed him in any way. My ex bf is blocked on all my social media platforms and I have not talked to him since. I don’t compare him to my current partner or think about things my ex bf had or did that were better than my previous one.
I will admit that this relationship started earlier than I thought it would and that maybe I should’ve taken more time to heal from my previous relationship. I felt like most of the healing and detachment was done prior to the breakup, honestly.
My current partner is not a rebound, a replacement, or fix for loneliness. It’s perfectly okay to start a new relationship when ever you are ready. Whether that’s 1 day after the breakup or 1 year. The time of the relationship does not determine if someone is a rebound but the purpose. Why are you with them? Because you’re lonely? Because you’re trying to get over your ex? Or because you love this person and want to build a future with this person?
Stop labeling every relationship in this situation a rebound relationship.
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I met my girlfriend about 4 months after my ex and I split.
With hindsight, it probably was too soon, my life was very messy when we met. There was still a lot of shit to sift through.
But she was first date, I just wanted to see if I could handle dating, I didn’t expect to meet my perfect woman.
But there was talk of it being a rebound, but I wouldn’t do that to someone anyway. That’s using someone. People process breakups at different speeds. A week seems fast, but you don’t know how long they’ve not felt it for their ex
You’re right. My ex (who I had been with for 11 years) had been cheating on me with his “new” girlfriend for the last five years of our relationship! I wouldn’t consider that a rebound.
I think it depends on how long they were together.. I’d find it strange if someone that was dating someone for 2+ years can just move on within a week-month.
It really depends. I don’t think most people believe that it’s ALWAYS a rebound, but it can certainly lean that way. You breaking up after a month and then starting to date a couple weeks later? Most people won’t view that as a rebound. You ending a four year relationship and then posting a new boyfriend/girlfriend a couple weeks later, especially if you did not initiate the breakup? Yeah, that reads as a rebound.
It takes the term from basketball, I’m sure. It’s any relationship started shortly after the previous one failed. Sometimes they work out, though more likely not. Often due to people still grieving and not being able to commit to what they have. If your rebound relationship worked for you. Awesome. But that doesn’t mean it wasn’t a rebound.
If youre in a serious relationship a week after getting out of a serious relationship, neither relationship was serious and you aren’t serious.
It may not always be a rebound but not many people realize it’s still unhealthy to jump into a different relationship right after the next. It’s like switching to a different drug because you realize how bad the first one is. You’re still relying on someone that makes you feel the dopamine.
It can also mean they were cheating.
The dumper is not rebounding, they are moving on.
The dumpee on the other hand, yes, very well could be rebounding.
I completely agree. In all of my past relationships, by the time I actually ended them, I was totally over them and felt nothing but relief. I wouldn’t have ended them otherwise. I don’t typically hop right into another relationship immediately, but I absolutely would if I just happened to find the right person.
It depends. Sounds like you had worked through a lot of your stuff BEFORE you and your ex broke up. Which means that you were really already over him.
How long were you together? What was co-mingled? If you lived together, messier and yes, harder. If you weren’t together very long, easier. Many circumstances can dictate a rebound.
I was in a relationship that ended after 2 years, 2 months later I found my current partner and it’s been 4. It wasn’t a rebound, we both agreed upon the breakup. I was just done with that relationship and relieved when it ended. Don’t stop yourself from finding someone amazing because you aren’t following some invisible social dynamic.
I was in a relationship that ended after 2 years, 2 months later I found my current partner and it’s been 4. It wasn’t a rebound, we both agreed upon the breakup. I was just done with that relationship and relieved when it ended. Don’t stop yourself from finding someone amazing because you aren’t following some invisible social dynamic.
I was in a relationship that ended after 2 years, 2 months later I found my current partner and it’s been 4 years. It wasn’t a rebound, we both agreed upon the breakup. I was just done with that relationship and relieved when it ended. Don’t stop yourself from finding someone amazing because you aren’t following some invisible social dynamic.
Also there was nothing to get over. I mourned that relationship before it was over but kept trying because people told me to have hope and I was young and naive.
It’s either a rebound or a monkey branch. Either way they don’t have good chances of making it.
Just depends on the situation, obv every relationship is different, but yeah you seem pretty loyal!
I think it is a rebound a very substantial percentage of the time and even when it’s not, I’ll still label it unhealthy if I can’t exactly call it a rebound
Its a long rebound Reggie.
Cope n seethe
Life is waaay too short to dwell on other individuals that wronged you or you wronged for that matter. It’s important to realize the situation and acknowledge what happened in order to prevent further problems, but it’s key to be self aware and actualize what you want or you will suffer in the long term by regretting lost time.
This is easier said than done but I feel like life is extremely short and the stages you go through life you’ll never get to repeat. (Sometimes for the best of course).