I’ve never wanted kids, it just simply hasn’t made sense to me. People always tell me it’s because i’m young (early twenties) and ill change my mind but i think that after more than 20 years of existing i’d have at least a little feeling towards it if that was true but i feel nothing. I think motherhood is beautiful and amazing but i think it’s not for me. i’ve always just been focused on personal success not family success. I do everything right but i still feel like im defected for not wanting kids. I go to a T15 university, have a great job for my age, i volunteer, i do lab research, and still people act like im crazy for not wanting kids. i want to be successful in my own right and when i envision my future there simply are not kids there. i don’t have a motherly instinct bone in my body and frankly i know id be a bad mom. my last relationship ended because i didn’t want kids and he did. when we broke up he told me i wouldn’t find a man willing to not have kids and lately it feels like he’s been right. we broke up 2 years ago and i’ve gone on plenty of dates and am yet to meet a single man who doesn’t want children. i always bring it up early because i think it’s a non negotiable, you can’t be in a relationship and disagree on something that important. literally am yet to meet a single man who’s even iffy on children, they all want them. and everytime when i say i don’t they look at me like somethings wrong with me. i understand there are men out there who don’t want children but i just can’t seem to find them. and even if i do whats to say a man won’t change his mind watching his friends have kids or something similar. it’s just discouraging. i hate feeling like somethings wrong with me simply because i don’t want kids.
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All my childfree friends are also married, so just because it feels like no men don’t want kids, doesn’t mean that’s true! We all got married around the same age and have been married just as long.
Also woman, never wanted kids, you are not a freak
Aw honey, nothings wrong with you. Frankly I think society is weird for making kids a “default setting” rather than an intentional choice.
There are billions of people here- we need to chill out already lol
You’ll find your match. If you have a hobby, start sniffing around group gatherings /competitions to see if you can find him. Activity based meet ups are so low pressure and naturally passionate people congregate.
I think a lot of men are indifferent to having kids but will publicly say they want them because they think that’s what most women want.
I’m childfree. Single and happy. I don’t need a man.
I knew when I was a child that I would never have kids. I’m going to be 37 soon and people are still telling me I’ll change my mind, but I’ve never been more sure. It has always been women who get trapped by children, not men. Someone who looks at you funny because you don’t want what they want isn’t worth your time. You deserve the future you want, not one that you’re forced into.
Woman who never wants kids.
Honestly, I’ve been seen as a “freak” my whole life and at this point, I’m like… fuck it.
I’m 37. At 17 i announced i didn’t think I wanted kids and i haven’t changed my mind. Didn’t change my mind when I got married or when my friends started having kids or when my niblings were born.
Sometimes you just know.
There are childfree men out there too don’t lose hope
I have never wanted kids. When I met my now- husband, he was raising his ex’s baby, and I was thrown into being a parental figure quickly.
After 3 years we filed for partial custody and lost- and went down the foster path.
It was too hard for me. I didn’t want a genetic child bc I didn’t want a kid to experience what I experienced. But I also couldn’t make the rough choices necessary to engage with the foster system.
So I told my husband I couldn’t do it, and that’s fine. We have nieces and nephews we sometimes see. Our neighbor kid comes over. People always assume I’m a mother.
Listen to your gut. It doesn’t mean you can’t be a mother if you are thrown into a situation, it means you are being thoughtful about bringing another life into the world, and how that will impact that life and you.