We have been dating for 6 months and I feel like 90% of the time it’s me asking about his day and 10% reciprocation from him. How do I bring this up? I genuinely can’t tell if he’s aloof or this self centered. For example: he talked on the phone for 30 minutes and then finally noticed I was quiet and asked how my day was.. I don’t want to have to feel like I have to push him to ask about how my day is.
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How do I tell if my boyfriend is actually aloof when it comes to asking about my day to day or if maybe he isnt as invested as me in the relationship?
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Also to add we’re long distance but moving in together in sept. I’m just having second thoughts about everything
does he demonstrate interest in you, your life, your goals, etc. in other ways besides asking about your day? Some people are bad at that kind of “small talk” (which for the record does not mean that it’s unimportant) so it’s hard to judge whether this is a skill he needs to build or symptomatic of a larger issue of him not being very invested. What does your gut say? If it does not seem to be part of a larger pattern, and he does show how he cares consistently many other ways then:
flex those communication muscles and tell him that you’d appreciate it if he would make an effort to ask you more about your day because it makes you feel valued/insert feelings here.