I have a great relationship with my boyfriend of 7 years, he treats me extremely well and is extremely kind and loving. We have no issue using each others phones if need be.
When he shows me things on Instagram, sometimes his explore feed pops up and it’s just SO many women, boobs, thirst traps, etc. and it’s SO extremely annoying.
I take extremely good care of myself. I workout, get Botox/filler, laser hair removal, the works. I got my tubes tied a few years ago and I am solidly child free. I have a great high paying career and three wonderful cats. I own my own home. I do not want to get married and my boyfriend respects that.
Sometimes I think it’d just be easier to be alone. I’ve never been with a man who hasn’t had this sort of explicit content on his feed and I feel like after having been in multiple long term relationships, this is just how men are and there’s no fighting it đ /rant
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Yeah I donât blame you, Iâd be grossed out too. Even my POS cheating exâs explore feed was just like guitar & soccer videos⌠did you ever talk to him about how this upsets you?
I mostly follow some cos players and musicians.
Recently I subscribed to a couple of fitness accounts, now my explore is a solid wall of shirtless men with their abs rippling.
The algorithm is gonna do its thing.
You can never be enough compared to a feed of professional lite-porn models whose pictures are chosen by algorithm meant to maximize the “value” the user get. These women don’t even look as good as their own pictures!
> this is just how men are and there’s no fighting it
Plenty of men aren’t, but you can’t fight against a guy who doesn’t want to change.Â
The question is you: do you see yourself in the same relationship in 5 years? Will you be happy to be in this position? Does he (truly) treat you well, sex is good, etc.Â
Here the question is purely about what you want, and it’s fine to compromise of something reasonably light like that.Â
Guy (m37) answering this. Instagram is very annoying with this. One misclick or even if I watch a fitness video by a (women) friend and suddenly my explore feed is filled with Onlyfans women. It takes me a few days watching a lot of motorcycle vloggers to clean my feed a little again.
I follow no models and avoid clicking on them but apparently Instagram really wants to push them on guys feed.
Just FYI that is also instagrams fault. Make a new IG and put your sex as male and watch how shitty your feed becomes. The amount of soft core porn it pushes you once your market ID is labeled as male is insane.
I remember when my husband showed me how much his FYP looks like. Bunch of ass shakes, naked women etc⌠yeah⌠he was searching for it and cheating the whole time.
>Accounts were set up on TikTok for each archetype, each with specific interests â they might be seeking content on masculinity or loneliness â and researchers then watched more than 1,000 videos that TikTok suggested on its âFor Youâ page over seven days.
> The initial suggested content was in line with the stated interests of each archetype, but after five days researchers said the TikTok algorithm was presenting four times as many videos with misogynistic content including objectification, sexual harassment or discrediting women, which increased from 13% of recommended videos to 56%.
Source: this Guardian article from 2024.
I know many men simply just watch porn but we do have to acknowledge the role social media plays in filling up feeds with content beyond what is asked for. Itâs disgusting and harmful.
Very yucky for a grown man to be consuming so much of that shit that it’s what the algorithm fills his page with. My boyfriend’s page is stuff about being a vegetarian, how to be mindful, funny animals, and relationship tips. Your boyfriend sucks. đ
Eh, it depends. Does he follow a lot of thirst trap content? Thatâs a no for me.
Does he follow some celebrities and so gets shown good looking women on his feed, alongside other things? Thatâs fine
I just got a glance of a guy’s phone sitting next table in a coffee shop, he started browsing women pictures while his wife went to the bathroom. Instagram or something. I’m glad to be single lol.
it doesn’t mean anything though
social media is just there to be free dopamine
I feel like a lot of us girls also have waaaaaaaaaaaaaay worse shit going on sometimes too, like omg the amount of times I’ve seen freeuse, noncon, sleepsex, hypnotism, ravishment, weird fantasy shit having to do with monster cocks on the feed of other girl’s timelinesÂ
then I look at a guy’s feed and it’s just a Chinese girl in 7 layers of makeup + filters and jumping around in a bikini with a dogÂ
just feels so tame
having fomo and learning to manage the bad feelings from social media doesn’t apply just to yourself. It also applies to what your loved ones are up to.
and you do have to accept just because you are the Hottest Thing Alive doesn’t mean their eyes will only ever look at you. Maybe that is a hard pill to swallow and I am sorry. But looking is completely harmless.
My husbands social media feeds are nothing but cars, computers and funny videos. Not all men are like that.