A guy using his spit as a lubricant has always been a MAJOR turn off for me, but it always seems to surprise them whenever I’ve told them not to do that. I’m sure they learnt it from porn, but I wonder if maybe some people enjoy that.
What’s your take on this? Do you find this repelling or arousing?
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It’s a turn off for me.
I kinda hate it but the guy I’m seeing does it when he goes down on me. Not sure why because I get really wet lol it’s probably something I’ll ask him about if we become official and tell him I’m not into it
Immediately no for me
I’ve never had anyone do that, but without hesitation, it would be a HUGE turn off to the point where we would need to stop intimacy right in that moment.
Immediate big yes for me
Yeah no thanks
Its fine with me…I usually have problem getting wet..so he will wet his fingers with his spit and touch me. I find it hot to be honest. For actual intercourse, we use lube.
It’s an absolute yes for me, personally
Using spit yes, spitting, no
I’m super sensitive to most lube.
Saliva > lube.
For me it is disgusting and degrading, he can go if he thinks I am into that and just does it without asking for consent.
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Very clear NO from me. I’ve also been asked to spit for oral sex and have clearly said I won’t spit on him. They learned that from porn, but I find spitting on someone disgusting. There are many sexier ways to get saliva on a part of the body, besides spitting.
Happy Saturday! Haha
Spitting at/on me? No thanks.
There is no need to use spit but it wouldn’t bother me. We’re doing plenty of filthy things … spit = 🤷🏽♀️
Is it the action itself that bothers you, (spitting on his hand then using it…) or do you also not care for exchanging oral (the thought of spit in general being near your nether regions)?. I don’t think it’s necessarily from watching porn. Maybe it’s just a habit and something he’s always done with past partners? What do they say when you ask them not to do it?
As long as he’s not spitting in my face or in a rude way. If it’s for lubricant, I’m okay with that.
Gross. Also not efficient. Just buy lube! We can hit up a sex store.
Eww, no
Spit is awful lube. And if they don’t know that, then they haven’t had much experience. A man replicating anything he saw in porn on me is a major turnoff.
What’s next? He wants to have sex in the pool because he won’t need to use lube? Lmao.
Nah. It’s not for me. Spit is ineffective lube and it’s just gross.
Depends on the vibe we’ve got going.
No, it’s disgusting.
I have, he asked me to, it was kind of fun.
It makes me wanna vom
Clearly I talk to way too many people about kinks bc I totally thought you meant spitting in somebody’s mouth when I first read the title. And I was coming prepared to be like “it’s not my cup of tea at all, but I know some lovely people who enjoy that and generally try not to kink shame.” 😆
As for using spit as a lubricant, it depends on how it’s done. I will often work up some saliva in my mouth and try to discreetly eject it into my hand if we are having some impromptu road handjob or something where lube isn’t readily available. But I do it as discreetly as possible. If my husband hocked a big juicy loogie into his hand before sex or something, my consent would be withdrawn so fast his head would spin.
The only way I’ve ever done it 🙊
No thank you.
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Gross. I can’t even believe it’s a thing.
as lubricant, fine, spitting *at* me, especially in my face or mouth, is a hard no
Huge turn off. I dont want anybody nasty ass bacteria around my beautiful parts.
They wouldn’t spit on their car, so they can keep that for themselves
It’s a no for me.
Ngl, quite surprised so many here feel so strongly against spit. I prefer it to lube 100%
So gross.
Absolutely repelling.
I don’t mind it as lubricant, but don’t spit anywhere else, I hate that.
I would sooner send my husband to the great big blue sky
I love it
I wouldn’t want someone to spit in my face, but other than that I’m game. But I am admittedly pretty submissive and kinky
ETA: But always ask the first time. Enthusiastic consent is so important
It’s an immediate no, get the fuck off me, for me.
It’s a no for me too. I always assumed they got it from porn.
I wouldn’t just kick him out of bed. I’d straight up kick him out of the house if he even so much as thought about spitting on me.
Gross.
No
Absolutely gross. No thank you. And no judgment of others who enjoy this. Just not for me and certainly not without consent.
Bahhh – yeah, definitely a turn off.
I find spit really gross. It’s also a horrible lubricant, dries everything out way faster.
Nope gross
Yes I think it’s absolutely disgusting!!!!!!! Gross gross gross. Think of that’s in that saliva. Food particles. God knows what else.
Nooooooo. Nooooooooo
Huge turn on. I love saliva. Spit in my mouth.
Yes. And sometimes spit in my fucking MOUTH. I love my man and he loves me and we love to get wild sometimes.
I kinda like it, but it depends on how, exactly, it’s done.
That said, I can completely understand why others wouldn’t. And I’m sorry partners have subjected you to that unwanted.
I don’t like it, because that makes me think they’re assuming I’m dry…I’m not, I’m most never that way, in fact I’ve struggled with having too much fluid most of my life. So no thanks to spit
I personally love it, but I fully get why others wouldn’t. It’s definitely something that needs to be discussed before doing it.
I love it, but I’m also into degrading and all of that 😂
I thought you meant like.. spitting in your mouth, I was like yeah, it’s not for everyone.
No. If he needs to spit on it, we got a problem. It’s definitely from porn. There shouldn’t be any need to use spit as lube if he knows what he’s doing and I want him. The end.
If he’s using spit as lube… its a spit start… he’s helping Jumpstart that dry ass pussy.
If he uses spit to skip over ANY effort to get me wet, im turned off and its a hard stop.
If he’s eating it, and spits back on it YES!
Spitting on his own penis, yes.
Spitting in my mouth has always been a hard no, until this one time, deep in the moment, on some nasty, kinky, yet making love sex, I was down for WHATEVER!
in my mouth, please.
Yes
repelling
Don’t mind it at all
Major turn off. I find it so disgusting, I have no words for it.
Using spit as natural lube is fine with me. Spitting in my face, absolutely not.
Definite turn off,
Yes very sexy
It’s a personal preference; no need to justify what you do/don’t like during sex.
I don’t love it but sometimes it does the trick
Oh no. No no no.
No.
No.
Back in the day one of my previous boyfriends did this, I was like 19 so I didn’t think about it. It was fine then but I wouldn’t do it now with my current partner.
Nope
Spitting on your hand and crankin your hog is a lot different than sensually licking your finger and using the wetness to make touching your partner more gentle with less friction.
Only if it’s on her pussy before I eat her out
Super no. Repelling, nay, repulsive.
I use my own spit 🤷🏻♀️ I’d probably be a little grossed out if he did it instead, but not because it’s “a porn thing” or whatever. Sometimes I just wanna get going and I need a little extra wetness at the entrance
It’s so gross. It honestly makes me stop the action and have a quick talk about boundaries and preferences, since obviously the guy needs a refresher in how to treat other people in sexual situations.
Beyond being gross, it’s not good for your vaginal health. For all I know that guy was munching on candy right before hawking spittle right in my crotch, so now I have to worry about yeast infections, BV, and unbalanced pH? So awful, just because this guy thinks porn is real life.
And don’t even get me started on men who ask you to spit on their dick 😵 Maybe I just hate spit in general. I get nauseous seeing men spit on the sidewalk; this could all just be a me thing.
1000% into it but I am a lesbian so maybe thats different
My initial reaction to this title was “what the fuck.” So yeah no that is disgusting and a huge turn off
Spitting on your hand is one thing, spitting on my vulva is quite another. It gives porn-brained.
Spit is ineffective, also; just use lube ffs!
It’s definitely a major turn off for me. I have lube in the nightstand at all times so that this does not happen. Eating out, fine. But inside of me? No freaking way.
absolutely disgusting!
I don’t really care either way. Not a turn on nor a turn off. 99% of the time I’ll be making my own lubrication in ridiculous amounts, so whether there’s some spit involved as well or not doesn’t make any difference to me. I don’t usually use lube either yeah. It’s good to have in handy just in case though.
Everyone is different. I’m into it. I get why a lot of women/people in general would not be. You have to communicate first always.
When the sex is good the lubricant appears naturally..
Women should respect themselves more and let men cram their peepees in dry hole slathered with spit
Oh…. I kind of love it 🤭
When it comes to spit I always have to ask myself the 5 W’s. Who, What, Where, When & Why?
No, disgusting.
Disgusting. Spit in my mouth, not on my body.
MAJOR MAJOR turnoff. its gross and it smells gross afterwards too
Yes please! Woman or man, yes please.
Ewww, god gave us lube for a reason. Huge turnoff.
There’s a distinction for me. If they’re hawk toohing – absolutely not.
But my partner will lick their hand before penetration or spit a trail of saliva on themselves/me mid way through and that isn’t gross to me, frankly quite the opposite. It’s hot. But there’s no sound with it.
But I also will spit into my hand when giving them a hand job or on it but never with sound. I think it’s the sound that I don’t like, personally.
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I like when guys spit on my face so… 😅 Guess I’m firmly in Team Yes.
Absolutely not.
Depends in the moment, too much is a turn off for me, especially because spit tends to leave an odor when it dries that I find disgusting, but a little bit to use as lube when we are starting is fine
I fucking hate it. This is a big thing in porn so most men think it’s normal.
Using spit? Sure. spitting??? No. ew.
Not interested in anyone spitting on me during sex, nope. No thank you. If someone used a bit of saliva as lubrication that’s not the same thing, go for it I guess, but to the best of my recollection even that’s never happened. I’m not the most vanilla person out there, but spitting is just icky to me, not sexy whatsoever. And even if I wanted it for some reason, I can just picture the look my husband would give me if I asked lol. We’ve talked about how it’s a thing some people are into, and he’s uncomfortable with it and somewhat disgusted too.
Always been baffled by how ubiquitous this, among many other things I just find incredibly degrading, is in porn.
if for some reason I needed help being wet, sure, it’s whatever (I generally have the opposite problem and am usually turned on at inopportune times…. so glad I’m not a dude).
but spitting on me anywhere else? nah.
I’ve never had anyone do it tho. it’s never had to be a stated thing either but I’m pretty sure most guys have known, as kinky as I am, I’ll fucking deck you if you spit in my face—esp if we didn’t talk about it first
Spit as lubricant? Yea sure. I wouldnt say it’s particularly arousing but I prefer that over using messy lube, as it works for me. Spitting in my mouth or on me anywhere other than that specific area? Absolutely not. I’ve always thought it was disrespectful and not the least bit sexy.
Edit: someone else phrased it best for me. Using spit? Yes. Spitting???? No.
Not for me at all
Hard yes in the right context. If we gettin nasty filthy disgusting then by all means, bring the spit, slobber, drool, etc.
If it’s not one of those type of romps, then save it for later.
Definitely no! What even gives men the idea to do that!?
My wife uses her spit
I don’t really mind.
Absolutly not, that’s gross and degrading.
TW: SA
Fuck no. I had a man do that to me when he was SA’ing me. Fucking disgusting and he did it to degrade me.
NO. It makes me gag thinking of the bacteria. 🦠
Personally, spit has a time and a place. I won’t say I’ve never needed it to kick off a sneaky quickie or something, or that I’ve never enjoyed a partner spitting directly on me in a very, very specific context… That said, if someone were to spit directly in my mouth, I would immediately be sick. That is a definite no go for me, and frankly makes me queasy just thinking about it.
It’s not a turn on or off for me, if it’s for lube purposes. When I was younger a little bit of spit for lube was just a normal thing when it was needed and I didn’t mind. I’m older now though, and a little bit of spit just isn’t going to be enough. That’s why I buy lube.
For anything other than lube it’s a hard no.
I love giving sloppy bjs, but I will physically cringe and be done with it if he spits on/at me