Hello there. Just curious about something as I find most people, and especially men, don’t really open up to being lost in life. Or maybe I’m just not talking to the right kind of folks, who knows
I’m 38 years old and only now have I actually realized what I want in life. I’ve never wanted stuff or anything material or any sort of career as I find those things to be empty, for at me at least. Looking back, I had a good career and lifestyle but I felt like I was just going through the motions. Just getting up everyday and running out the clock if that makes sense. And let’s face it, that kind of life is pretty easy. Go to work, the store, to a home someone else built. It’s pretty easy to stay in the lanes and a pretty comfortable setting.
But I never wanted that comfort. I decided to live more with nature and provide for myself by learning to hunt and I’m starting a business of my own that really doesn’t require me to sell anything to the public or anything like that so I feel completely independent, or at least on the path to pure independence.
But what I find is resistance now. Especially from family. That I’m somehow insane for wanting to purely rely on myself and wanting to live a life that I truly value. Has anyone else made significant changes later on in life? How was it? What were some challenges?
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If it’s what you want to do and you think it will make you happy then fuck what everyone thinks and give it a go I say.
That’s basically the same thing the UNABOMBER did so try not to end up with a life sentence
Family can be difficult to navigate when deciding to do something that they would claim “unconventional “.
The normal goal is carrier, home, family etc.
However, if you follow the conventional way you might never be happy, and as long as you draw breath, it is not too late to change something or start something.
Only two things I recommend thinking about is security and future plans.
If you are going to live of the land, alone, you might want to consider some kind of a safety net, never know when you slip on a stone and break something, or if you get sick.
Living of the land is great, when you are healthy, when you get older this might become a struggle.
Don’t let the nei sayers stop you. You got this bby.❤️
My life has been consumed by wife and kids all my adult life 36M atm. It’s hard to know what I want , what I like , who I am outside of my duty of a husband and father – in which I am honored to hold such a position btw..
I’m starting the same journey on finding myself
You might be important to your relatives.
Your new life does not make room for anyone but you.
That is potentially sad. And probably sad for the people who lose you when you disappear in the wilderness.
But if that’s how you can cope, go ahead.
It all really depends on how interconnected you are with everyone. I’ve been living like a phoenix my whole life, just crashing and resurrecting like clockwork, and that’s generally been a lot easier when I was less connected to the people in my life. As the connections in my life grow, I have a lot more to weigh out.
But I will say that people really don’t like radical propositions. In as far as you can help it, most radical change needs to be started before you even say something about it; people shoot you straight down if they think you have your head in the clouds. This is also why managing your family is the critical factor in any life change like that: the people around you are your life, and they don’t want that to change. Naturally, they will resist anything that might take your paths in separate directions.
The only question I have is, when you say “family” do you mean a partner and or children, or do you mean biological family, as in parents and siblings.
Because the first group you have a commitment to, and a responsibility to, especially the children. Parents on the other hand, just want to see you do well. And generally the definition of “well” is the traditional one of job, wife, and all that. So the push back is going to be not surprising, if somewhat annoying.
I’m trying to find myself in my early 30’s and judging by your post and comments my mindset is a lot like yours as far as money, society, and career goes. I very well may end up a mountain man in my mid/late 30’s.
Do what you need to do man. The way this society works, people will always try to bring you to their level if they’re wired into the matrix (not better or worse, just same level).
Just do what you need to do, you can always come back with more wisdom and experience if it doesn’t work out. Worst case scenario you find out more about who are you and what you want and end up having to reintegrate but with a fresh perspective. You could also get eaten by a bear but I mean fuck I think it’s more likely a person get in a car crash than that.
Everyone lives a “cushy nerf life” so it’s natural for them to want you to live one too.