Im moving to Japan alone for 6 months for school today ( literally in the airport now) I’ve been working for this for the last year and have been very excited, Im 19m and have never lived alone or been without my family Iam very close with them even on few week trips I get kinda homesick, and today when I said goodbye and started getting ready to leave it started hitting me like a truck and I don’t want to say that I regret my decision cause I’m still very excited and want to do a lot but I kind of have a guilt about leaving my family especially my little brothers, and this might be morbid but more then all Im scared someone in my family could die when I’m gone, I know 6 months isn’t super long but I’m pretty scared. Idk if it’s just because I’m now leaving and it’ll get better the more Im out or if it’ll get worse the longer Im away
I’d really appreciate anything I just feel like I may be having some separation anxiety
Thank you all for any advice
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This is just nerves that you’ll have to power through. And you should expect some bouts of homesickness to hit you while you’re over there, too. It’s all part of the growing up process, you’ll get through it.
Hope you have a great semester
This feeling will pass, and come and go. Enjoy the journey. Put energy into building relationships and seeing the country while you’re there. Don’t waste it. And your family is just a phone call away.
Focus on the ‘why’ you want to be there and your goals rather than why you shouldn’t. You’re going to be dealing with a complete culture shock, language, and it will absolutely feel lonely at times. If it’s to learn Japanese, enjoy the culture, or even meet someone special, take as much time to do those outside of studies.
Do you have a community of people that speak English? If not, find one asap as friends to lean on when you’re feeling at your lowest. This is an experience of a lifetime! Enjoy it.
Google “how to manage intrusive thoughts” and see what techniques resonate for you.
You’re catastrophizing by spinning out to the point you’re imaging in something happening to your family.
You have control over your thoughts.
You haven’t even started your decision to have regrets over it.