So, I’ve had step parents my entire life. I’ve never known my parents as a couple. I was a “let’s try and work it out” baby, and in those 9 months they figured out that wasn’t an option.
Anyway, I say that to say, I’ve known my step mom pretty much my entire life. She and I bumped heads occasionally, but for the most part we got along. I haven’t always had the best relationship with my bio mom, so there was a point that step mom and I really bonded.
Fast forward to today, my dad died 8 years ago. It was awful; he was in a car crash, and it was gruesome. He was pretty young, only 55. He spent three weeks fighting for his life before we finally made the choice to unplug him.
During that time my step mom acted a plum fool. There’s too many things to name, but just know I’m still therapy because of everything that went down. After my dad’s funeral, I told her I needed space, but said I’d be ready to talk after a few weeks. I was willing to chalk her behavior up to suddenly becoming a widow and single mom to my young brother.
Weeks turned into months of not speaking. I was working through my grief, but I’d send check in texts To make sure they were ok.
One day out the blue, my teenage brother contacts me to say he’s been left alone for weeks, and had run out of food.
Stepmom had rekindled her relationship with her high school sweetheart, and moved into his place. Her new husband didn’t want my brother around, so she left him.
I went and got him, and eventually gained custody of him. It was whole ordeal. This was about 6 years ago.
I haven’t spoken to her since.
I’ve had two children since then, and my little brother is an adult living his life.
She for the longest time has been trying to contact my eldest child. When my dad was still alive, she was grandma. I made no distinction between my bio and step parents in that arena. She has a weird infatuation with my daughter who’s now a teenager, and doesn’t even remember her. She’s sent her birthday gifts and letters in an attempt to build the relationship again. I’ve told her on several occasions not to contact me or my kids.
Recently, she saw my daughter has a Facebook profile, and tried to message her. I’m livid. My daughter blocked her and alerted me right away, thank goodness. I’m just so tired of her. She didn’t fight this hard for her own child, but is somehow desperate to be around mine?! Also, she’s never met my younger two, but I have an older son as well that she knew. She weirdly doesn’t even acknowledge his existence. All of her weird stalking is focused on my daughter.
This was super long, but I just needed to get it out somewhere. Thanks for reading
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She’s trying to contact the kids who don’t know her as the horrible human she is.