I’ve been seeing a girl for about 2 months. Sleeping together. Talking every day etc. I haven’t been seeing others since about the 4th date.
But. When I asked her a few weeks ago what she wants she said she ‘isn’t ready for commitment yet. Needs to get to know me better first. Thinks it could/would go that way if we keep seeing eachother and she really likes me’.
I get that. But we haven’t had any chats about exclusivity. And some girls on hinge are keen for dates. I’m wondering if it would be good for me to keep seeing others. Even if just first dates. To stop me being blinded. Because I’m still not sure myself if this girl is my future wife.
But also unsure if it’s appropriate.
Thoughts?
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She told you she’s not ready to commit. You’re under no obligation to give her commitment
If she is still seeing others this far into dating, I’d walk. You obviously don’t have what’s she’s looking for and she is still shopping around. And likely sleeping around.
In any case, dating/ sleeping with multiple people at once isn’t my style, so I would dip for that fact alone.
She’s not ready to commit, don’t put yourself in a waiting position
Is she still dating other people? You need to clarify that.
You can express expectations and what you find acceptable and unacceptable at the start. You need to clearly ask her.
if she told me she wasn’t ready for commitment, I wouldnt even look at her as a future long term partner anymore.
Or you could simply talk to her about exclusivity and see where you guys are and if your on the same page. Not ready for a full blown relationship and being exclusive can be separate.