Hi everyone,
I (28F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (30M) for about a year now. Recently, we decided to move in together after dating long-distance for most of that time. While I’m excited about this new chapter, I’ve noticed that the dynamics between us have changed quite a bit, and I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed.
Before moving in, we used to talk daily and share everything comfortably. Now, it feels like we’re constantly on different pages. He’s more quiet and withdrawn, especially after work, and I’m struggling to find the right way to express how I’m feeling without causing tension or arguments. I want us to have open communication, but I worry that I’m coming off as too demanding or making him feel pressured.
I’ve tried sitting down and gently bringing up the issue, but he usually brushes it off or changes the subject. I don’t want to push him away, but I also don’t want to bottle up my feelings.
Have any of you experienced a similar shift after moving in together? How did you manage to improve communication without making things worse? I want this to work and for us to grow closer, but I’m not sure how to navigate this phase.
Thanks in advance for any advice or perspectives you can share.
TL;DR: Moved in with my boyfriend after long-distance dating. Communication has become strained, and I’m struggling to express my feelings without causing tension. Looking for advice on improving communication and reconnecting.
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ngl this is super common when u move in together. long distance is like highlight reel vibes but living together is full season no edits. give him space but also set a vibe where convos happen naturally not forced.
0 to 100 over night will do that. Only a year together and mostly long distance…youtwo don’t even know each other on that kind of level. Basically strangers yet lovers living together. I’d lose my mind inthis situation. I’d feel trapped and lost with no independence. I would need space too.
You guys should have dated and spent time in each other’s daily lives for another year before deciding to move in together. To learn eachother and see if you’re actually compatible to be together and share a life and living space.
Now that it’s done, I think you need to just chill out and get used to the dynamic and see if you get closer and he gets more open over time as he gets more comfortable.