for context he is now my current bf M’25’ and I F’29’ am currently in a relationship now but I just want to get advice on this past situation because to this day I think about what happened. Before we started officially dating we were in the “talking stage for 3 months but spent a lot of time together.
There was this party that his friends girlfriend was hosting. Me and her had some issues in the past but have since been resolved and I have no problems with her now . He told me about her upcoming party but never once asked if I wanted to go. That day rolls around and him and my brother go.
My brother and I are talking and he tells me to come, but I tell him my bf never invited me and I ask him who’s all there. He tells me the names of people and one of them is a girl he used to hook up with and a girl he once hit on among a bunch of other people. I don’t really feel go comfortable with the situation but he has told me that they are just cool acquaintances now and she has a bf.
He is also with my brother and my brother is the most loyal brother I could ever ask for so he would never keep anything from me. Anyways I get upset and tell my brother he didn’t invite me ect and my bf immediately calls me saying he didn’t invite me because he didn’t want it to be awkward for me because he knows the past I had with this girl , that and I sort of said I wasn’t interested at first.
However, I still wish he asked him ( which I know I am in the wrong for saying I wasn’t interested). He gets upset at me saying this reminded him of his ex being upset at him for going out. And to be honest, I didn’t care at all until I heard who was all there it made me uncomfortable.
We end up having a conversation at the beach and he is really upset that I reacted the way I did and that I was upset that I wasn’t invited. He said he was going to there Airbnb to hangout and asked if I was going and that I didn’t have to if it made me uncomfortable. Personally it didn’t and I would go to hangout with him. I asked him if he wanted me to , he said not really because he was upset and he felt like he was just knit picking me for little things right now as well because of his mood.
So I go to drop him off and I’m a bit upset, but head home. I tell him I can pick him up later if he wants by txt and he said no that he is going to stay the night and come back in the morning because he’s drinking.
Later find out it’s because he doesn’t want to be around me still because he was upset. I’m upset because that house is full of girls who are known to be promiscuous. Not to mention the girl that he used to hookup with was there but with her bf. The entire situation made me extremely uncomfortable. After talking about why him staying there made me uncomfortable, he said that if I trusted him there shouldn’t be an issue. I get that , but I also have boundaries
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TL;DR I’m not sure if I should be upset.