Subtle gold digger behavior? / I see what my girlfriend likes on social media and it bothers me

Hey everyone, I am in a long distance relationship and have been for nearly two months now. Before that, we met online and have been talking since early December 2024. I am an American (30M) and she is a Brazilian (26F). We met in person for about 5 days in California and it was an amazing trip, and I asked her to be my girlfriend there. And I also told her I love her. Which was all reciprocated. She plans to stay with me for a month in August later this year. I thought I would just give some details on where we are in the relationship.

Anyway, I sometimes see what she likes on Instagram and her reposts on Tik Tok. It makes me feel like a stalker to constantly look at what she is liking so I’m already not proud of that. It is a mixture of fashion, recipes, religious Bible quotes, wholesome family moment-type stuff. But then a portion of what she likes is “be spoiled by your man” type posts. Like, rich girls not having to work and have their man be a provider and buy them new cars, fly them around the world, and things like that. We both believe in traditional roles of men and women, but when I see the particular content, it seems materialistic, shallow, and rude in its presentation. An example account is certifiedluckygal on Instagram. Some of those posts seem very (and I hate using this phrase because it’s loaded), but I can’t get around using it: gold digger. It makes me really anxious to see her liking things like that, but I rationalize and tell myself it’s an exaggerated form of a woman wanting a man to provide for her.. or idk.

All of this said, she has truly shown me no reason to worry in our relationship. She does not ask for money or ask for things. The only other hurdles I have about our relationship is that she likes Receiving Gifts as her love language (not a problem by itself but fuels my gold digger fears), and she told me her past boyfriends treated her extremely well, like a princess. She also at times says she supports me and my career growth, and says she always wants me to grow in my career. Okay so as I’m writing this it sounds awful, but as you can see each of these things feed into each other – all to boil down to the underlying fear of: does she just want me to use me for my money? Which I am not a rich person, or a poor person. I make $70k a year so not terrible but not great.

How can I stop obsessing over this? We have talked about it before and we always leave the conversation happy and healthy. But my anxiety keeps bringing me back here. Please help!

Sorry for the rambling, and if you made it this far. Thank you so much for reading. Your help and advice would be much appreciated.

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TD;LR My girlfriend likes questionable content. I’m afraid she is a subtle gold digger. It causes me anxiety