My (M) coworker (F) had suddenly started giving me the cold shoulder out of nowhere a few days ago.
So about a month ago my coworker approached me (I’m the quiet guy at work and don’t initiate conversation) and we have been talking ever since. She even started inviting me to sit next to her during work, most of our talk would revolve around work but I would sometimes ask her about things like her hobbies and stuff.
But then suddenly in the middle of the shift a few days she started giving me the cold shoulder, when I asked her a few work related questions she just said she didn’t know coldly and stopped even making eye contact.
The next day she did not greet me and even gave me a weird side eye look, I went and said hi and she just gave me a dead hi back. At first I thought maybe she was going through something but she has been interacting with others just fine so I have no idea.
I’ve just started ignoring her back at this point because I’ve only been talking to her for a month and honestly it is just kind of weird but I am still curious as to why this might have happened. Did I ask her too many questions or something? I do have aspergers so perhaps there was some sort of miscommunication somewhere?
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She might have come to the conclusion that her affability with you was leading you to think there might be potential for a romantic relationship, of which she does not seem to actually want. Thus she’s gone cold to avoid any awkward conversations
That’s super confusing, her sudden switch makes no sense if she’s fine with everyone else.
I’d suggest saying to her that you noticed a change in her behavior toward you, and ask if you may have somehow offended her to cause the change. Sometimes a simple misunderstanding can escalate as neither side understands what the other is frustrated about. It’s ok to ask if you did something that triggered a change of behavior in others.
Sometimes we can be blunt or just not realize in the moment how our actions are perceived by others( versus our intent)
Workplace drama as usual. Try talking to her directly and ask if it was something you said or did. If that doesn’t work, try to get a manager to help. Otherwise best to let it go. You can’t go around convincing everyone you mean well.