I’ll start. I recently took a shot (kind of) with my gym crush and got rejected… twice. Because once just wasn’t humbling enough 😀
Let me take you back to December, when I met this guy. Around my age (late 20’s), cute, seemed like the quiet type. He’d come up to chat about the weather or gym equipment. Very random, but I found it sweet. He wouldn’t talk to anyone else, so I thought MAYBE he was a little into me? He smiled, made sure not to leave without saying goodbye…
After our last face-to-face conversation, I started building the courage to ask for his Instagram. But he stopped attending the gym for weeks, or at least he didn’t come at our usual time. One day, his profile popped up on IG so I sent him a follow request, which he later rejected. He followed me, tho. Maybe he pressed the wrong button? I shot him a message, “Hey! I’m Lou from the gym. Your profile popped up as a suggestion. I haven’t seen you in a while, are you still going there? :)” He went, “You took me for dead already? lol.”
So no, not dead. That’s good.
We ended up texting the entire day. He was funny, easy to talk to. The next day, he was the one to message first. All good. At one point, I casually mentioned that I wasn’t following him (you know, in case he thought I’d unfollowed). He said he didn’t know what had happened, that he had accepted my request the first time, and told me to send it again. So I did.
He never accepted me. In fact, he actively REJECTED my request AGAIN after a whole month (this happened a week ago). I found out as I was checking old notifications. But here’s the twist: he was still following me, so I removed him from my followers list. A bit petty, yes. But I thought it was weird of him to have access to my stuff but not let me see his. Was I feeling rejected? Yes. Confused? Absolutely. Still holding out hope for a gym buddy/date situation? Sure. But I figured he was probably seeing someone or just not interested. Some of you will say, “perhaps he likes privacy on social media, just for close family/friends.” You have a point. But he’s got +400 followers. I doubt he’s close with all those 400 people.
But today… exactly one week after the second rejection… He texted me.
“Are you still attending the gym? haha.”
Sir. SIR. You don’t get to reject me TWICE and then pop back up like nothing! I’m limited edition. Lmao.
Anyway. I will probably not respond, just because I’m not as interested as before. Any thoughts? And I’d love to read your personal stories too, so that I feel less alone 🥲
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I’ll start. I recently took a shot (kind of) with my gym crush and got rejected… twice. Because once just wasn’t humbling enough 😀
Let me take you back to December, when I met this guy. Around my age (late 20’s), cute, seemed like the quiet type. He’d come up to chat about the weather or gym equipment. Very random, but I found it sweet. He wouldn’t talk to anyone else, so I thought MAYBE he was a little into me? He smiled, made sure not to leave without saying goodbye…
After our last face-to-face conversation, I started building the courage to ask for his Instagram. But he stopped attending the gym for weeks, or at least he didn’t come at our usual time. One day, his profile popped up on IG so I sent him a follow request, which he later rejected. He followed me, tho. Maybe he pressed the wrong button? I shot him a message, “Hey! I’m Lu from the gym. Your profile popped up as a suggestion. I haven’t seen you in a while, are you still going there? :)” He went, “You took me for dead already? lol.”
So no, not dead. That’s good.
We ended up texting the entire day. He was funny, easy to talk to. The next day, he was the one to message first. All good. At one point, I casually mentioned that I wasn’t following him (you know, in case he thought I’d unfollowed). He said he didn’t know what had happened, that he had accepted my request the first time, and told me to send it again. So I did.
He never accepted me. In fact, he actively REJECTED my request AGAIN after a whole month (this happened a week ago). I found out as I was checking old notifications. But here’s the twist: he was still following me, so I removed him from my followers list. A bit petty, yes. But I thought it was weird of him to have access to my stuff but not let me see his. Was I feeling rejected? Yes. Confused? Absolutely. Still holding out hope for a gym buddy/date situation? Sure. But I figured he was probably seeing someone or just not interested. Some of you will say, “perhaps he likes privacy on social media, just for close family/friends.” You have a point. But he’s got +400 followers. I doubt he’s close with all those 400 people.
But today… exactly one week after the second rejection… He texted me.
“Are you still attending the gym? haha.”
Sir. SIR. You don’t get to reject me TWICE and then pop back up like nothing! I’m limited edition. Lmao.
Anyway. I will probably not respond, just because I’m not as interested as before. Any thoughts? And I’d love to read your personal stories too, so that I feel less alone 🥲
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He seems like either a player, socially awkward or just a complete douchbag.
You either persevere and find out he’s the lesser of those evils or cut your losses because you realise it will be a bumpy ride.