Your Story
Call it a confession if you will.
Have you ever dated someone whom parents did not approve of your relationship and you ended the relationship due to it?
How have you been after that situation? Are you married? Divorced? Happily together with a new partner?
Do you think about that person from time to time? Are there any regrets some days, but acceptance in others?
I’ll share a small story.
I dated my first high school love and her parents didn’t approve of me. Of course I was young and still trying to get my life together (going to school and working full time). I was a pretty good child growing up. Never got into trouble with anything or anyone and I was that student who did very well academic and career. I have high values in family and I supported myself financially pretty much after I was able to work because my mom was a single mom.
Y’all might be wondering why? I seem like the perfect person. Well it was because I identified as LGBT person and well, she didn’t want that for her daughter.
Anyways after a while it became stressful. She took a break from me for a year or two and dated her boyfriend (now husband) a week after we ended things.
At one point, a month before her marriage we tried to work things out, but me being the older me realize that love isn’t paying the bills and in addition I should probably focus on my academics and career. So after it didn’t work out, a month later she gotten married.
A few years later I finally confessed to her my struggles at the time after she was married. Of course to also congrats her marriage. We both just kind of accepted that that was the situation and that there was nothing that could have been done. But she did confess that she thought about me and did have a lot of feelings but when we didn’t work out the first time, she gave up hope. She also told me that her mom was making her choose between her and I, and she loved her family too. But then she told me that her mom, though at first accepted her husband, later on disrespected her husband and sort of refused to acknowledge him when he comes over. Her husband never found out we had a thing again just before their marriage, and yes they ended up getting married young like in the early 20s.
I mean thinking of it now, I dodge a bullet from her mom. She was just a really mean toxic person. LBVS. She gotten in a argument with my mom trying to tell my mom I’m gay but my mom at the time just didn’t care except that I was safe. Sometimes I don’t think I would have been able to even deal with it even now. She was really mean to even her kids and I’m talking about abuse. I wouldn’t want a MIL like that if my mom is kind and supportive.
But there are days when I do think what would have happened if it all worked out. And of course these thoughts comes by after I have a really good career and reached my goals I aimed to achieve. Sometimes I feel happy that it didn’t work, some days not so much. And I’m not sure if it’s because of the talk we had after she gotten married.
Anyways not to bored you all with the details. Please try to be respectful with your comments. But I would love to hear your story.
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