Telling someone straight feels far better and is easier than ghosting someone.

People say that the primary reason for others ghosting is because they feel like it’s the easiest and most efficient way of going about things because they feel guilt or simply believe it’s the most efficient just because but that’s bullshit and realistically a lot of y’all have some level of a fear of communication, or worse. Considering it’s so common, I can only assume this is an unpopular opinion. I don’t care if I have known you for a day, a week, a month or however else long. I’m going to tell you straight if you’re not my type and I don’t feel like we’re compatible.

Within the past two months I’ve told two different people straight up, then deleted them, there’s no point in talking about it further if I don’t like you like that, a simple explanation then I’m gone. No wasting time, no bullshitting, no making them wonder or try to contact you asking why. I’d much rather this approach on me as well if someone didn’t like me, yet it’s been an uncommon occurrence from mine and other people’s experience it appears.

It just feels better to simply do it, and it doesn’t matter how short of a time you’ve known them. It shows you have good communication skills, it shows you’re stable enough in your brain to easily tell someone something, it shows you have good navigation skills within your relationships, it puts it out there that know what you like and you don’t like very clearly, it shows you’re not a coward, and it shows you’re kinder instead of using the cop out of “they’re sensitive if they can’t take it”. Okay baby, tell me you don’t got common courtesy without telling me. That person actually might have really liked you and thought things were going okay. It’s better to tell them than to have them wondering wtf happened. It doesn’t feel awkward at all, it feels pretty great knowing you let that person know straight up and both of you can move past it now, and it is the most easiest and efficient way of doing things.