Hello!
I am living in
Location: Dallas, TX
but my case is in Fort Worth. I need advice, I don’t have much time as my court hearing is on the 11th. I have a disability; I will briefly explain below.
So to cut it short; I just escaped with my son who’s about 3 years old from a very abusive relationship in our home at Fort Worth. I am staying now with my family back in Dallas, Tx.
My ex wasn’t too happy about that, and began to hold it against me and also did not allow me to return back to Fort Worth to recover my assets and property as a way to basically punish us for leaving him in the first place. I didn’t want any problems, didn’t call the cops, and tried to do things in peace but my ex began to really hold it against me.
As the rightful father of our son, regardless of the family violence we went through with him, he managed to raise a case against me for a restraining order custody case to recover his son, claiming all sorts of other things and how he wants me to pay him full price for child support (I have no work; not employed. Will mention why in a bit), and even added that if I die, he wants me to pay him all money possible and wants full custody over our son.
Now, while this is what he did, he failed to mention many other details to the court judge. And this included that I, as the mother of our son he’s fighting for in this case, has Cancer.
He also failed to mention anything with family violence. He also failed to mention he makes $150k a year, and that he restrained me and kept me from working for approximately 3-4 years, isolated us from any contact outside that house we lived alone with our son. He would starve us, often times ordering takeout for himself alone and would disappear in the same house for days on end without ever checking in on us.
The factor alone with the Cancer was caused by his heavy second hand smoking of substances like Delta, CBD & marijuana, in which he’d keep at hands reach of his son without ever even caring if he would accidentally grab these things.
He had also kept me from ever getting urgent medical attention because he also been taking and stealing my prescribed medications (for ADHD; Adderall) and knew it was wrong and had held it against me in a way by assaulting me if I didn’t give that to him. So he suspected that if my unknown illness had to do with that variable alone, he didn’t want to get into trouble if I reported that or others found out. While I later got diagnosed with Cancer, at the time he thought this was some sort of thyroid disease.
Now, it gets difficult in the sense that in order to also prove family violence, the court requests proof over that. I don’t have much, but back in 2022, he had attempted to strangle me and I don’t know exactly how I got out of that, all I recall was standing and seemed refuge for a moment alone in the bathroom, but I was alive. He had every intention that day to kill me over the argument that he had been assaulting and torturing out beloved pet at the time, and he didn’t like that I questioned him about it and tried to intervene his brutal physical blows to this little dog.
I developed fear, I tried my best to never anger him but at times failed to do so.
The recent time he’d gotten physical was back in January 14 & 16.
Now, I am also going to mention that he had told me before he had gotten locked up in a behavioral Hospital when he’d been admitted by his own mother who was scared of him, and was apparently diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder but refused to acknowledge that and stopped taking medications.
Now the reason I brought this up is because all the other times he’d charge me and his son, or would begin to experience moments of increased paranoia or mania, he’d become very violent and believed whatever he thought was going on to be there.
I wasn’t always linking that to his behavior because I wasn’t certain since he technically only mentioned that illness and I didn’t see actual medications as he’d stopped taking that so long ago before we met.
But well, I know my case is difficult because I also have now a disability that’s life threatening.
I don’t have any of my IDs and Socials because he held that against me to go pick it up in order to waste the little time I have to get treatment for this cancer which I’m in the fourth year out of the five year survival rate after diagnoses.
I really care for my son, and made the decision to step away from his father because I do know he’s a dangerous person and has attempted to kill. I might slightly however not have the mentality to want to go against him or any of it as I wanted peace, but I do also want him to seek help and get it sorted out. I just don’t know what else to do in this case, I’m also in constant pain and needing treatment but I’m scared to go back, in case he doesn’t something; I don’t want to have any surprises pulled against me or his son.
I need more time as well, I’m not sure if I’m able to request that.