Temporary wobble/Mil still wants to send gifts.

I’ve been doing so well in regards to being NC with Mil and felt like I had come to accept that she will never apologise and therefore the situation we are in will not improve until she does.
But the other day I had a massive wobble and a huge cry.

I am 8months pregnant with LO2 so I know pregnancy hormones are in full effect.
I feel silly because I was crying after DH told me his mother had bought our LO1 (who’s birthday is very soon) a personalised licence plate (I think its in email certificate, so not a physical gift).

( think it’s a bit of a silly gift as LO is a toddler and in 15 years time when LO is old enough to drive DH isn’t going to remember he even has this email lol)

But I think im just frustrated and tired, I’ve said more than once to DH that I don’t want to accept gifts from his mother but even my family think accepting gifts from her for our child is fine. I just feel like it’s her trying to manipulate us or our LO once she’s older. Or so mil can still pretend to other people shes a loving parent & grandparent giving gifts.

I may be over thinking it but I think Mil did the License plate thing so that once our LO is 18 it will possibly open up communication between them if this situation never gets resolved.

Mil also knows she isn’t allowed to turn up unannounced at our home anymore, to leave gifts on our doorstep. So this virtual gift, to me, comes across as her, again not listening or respecting what we say, or trying to get around what we said. But it feels like im the only one that sees it.

We’ve been NC for about 9/10 months and in the beginning DH offered for all 3 of us to sit down and discuss the situation and to hopefully squash any issues but MIl said no everytime.
She’s had the opportunity to reconcile with us, and that’s whats partly upset me also . We are open to mature conversation and ironing out any issues but mil isn’t, but then still wants to send gifts when she could just be a present supportive parent to her only child & her grandchildren, but for some reason she doesn’t want that.

And the fact that we are having another baby that she also will not know hasn’t even encouraged her to make up with us or even just start a conversation to move forward.
I know it’s just a temporary wobble I’m having, probably brought on by pregnancy hormones and feeling some stress over preparing for this new baby and organising our LO’s birthday celebrations as my therapist has said shes seen alot of improvement in the way I’m approaching things. But I just needed to share on here because it can feel so lonely when other people dont really get it.