People set their expectations too high already in the dating world. I believe that the idea of soulmates sets expectations too high and that people often times ignore good opportunities for relationships in search of their soulmates. The idea perpetuates an idea of a perfect person who was always meant to be with you. In my mind this does more harm than good. If you set your expectations too high you will lose many opportunities. The idea of soulmates itself suggests that there is a single person out there in the world who is perfectly suited to us, almost as if some cosmic force has predestined us to find this one individual.
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That’s sort of a misunderstanding of the concept. A soulmate is someone you find yourself with in every life, so you develope a seemingly unbreathable bond with them. It doesn’t have to be romantic, and it doesn’t have to be just one person.
I agree. That is what made me stay in an abusive relationship. I thought he was my soul mate.
Is there someone out there who is the most compatible person for you? Yes. Are they nearby you and can be reasonably found? Unlikely. Soulmates are nice in theory and in romcoms but it’s a dangerous gamble in real life.