My roommate (M26) is friends with this girl (F 23) and I (M26) usually hangout with them and other friends, me and her relate with each other a lot. I do art she also likes it and we started to do projects together thats how we bonded, eventually we started dating it went on for like 4 months we weren’t officially in a relationship.
One day my roommate called me he asked me to come to a random cafe she was also there, then they told me that they were hooking up this whole time even before I know her, now she wants out and she is telling me that she wants wants to be with me .
Forgiving her is the right thing to do?
Is it cheating because we weren’t technically In a relationship
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Yeah you dont forgive this one, honestly cut contact with both
Not cheating technically but 4 months is a while man. Sounds like she was playing both sides. You can do better.
No forgiving for either one of them! Does not sound like girlfriend Material and even worse friend! They should have told you this long ago and maybe even before you had interest in the girl. Technically, it’s not cheating, but it’s really not right either. They will continue hooking up. If you have the means to, I’d walk away from both and separate myself completely
Even if you don’t do that, tread lightly with both. Good luck
Does it matter? You wanna keep dating a girl who fucked your roommate for 4 months?
Yeah, they both suck.
It’s technically not cheating but it was not ok either way.
Come on. She’s not worth it. She cheated for months. Get tested and move on.
Breakup.
I mean if she’s doing that now, who’s going to stop her from doing it again with other people if yall get in a relationship?
Slap the hell out of dude and find a new roommate bro cuz you don’t wanna live with someone who would look you in the eye and lie to you about sm like that. Neither of them respect you.
What’s left if anything with her is a MMF Threesome. Rail them both and call it a wrap, assuming you’re bi and don’t mind banging a males butt.
She’s not yours, it’s just your turn. (Literally) 🤣
Pull your self up and move on. Ghost immediately.
Don’t even consider being with her. Man up bro!! You got this.
Move on bro
Did you ever discuss with her that you expect her to be faithful to you?
Was there ever the expectation of fidelity?
If not, you have no reason to expect she would be. Ask her straight up, if she would be faithful.
Ultimately, it’s up to you, but if you never expressed your desire for her to be monogamous you expect her to be.