I (27F) am supposed to be a bridesmaid in my high school friends(28F) wedding later this year. We’ve been friends for over a decade we have been pretty close over the years, group events, group chat messaging 24/7, dinners and parties, things like that.
Lately though, our political differences have been showing. I lean pretty liberal and value empathy, and basic human rights and myself as a minority have to stay current on changes. She’s very conservative, Fox News in the background while cooking kind of conservative, and her fiancé is the same way. To keep things peaceful, we’ve just silently agreed not to talk politics.
So here’s where things got weird. I was trying to make a custom gift for them on Etsy that needed a picture of the couple, so I went to find one on both hers and his Facebook. It’s when I went looking for his and couldn’t find his account. Same thing on Instagram. I figured maybe he deleted his socials.
Later I mentioned it to my husband, and he proceeds to show me a post the fiancé made that day. So, he didn’t delete anything. He just blocked me.
Now I’m sitting here confused on what did I even do? I barely interact with him. We went to high school together, ran in the same circles. I’m guessing he didn’t like something I posted (I do share current events/political stuff but nothing aggressive or directed at anyone). I’m super mindful that coworkers and family follow me, so I’m not out here being unhinged on the timeline.
But if he felt that strongly about it, enough to block me entirely instead of just muting or unfollowing , does he even want me in the wedding? In their forever wedding photos? It just feels off.
I’ve been debating whether I should bring it up to my friend or just ignore it and keep it civil. But realistically, if he blocked me, I’m sure there’s already been convos between the two of them. I just feel awkward now and that maybe the only reason she hasn’t told me to step out of the wedding is because the money I have put in for the dress, bachelorette party, bridal shower, and my assistance the day of.
Do I say something or just show up in the matching dress and smile for the photos?