We’ve all seen it. It’s been done over and over. I genuinely don’t understand why people think it’s romantic or cute, when it’s really just cringey. Personally, if I were rambling or talking and someone interrupted me with a kiss, I’d feel like they actually didn’t care at all about me or what I was saying. Plus, it’s just an awkward thing to watch on TV or in movies and needs to be retired.
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One of my more hated tropes as well.
Definitely needs to be retired. It isn’t cute at all. 😭
The one rambling is supposed to be anxious because they have a crush on the kisser. The kisser cures the anxiety by kissing the rambler.
I think that sounds rather lovely, and OP sounds rather grumpy.
Bet those same people will wonder why you think it’s just cringy.
“Aww I love her so much I don’t even care about what she’s saying” sounds healthy
It’s either that a good firm schlapp when they can’t leave it alone.
Maybe we should start kissing Redditors who do unnecessary rants disguised as opinions. KISSESSSSS.
I can’t recall ever seeing this except in a situation where the person rambling is clearly trying to work up the nerve to initiate the kiss themselves.
Do you know what rambling means?
It can be cringey but the context matters a lot. Saying it’s universally cringey is not true.
If someone I’m with is rambling too much (I love talkative ppl but rambling is dif) that’s kinda a turn off more than it is something that would make me wanna kiss them lol
The trope consists of a character kissing someone who is nervous, as expressed by the rambling, and the kiss, widely considered a nice thing, calms them down.
I have never ever seen a version of it, where the kiss interrupted someone who had something important to say.
Though it would make a funny parody of the trope.
Anyway, the kiss isn’t to stop them talking. It’s to calm them and ground them. They’re not saying anything, they’re not talking. They’re rambling. They’re expressing feeling insecure verbally.
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Can’t imagine this ever working outside of romance literature (or media)
Or scripted couples recording themselves online lmao
had someone do this to me once. Made me soooo pissed
One time I was giving a speech and a guy started eating my ass. And I just froze up.
>> “We’ve all seen it”
We have ?
Where ?
The one time I can think of that this happened was on Glee, where Finn kissed Emma when she was anxious and rambling. Dude did it because he was used to it with his girlfriend, and acted on impulse. It wasn’t about interrupting her, it was about trying to keep her from a complete meltdown in the only way he knew how. In likelihood, that’s probably the main reason people do it.
Nah. Good memories.
As someone who is a verbal processor and can come off as rambling at times, from experience I can tell you this is a good way to stop the flow of unnecessary words from my mouth.
The only time I have seen it was when the two people involved in the kiss had either already established a relationship. The kiss was done when one person was rambling do to high anxiety for a given situation and their partner kissed them to calm their mind and show support. Wasnt a big make out scene or anything over the top. Just a quick kiss, divert the over thinking person mind and move on. Which as someone with anxiety, if my partner did that I would think it was sweet. And I would feel more confident knowing I had their trust and support.
The other time it was in a romcom type genre. Both people had clear and obvious attraction at the end of an early date. But one person was rambling, again over anxiety when saying good by and trying to work up the nerve to kiss the other themselves. So the other just took the lead and did it themselves. Again, I an appreciate the sentiment. And I dont think there is anything wrong as long as it is done tastefully. But if OP wants to work themselves into a tizzy because someone care for them. Well so be it.
As the writer of romances, it’s the mechanics of it that seem implausible. In the few cases I’ve gone there, the kisser generally puts their finger to the babbler’s lips before going in for the kiss.
it pisses me off so much, especially when they’re talking about something a little more serious or whatever. if someone kisses me whilst i’m the middle of talking, i will be annoyed and i will bring it up
This is exactly how I got my first real girlfriend. I was 14 years old, we dated for 5 years afterwards. I’m 38 years old now and I STILL cringe over it if it ever pops back into my head, like right now.
>We’ve all seen it.
No, actually we all haven’t.
It took me far too long to realize how many TV/film writers are basically trying to re-write their own story into what they wish had happened to them. Makes for a lot of r/menwritingwomen fodder.
my bf did this to me one time like a month into dating and I think about it all the time it was actually really nice 🙂 (I was rambling because I was nervous)
If you’re rambling to the point that your partner feels the need to do that then you’re either making them cringe, or you’re irritating them.
My very first kiss was her interrupting my awkward babbling. Would I recommend it for a first kiss? No, but I don’t think I regret it either. Lord knows I wasn’t gonna make a move
I see what you’re saying, it’s done terribly in a lot of media. But if a character is spiraling, and word vomiting through anxiety, I think it can be a sweet way to end the spiral and evoke a sweet emotional response. Now, the characters need to have obvious romantic chemistry/history for it to work, if not, yeah, cringe.
You are clearly missing the point. This mostly just happens in movies/shows and it’s someone being awkward talking to their crush, trying to build up the courage to make the move.
This happened to me irl. Yes I did stop rambling but I also got raging mad and started crying. I can assure you it doesn’t work and if you try to do it you’ll extremely regret it.
Nah.
I’m a sucker for a romance movie where one of them is rambling on about thier feelings and the other plants a smooch on them.
I’m not ashmed, it’s cute.
I kiss my partner while he’s talking. It’s not that I’m not listening or to shut him up. It’s just that in the course of looking at his face while listening, I’m drawn to it and want a kiss. It is that simple. And once it’s taken, I can happily resume the listening.
I think the first time it happened, he did think I was shutting him up. But I sat there eagerly waiting for him to resume speaking and he realized that wasn’t it. It only occurred to me after how it might be misinterpreted and reassured him that it wasn’t my intent.
my husband does this to me when ive just called him out on somerhing incredibly silly but not during actual disagreements
Until it happens to you, and then it’s pure diesel unleaded
Right?! Just shows they don’t care about what the person is saying…
I didn’t know this was a option I have a homie who rambles like a mf
When people ramble they are being a tiny bit inconsiderate of the other person, word vomiting so they can fill space and ease their anxiety. You SHOULD NOT expect people to seriously listen to everything you say when you are rambling (as someone who rambles)
The romantic situation where I see this happening is a guy who obviously is “supposed” to make the next move, but is nervous so rambling. The person kissing them is really an empathetic gesture
Back in high school a girl kissed me while I was rambling and I thought it was neat
That would only pour gas on the fire that is me having a come apart
I haaaaate that trope
Your rambling tho. Obviously they didn’t care what you were saying
> Personally, if I were rambling or talking and someone interrupted me with a kiss, I’d feel like they actually didn’t care at all about me or what I was saying.
You think people kissing you don’t care about you?
It’s usually meant to be seen as nervous rambling. The kiss is meant to be seen as a comforting action.
It’s pretty hard boiled.
You havent had this happen to you yet.
Yeah no shit it’s mostly in fiction, and that shit ain’t real. Don’t think ima find an 8 foot tall lady that can bench a car.
Sometimes, they are going down a train of thought that isn’t going to help them or anyone else. It’s a great positive way to break that train instead of calling them out for it
Yeah it makes me cringe because realistically in a situation like that I wouldn’t want to be kissed even as a distraction
It’s happened to me, and it happened because she correctly assumed I was stalling because I was nervous.
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Bro thinks tv is real
my boyfriend does it when i’m saying stupid stuff on purpose to annoy him. it’s cute imo.
Literally how I had my first kiss. Although admittedly I was just too nervous to initiate it and I think she realised that.
Whether it’s cringey imo depends on the situation and what the rambling is about. Most rambles are unimportant and hiding something else. This is perfect for the surprise kiss as it will shock the rambler, and usually calm and ground them so they learn how to speak more concisely and get to the point (if they have one). However, interrupting an important ramble (feels like an oxymoron) would be disrespectful.
I wouldn’t change a thing though.
I totally agree with this. I think it’s just plain rude. Especially when someone’s rambling because they’re worried about something shutting them up does not help it’s just gonna tell them you don’t want to listen to them and they’ll bottle it up. Even if it does take their mind off it for like two minutes they still need to talk about it. A girl’s gotta ramble
I think it’s sweet
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i absolutely agree with this. “shut up and kiss me” is on the same level as “theyre right behind me arent they” but kinda worse
If you were rambling you needed to be shut up
Ive done this before with my partner. Not often but sometimes she can get stuck in a bit of a loop due to anxiety and will start to spiral a little. Sometimes I’ll kiss her just to break the train of thought. Not saying its 100% effective, but I think its a sweet way to say “its okay im here with you”. Just my 2 cents
Can’t say I’ve seen it.
I had sex with someone recently so they’d stop talking 😬
I did have a date do this to me once – I’d be lying if I said I didn’t like it… but it is still cringey in TV and movies.
Someone did this to me IRL, it was pretty awesome tbh but yeah it’s not the sort of thing that’s captured super well in movies and stuff
> I’d feel like they actually didn’t care at all about me or what I was saying
Yes.
Nobody alive cares what you’re saying when you ramble, they’re just waiting patiently for you to get control of yourself.
Can confirm, I’ve kissed people while they were talking before and it was 100% because I wanted them to shut up.
I’ve done this with my wife.. mostly to be silly when she’s talking too much and really cute
My first kiss was like that. I was nervous and started rambling about tarantulas and she kissed me mid sentence. It was cute.
I don’t know actually, it’s happened to me before and it was pretty sweet. Then she asked me to finish what I was saying. It felt like BECAUSE what I was saying to them was so enjoyable, they just felt the need to embrace me
My bf does this to me and I still keep talking lmao
Well its usually more effective than telling them to shut their mouth.