My MIL will NOT stop hounding DH about buying our baby a walker. He’s about to turn one and hasn’t shown much interest in walking yet, but it’s not something that we or his doctor are concerned about. But MIL is losing her mind over it and keeps telling us that he’s falling behind in his development and that a walker is necessary for him to learn.
I have told her repeatedly since LO was a newborn that we will not be using walkers or any kind of toys that he would need to sit in due to the dangers and potential developmental delays that they can cause. His pediatrician even told us early on that he always warns parents against them because it’s not worth the risks, but she told DH that she doesn’t trust our pediatrician and he doesn’t know what he’s talking about.
I’m LC with her, but every single time DH talks to her now she brings it up again. She lectured him for 30 minutes the other day about it and got mad when he kept saying no.
At one point she said she was going to buy one anyway to keep at her house and she would put him in it when she babysat, and then freaked out when DH told her that if she did that then she would never be allowed to see LO unsupervised.
(For the record, she has never been left alone with him anyway because I already didn’t trust her for other reasons)
She always brings up how she used walkers when she was raising kids and they turned out fine, so I think part of it is that she’s just offended that we aren’t doing things the same way she did. We’ve never said she was wrong for using them, just that now we know better than they did back then, but she just takes everything so personally and won’t let it go.
Anyone else deal with a MIL that thinks she knows better than everyone else? It’s so frustrating.
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My youngest refused to walk and I spoke to the dr about it at 15 months and she set him down off the table and he walked and never stopped. 🤣
My grandkids used saucers but I read enough to know not to use walkers. Even though I had them for my kids. They actually preferred standing outside the saucer to play once they got the hang of standing.