Working as designed then. Back to the kitchen, ladies! No job and no independence for you. Submit to the head of the family, raise his children, vote as he votes, be soft and sweet and compliant. Maybe he’ll buy you a new dress every so often and allow you a little spending money.
Management several years ago: Build your teams as geographically diverse as possible! It helps attract top talent and you can have follow the sun coverage instead of waking people up in the middle of their night for an emergency.
Management now: Face to face collaboration! What do you mean there’s no benefit to coming back in to the office because literally everyone you work with is at a different location and you talk to them entirely on Teams? You want HOW MUCH of a budget to fly your team in once a year? You’re out of your mind! But you better be in the paradoxical sardine can of a open floor plan office effective immediately and take your Teams calls at your desk like everyone else. What? Sorry, I can’t hear you over how loud it is in here
I like that this article is endorsing work from home specifically for the purpose of engaging women in our workforce, but it doesn’t address the idea of that working from home also benefits, the family, as a whole, in that, it also creates ability for families to have both parents earning an income for the creation of generational wealth.
I just got into it with my husband because we are having money issues (stemming from his horrible spending mostly) and he said he should get a second job. IM A REGISTERED NURSE. But he makes more money in IT. This means instead of having me work full time hours (I’m per diem because I’m default for child care and emergencies) it’s more worth it for him to work more than spend an extra day with his kids or something. This and has straight up told me not to go in on his day off for a $400 bonus. A day shift.
Anyways I’m going to work today out of spite and he’s gonna try working with two kids bopping around the house. He doesn’t know it yet.
But as I explained at work to my boss who asks “why do our CNAs call in? Why is it never dad’s turn to watch the kids?” DAD MAKES MORE MONEY. it’s never moms turn for shit unless it’s in the mom-task category.
In today’s throwback environment, I want to encourage my fellow women to create your own businesses so you can better control your own work environment. It’s not for everyone, but I increasingly believe it’s better to just avoid corporate life entirely. It’s just a boys’ club, from the largest boardrooms down to your local bank.
I’m so sorry you gals…. I’m currently extremely miserable at my very much mom gig: 2 days a week in office, with a boss who is always out of town so most of those days are like a few hours at most. Then the whole company basically forgets about me as long as my 3 morning grids are emailed by noon.
I am copied on HUNDREDS of daily emails but none are tasks or assignments for me. Once in a while I have a slammed week or two and then back to this. Full (rather decent) salary, full benefits, flexibility.. they just want me in my lane, not knowing ANYTHING outside of what they need/want me to know.. regardless of how much I can contribute.
This is not a humble brag. I’m literally miserable… I have an MBA, looking to pursue a doctorate.. I’ve run my own teams and projects.. my husband runs the house, his own biz (excels at both too) and finally said to me last year: just coast until they realize… but my brain cells are dead.
When I interview at way more interesting places, it’s always “hybrid” and that ALWAYS means “4 days in, fridays wfh” so I ALWAYS pass.
The thought of being at home is a nightmare for me. The thought of continuing in this uninspired existence is also a nightmare for me… where is the balance man??
Ugh thanks for coming to my TED talk.. I hate this timeline.
Edit: many years ago my hubs sat me down (after listening to me negotiate a salary for a new gig) and told me to negotiate like a man. And then SHOWED me. So I started doing it, and sometimes I got more $$ and often told no (that’s fine, bye) but being mostly remote is non negotiable. When offered hybrid I always say “I’m a much more diligent worker at 3days office/2 days at home because of XYZ” and have yet to be given grace with that.
It is easy to walk away from a “great job” with a shitty schedule when you know how much time you will be away from family. It’s why women ALWAYS stay at shit jobs longer…
Corporations are openly admitting to a loss in productivity yet continue to insist on RTO. So many people would rather hurt themselves if hurts someone else too, and also not help themselves if it would help someone else too. Sometimes I wish COVID had just killed us all.
Women are enrolling in and completing college at higher rates than men right now. Better nip this in the bud before we get gasp some equality in the workplace. God forbid we see more female leaders.
Yep, something I noticed as an essential worker is that my female colleagues pick shifts based on flexibility for school and child care. My male colleagues mostly did not, unless single fathers.
Interesting.
Maybe it’s my demographic or where I live. But I don’t know a single stay at home mom. I do know at least FIVE stay at home dads including my partner. This is not unique to women, families are having to chose between the exorbitant price of child care or spending time with their kids. Why work when one salary is completely wiped out ?
I worked from home with a toddler with daycare closed during covid, that … wasn’t work. I don’t wanna force myself to stay awake just to finish my day.
Yeah this is not good for women who want to have economic stability. I kept reading the article as if it was talking about fathers— such as, fathers needing to leave the workforce to take care of their kids due to return to office mandates. How many men would take on the SAHD role? Would the federal government and corporations work to maintain hybrid work then? Definitely hope some women are able to put their foot down and demand equal partnership in child rearing from their husbands (or that they have husbands who believe in that, too).
I’m not a mom, but I am neurodivergent and working from home has tripled my productivity due to less distractions and more comfort. I dont think I could tolerate commuting again, much less dealing with people in the office. RTO is awful when people actually thrive remotely.
If the people that are fleeing are the ones that think it’s ok to have a kid under 5 at home full time with no other help, then I’ll be the one to say it. You’re part of the reason lazy management is forcing RTO. Easier to screw everyone than fire you. Which is what they should have done.
We can’t work from home because they’d rather hire someone in India or the like. We in the US need better work protection laws and it’s just not looking like that will get better right now with Nepo babies who have never worked a real day in their entire lives seemingly at the helm.
This is all so remarkably short sighted. They have slowly done the same thing at my company – starting at 2 days a week in office, to 3, to 4, and now 5 in many places. I’ve been there for 10 years, am a hi performer, but have been told I’m not eligible for any promotions here on out because I am remote and do not live near an office I can go to (i was hired remoted and my job was remote long before the pandemic. When i did live near an office, I went in anyway to see coworkers, so do with that what you will). The sacrifice they are making on talent is so mind blowing. We’ve had seniro level, multiple 6 figure roles be open for almost years at a time bc there is not that specific skill set existing in our office locations, whereas if we just hired remote we’d get an amazing candidate quickly from anywhere in the world. They don’t care about productivity loss bc it’s not a line item on the P&L. This is why more women need to be in leadership positions and on boards!!
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America hates working mothers.
Working as designed then. Back to the kitchen, ladies! No job and no independence for you. Submit to the head of the family, raise his children, vote as he votes, be soft and sweet and compliant. Maybe he’ll buy you a new dress every so often and allow you a little spending money.
Phooey.
Management several years ago: Build your teams as geographically diverse as possible! It helps attract top talent and you can have follow the sun coverage instead of waking people up in the middle of their night for an emergency.
Management now: Face to face collaboration! What do you mean there’s no benefit to coming back in to the office because literally everyone you work with is at a different location and you talk to them entirely on Teams? You want HOW MUCH of a budget to fly your team in once a year? You’re out of your mind! But you better be in the paradoxical sardine can of a open floor plan office effective immediately and take your Teams calls at your desk like everyone else. What? Sorry, I can’t hear you over how loud it is in here
I like that this article is endorsing work from home specifically for the purpose of engaging women in our workforce, but it doesn’t address the idea of that working from home also benefits, the family, as a whole, in that, it also creates ability for families to have both parents earning an income for the creation of generational wealth.
RTO policies hurt families.
I just got into it with my husband because we are having money issues (stemming from his horrible spending mostly) and he said he should get a second job. IM A REGISTERED NURSE. But he makes more money in IT. This means instead of having me work full time hours (I’m per diem because I’m default for child care and emergencies) it’s more worth it for him to work more than spend an extra day with his kids or something. This and has straight up told me not to go in on his day off for a $400 bonus. A day shift.
Anyways I’m going to work today out of spite and he’s gonna try working with two kids bopping around the house. He doesn’t know it yet.
But as I explained at work to my boss who asks “why do our CNAs call in? Why is it never dad’s turn to watch the kids?” DAD MAKES MORE MONEY. it’s never moms turn for shit unless it’s in the mom-task category.
Jesus I need to get my tubes removed.
All going according to plan.
In today’s throwback environment, I want to encourage my fellow women to create your own businesses so you can better control your own work environment. It’s not for everyone, but I increasingly believe it’s better to just avoid corporate life entirely. It’s just a boys’ club, from the largest boardrooms down to your local bank.
I’m so sorry you gals…. I’m currently extremely miserable at my very much mom gig: 2 days a week in office, with a boss who is always out of town so most of those days are like a few hours at most. Then the whole company basically forgets about me as long as my 3 morning grids are emailed by noon.
I am copied on HUNDREDS of daily emails but none are tasks or assignments for me. Once in a while I have a slammed week or two and then back to this. Full (rather decent) salary, full benefits, flexibility.. they just want me in my lane, not knowing ANYTHING outside of what they need/want me to know.. regardless of how much I can contribute.
This is not a humble brag. I’m literally miserable… I have an MBA, looking to pursue a doctorate.. I’ve run my own teams and projects.. my husband runs the house, his own biz (excels at both too) and finally said to me last year: just coast until they realize… but my brain cells are dead.
When I interview at way more interesting places, it’s always “hybrid” and that ALWAYS means “4 days in, fridays wfh” so I ALWAYS pass.
The thought of being at home is a nightmare for me. The thought of continuing in this uninspired existence is also a nightmare for me… where is the balance man??
Ugh thanks for coming to my TED talk.. I hate this timeline.
Edit: many years ago my hubs sat me down (after listening to me negotiate a salary for a new gig) and told me to negotiate like a man. And then SHOWED me. So I started doing it, and sometimes I got more $$ and often told no (that’s fine, bye) but being mostly remote is non negotiable. When offered hybrid I always say “I’m a much more diligent worker at 3days office/2 days at home because of XYZ” and have yet to be given grace with that.
It is easy to walk away from a “great job” with a shitty schedule when you know how much time you will be away from family. It’s why women ALWAYS stay at shit jobs longer…
Thats what they want
This is the intent.
Corporations are openly admitting to a loss in productivity yet continue to insist on RTO. So many people would rather hurt themselves if hurts someone else too, and also not help themselves if it would help someone else too. Sometimes I wish COVID had just killed us all.
Yeah!!! Exactly!!! ((**working mother of one tiny dog))
Ahh, the intention of it all is being revealed.
Women are enrolling in and completing college at higher rates than men right now. Better nip this in the bud before we get gasp some equality in the workplace. God forbid we see more female leaders.
And they wonder why we’re all deciding to not have kids
Yep, something I noticed as an essential worker is that my female colleagues pick shifts based on flexibility for school and child care. My male colleagues mostly did not, unless single fathers.
Interesting.
Maybe it’s my demographic or where I live. But I don’t know a single stay at home mom. I do know at least FIVE stay at home dads including my partner. This is not unique to women, families are having to chose between the exorbitant price of child care or spending time with their kids. Why work when one salary is completely wiped out ?
Time for working moms to take what they’ve learned & earned to start their own businesses.
It’s funny how no matter where you live or work we are all getting the same script.. “collaboration”
Another day to be grateful I’m sterilized
It’s been happening for several years already, it’s not new. RTO combined with constant layoffs make everyone miserable at my job.
I worked from home with a toddler with daycare closed during covid, that … wasn’t work. I don’t wanna force myself to stay awake just to finish my day.
Yeah this is not good for women who want to have economic stability. I kept reading the article as if it was talking about fathers— such as, fathers needing to leave the workforce to take care of their kids due to return to office mandates. How many men would take on the SAHD role? Would the federal government and corporations work to maintain hybrid work then? Definitely hope some women are able to put their foot down and demand equal partnership in child rearing from their husbands (or that they have husbands who believe in that, too).
It’s not a bug, it’s a feature.
I’m not a mom, but I am neurodivergent and working from home has tripled my productivity due to less distractions and more comfort. I dont think I could tolerate commuting again, much less dealing with people in the office. RTO is awful when people actually thrive remotely.
If the people that are fleeing are the ones that think it’s ok to have a kid under 5 at home full time with no other help, then I’ll be the one to say it. You’re part of the reason lazy management is forcing RTO. Easier to screw everyone than fire you. Which is what they should have done.
Under his eye.
Here we go. The ‘forced trad wife’ shit returning.
We can’t work from home because they’d rather hire someone in India or the like. We in the US need better work protection laws and it’s just not looking like that will get better right now with Nepo babies who have never worked a real day in their entire lives seemingly at the helm.
This is all so remarkably short sighted. They have slowly done the same thing at my company – starting at 2 days a week in office, to 3, to 4, and now 5 in many places. I’ve been there for 10 years, am a hi performer, but have been told I’m not eligible for any promotions here on out because I am remote and do not live near an office I can go to (i was hired remoted and my job was remote long before the pandemic. When i did live near an office, I went in anyway to see coworkers, so do with that what you will). The sacrifice they are making on talent is so mind blowing. We’ve had seniro level, multiple 6 figure roles be open for almost years at a time bc there is not that specific skill set existing in our office locations, whereas if we just hired remote we’d get an amazing candidate quickly from anywhere in the world. They don’t care about productivity loss bc it’s not a line item on the P&L. This is why more women need to be in leadership positions and on boards!!
Just like republicans want.
So it’s working as intended. 😕