The non- apology- JNMIL strikes after 3 and a half years of NC

She sent me a nasty incoherent email, which in her deluded mind perhaps qualifies as an apology. I had blocked her, but it appeared in my Spam folder anyway.

 Why now, one would ask? Well, because she is desperate- in two months’ time her unemployment government benefits and insurance (Europe) will be over and she will have to get a job. See, she is a few months close to the official retirement age, but she lacks about 6 or 7 years of being employed and insured in order to have the full pension.

Last week she has started a job as a full time maid in a private house. Knowing her narcisstic nature and that once she was the one to have a full time maid (“I even let her have dinner with us, poor thing”) – I guess it is not going well.

Husband and I own a company- however, on paper I am the owner and the general manager. It’s just the two of us, the accountancy and the lawyer- has always been, will always be, it’s just the nature of our job, we don’t need employees.  So, I believe her intention is to push my husband, once again, to employ her, pay her a salary, and pay her insurance for her to do nothing. She is that deluded- she’s had the audacity to ask him about it several more times in the last two years and he has always shut her down. Yet, here we are again.

Why NC? In short, in January 2022 we had just bought a new home, were moving houses and cities, my mother had just been admitted from the hospital and was recovering. We visited JNMIL, I was extremely vulnerable and at one of my lowest points- so the perfect moment for her to attack. We got tipsy, she was acting like my bestie- and next thing I know is JNMIL is calling my mother (remember, still recovering) to tell her that I am an alcoholic and a gold-digger, calling my husband and trying to create drama and intrigue between us and calling me to try to provoke me so that she can be the victim.  So, I went NC and have felt immensely better ever since.

Oh, well, to top it off, this February my brother (44) passed away unexpectedly. My husband explicitly told her not to contact me or my mother. And what does she do? Of course, she called my mother, sneaked into the only social media I had forgotten to block her into and offered me her condolences and a freaking infantile crying emoji!

So now JNMIL realizes that she needs me, she is panicking and I got that marvelous message, aka non-apology. It reads:

 “Hello, op! It has been long enough time since the misunderstanding between us. This situation might work great for you, but have you ever considered my son? I don’t think my son deserves anything like that! Yes, I made a mistake- but everyone makes mistakes. We are family, anything could happen.  Yes, I know that I act hastily and that I am impulsive and I do reckon this is a flaw of mine. But I hope you forgive me. I know it won’t be the same, but we have to try.

I’m thinking of coming to your place one day and putting an end to it all.

You are a reasonable person and I hope you understand me.”

 

Honestly, the last two lines creeped me.

Of course, I am not going to answer her- but I will let my husband know her shenanigans these following days. It is a rather hectic period for us workwise and I really don’t want to put that stress on him. As a bonus, the longer I ignore her, the more agitated she gets.

 

If you have any ideas how to deal with this situation, please, share! I am angry, frustrated, confused and sad.