The unsent message

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I had a relationship with a guy who often ignored me when he was busy with his friends. And when I sent him a message to say I was thinking about him or wanted to see him, he would reply hours later, or sometimes not at all. As if my day wasn’t important enough to him.

One day, after a whole weekend without hearing from me, I had the idea to return the favor. Rather than sending him a simple message like I usually do, I wrote a long, sincere, and thoughtful message, telling him I’d missed him and that we needed to talk. I reread it several times to get it perfect, but before sending it, I decided to leave it alone… for a whole day.
I knew he’d be impatient, so I let him stew. When I finally sent the message, he replied immediately, all stressed out, wondering what was going on. He told me he wanted to talk too and that he was sorry for his behavior.

I replied, “Yeah, I know… but you see, I was just busy. Same as you, this weekend. No response for hours is totally acceptable, right?”

He never took the time to reply to me again after that. 😏

Comments

  1. PictureConsistent261 Avatar

    I don’t get it. Did you message him and he never replied? Did you just stop messaging him?

  2. andronicuspark Avatar

    So you didn’t send it right away? You just typed up a long thing and he saw the “…” pending and was suddenly interested in your business?

  3. Rich-Safety6994 Avatar

    Doesn’t make any sense, looks fake

  4. Zealousideal_Fail946 Avatar

    Poor thing. He has a life and she needs constant reassurance that she is his only. She sent him a text and he didn’t immediately reply. She waits and times his answers. Sounds like a really healthy relationship.

  5. CtrlAltGay Avatar

    This was not revenge. This is just you trying to make yourself feel better about needing attention from some douche canoe

  6. SirScottie Avatar

    i fail to see the petty revenge. It sounds like he was an insensitive, selfish jerk, and is now freed from a relationship with an overly needy and insecure person. Win-win or lose-lose, depending on perspective.

  7. Lasat Avatar

    What was the point of typing up the message? Wouldn’t it just have been better to call him out or just ignore him instead of preparing a nice message in advance?

    This makes no sense.

  8. SpiritualAd6189 Avatar

    This doesn’t make sense. Just an FYI if you are not typing the dots stop showing up so he couldn’t see if you were still typing or not.

  9. Hey-Just-Saying Avatar

    “He never took the time to reply to me again after that.” Kind of sounds like he got the final revenge. But you’re better off without him anyway.

  10. akiroraiden Avatar

    revenge? sounds more like you’re needy and insecure, dude might not have wanted it to end like that but he dodged a bullet.

    Im sure he didn’t think of you at all while your “unsent message” was stewing.

    I won’t respond to messages for days to weeks for some people, i don’t like my time being constantly available for anyone to use up.

    Yes, it’s different if im in a relationship, but you going crazy about him responding hours later LMAO. Also, expecting replies when you KNOW he’s busy with friends… uff, crazy vibes.

  11. Solid_Mongoose_3269 Avatar

    You sound clingy. If you know they’re with their friends, and they dont respond, thats on you.

  12. Xylorgos Avatar

    Problem solved! It’s so cool when the trash takes itself out.

  13. Cwilliam99 Avatar

    Apparently there is a such thing as to petty

  14. cachalker Avatar

    “Alex, I’ll take Things That Didn’t Happen for $500.”

    Why the hell would someone who makes a habit of ignoring their phone be waiting impatiently for the next text and get all stressed out when it didn’t come?

  15. HeyYouGuyyyyyyys Avatar

    He ghosted you and that’s your revenge on him?