Does anyone else find it annoying when someone asks you, “What’s your type?”
Maybe it is just an innocent question that’s intended to evaluate the likelihood of compatibility between someone else and myself.
But it also strikes me that that question could be used to figure out how to act in order to try to closer to me. For example, if I tell someone that my type is “ambitious introverts who like to read books and have deep conversations about meaningful topics” (just for the sake of this example), then couldn’t someone use that to figure out how to act around me in an effort to lure me to let my guard down?
Am I just jaded and viewing this question through an unfairly nefarious lens? Or is anyone else bothered by this question too?
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I don’t usually say personality traits so it’s not an issue for me in that way. 😭
I agree because I’ve had the same thought. I told my therapist this and they said, ‘is that something you think someone who has experienced trauma would say?’ like damn girl, yeah. I do get annoyed at the ‘type’ when it comes to appearance. I’ve dated and been attracted to a full on spectrum and hate being boxed in.
I see your point. Maybe a little jaded but not invalid. Asking why they want to know is an interesting response because then they have to explain themselves. Some might see asking why as confrontational, but… its meant to be. My type is all over the place (yay bi attraction). Attraction is not about looks. My type is an adult with their shit together, who is honest, makes self-care (physical, mental, life balance) a priority, and can commit to quality time.
I don’t have a specific type so I don’t like this question either, especially because people seem incredulous when I say so!