This Dad Told the Doctor His Wife Was Feeding Their 2-month-old Mashed Potatoes and Sweet Tea and Now She’s Threatening to Kick Him Out

We all know that new parenthood comes with a steep learning curve. There are sleepless nights, endless diaper changes, and a constant stream of unsolicited advice from literally everyone. But there are some basic, non-negotiable rules when it comes to infant care, and one of them is: you do not feed a 2-month-old mashed potatoes, apple juice, and sweet tea. One dad on Reddit just found himself in a marital war zone after ratting out his wife to their pediatrician, and honestly, we are grabbing the popcorn and a bottle of formula.

The Original Poster (OP) and his wife have a 2-month-old daughter who has been screaming for hours every night, which the wife dismisses as “colic.” But the OP noticed a disturbing trend: his wife has been feeding their infant mashed potatoes, apple sauce, sweet tea, and various fruit juices, completely ignoring the pediatrician’s advice to stick to formula until the baby is 4-6 months old. The wife literally says she “knows best” and that the doctor “isn’t the parent.” Uh, actually, the doctor is the medical professional trying to prevent your child from getting sick.

The baby is constantly constipated, which, surprise, surprise, is probably not “colic” when you’re feeding her a diet of solid foods and sugary drinks. The OP has tried to reason with his wife, begging her to go back to formula, but she just shrugs him off. She is only giving the baby one or two bottles of formula a day, leaving the OP to desperately try to make up the difference when he is off work.

The breaking point happened during a recent doctor’s appointment. The wife was busy complaining about the baby’s “colic” and screaming fits. When the doctor asked about the baby’s diet, the wife confidently claimed she was “only” feeding her formula. The OP watched, seething, as his wife lied straight to the doctor’s face, effectively putting their child’s health at risk.

That was it. The OP couldn’t take it anymore. He chimed in and told the pediatrician everything his wife had been giving the baby. The doctor immediately confirmed his suspicions: the “colic” and screaming fits were actually severe stomach upset caused by the inappropriate diet. She strongly recommended that the wife stop giving the baby anything but formula immediately.

Instead of feeling apologetic or, you know, concerned for her child, the wife absolutely blew up at the OP. She accused him of “ratting” her out and making her look like a bad parent. She even had the audacity to say that the doctor’s advice was “only a recommendation” and she didn’t have to listen. At that point, the OP called her a “selfish little tw*t,” which, while maybe not the most diplomatic choice of words, was probably exactly what she needed to hear.

Now, the wife is demanding that the OP go stay with his parents until she “forgives” him. The OP is wondering if he went too far by calling her names and if he should apologize. But honestly? We’re not sure an apology is what’s needed here. When your partner is actively ignoring medical advice and causing their 2-month-old baby physical pain, “politeness” takes a backseat to “parental intervention.”

Feeding a 2-month-old mashed potatoes and sweet tea isn’t just “unconventional parenting”; it is potentially dangerous. An infant’s digestive system isn’t developed enough for solid foods, and sugary drinks are a recipe for disaster. The wife isn’t “knowing best”; she’s risking her child’s health because of some bizarre defiance of authority. Her pride is literally causing her baby to scream in pain for hours every night.

The fact that she would lie to the doctor and then get mad at her husband for telling the truth speaks volumes. She cares more about her image as a “good parent” than she does about her baby’s actual well-being. That is not just “selfish”; it is a level of narcissism that should send chills down the OP’s spine. This isn’t just a marital spat; it is a serious co-parenting issue that needs to be addressed immediately.

The OP’s choice of words might have been a bit much, but it came from a place of pure frustration and concern for his child. He watched his baby suffer, watched his wife lie, and finally reached his breaking point. If calling her a “selfish little twat” is what it takes for her to realize the gravity of her actions, then maybe it was necessary.

So, is the OP the ahole? Not for telling the doctor the truth, and not for being angry. Maybe a little for the name-calling, but honestly, we get it. NTA in the grand scheme of things. His wife is jeopardizing their child’s health because she thinks she knows more than a trained pediatrician. He should not apologize for protecting his daughter.

What would you do if your partner was actively harming your infant by ignoring medical advice? Would you apologize for getting angry, or would you double down on protecting your child? Let us know in the comments if you think this dad needs to stand his ground!