I (22M) have been going to this therapist for a few months and everything seemed fine and is I guess until she started talking about the possibility of being put in hospital due to the risk or my well being and I’m thinking of just never going back cause there is no way I’m being put in a hole by someone else, what should I do? I really do like them but this has made me cautious in talking about much darker stuff I contemplate, idk what to do.
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What “hospitalization” means in this context is likely very intense therapy while being in a hospital for a bit.
“put in a hole” That sounds like your impression of hospitals is the way it used to be, where you’d be tossed in till someone felt like letting you out? That is NOT how it works now. It’s very difficult to get someone committed. Your therapist is talking about you going willingly–and if you’re not willing, you don’t go. (edit to add–unless you attempt, or slug a cop, or something. I think law enforcement can turn you in for a 24-48 hour hold.)
My kid goes in when they go off the deep end, and when they are not a danger to themselves, they come back out. Shortest stay, three days. Longest, three weeks. Kid’s friend goes in *before* they are a danger to themself, stays a few days, and comes home safe. A friend used to go in every time she and their doctor wanted to change her meds, as the change itself was a very dangerous time for her. Usually stayed about a week.
Ask your therapist what she means. And decide if you trust her–she can’t help you nearly as well if you’re not being fully honest.
I hope for the best for you!
Tell them you are not comfortable being hospitalized. Even if you go, it’s not a prison. You can just leave. The only people forced to go through treatment are criminals ordered by the court to seek treatment.
The main factor for having you admitted for a psych evaluation would be that you have thoughts to harm yourself AND have a plan to do so.
If you’re having increased, or to the therapist perceived increase in these thoughts id understand why they talked to you about potential hospitalization.
I don’t know all the details, but could she be recommending you go to a voluntary inpatient program? With those you typically sign off for a minimum 72 hour hold there as they evaluate and treat and then you can be free to go after unless they deem you mentally unfit which usually happens with unstable or psychotic patients.
If you have any questions feel free to ask, I’ve worked in a wide variety of healthcare and mental health care positions. I am going to bed now so I can get back to you sometime tomorrow.
The same thing happened to my bf. He gladly went through with the program and it’s really helping him. If you have the time and resources you should really think about it. Make sure to look for hospitals with a good rating and don’t think of it as a hole. It’s a place whose only focus is to make you feel better and to let you leave some of your baggage behind.
My friend was in hospital once, my other friend is on daily visits schedule. Both attended group therapies and being able to work day by day was an amazing experience according to them.
At one point in my therapy many years ago my therapist and psych were considering hospitalizing me. I told them I didn’t want that and we tried some medication that actually worked great. I was able to engage in therapy, which means it could work. Before then, I was too ill to get any benefit.
I’ve been hospitalized before, way back as a teen, it’s not awful, just concentrated care. Hell, I ran into a woman there who was a frequent flyer. There wasn’t really anything big wrong with her, she just used the hospital as a vacation of sorts to get away when things got overwhelming. Totally lovely person, too. Rational, kind, just easily overwhelmed.
It’s not like the movies where they show dim hallways full of screams from crazy patients. It’s just like…a dorm where occasionally someone gets inappropriately loud and you’re not allowed razor blades lol
Ideally you and your therapist develop a solid safety plan that you feel able to stick to, and then there is no reason to go into hospital. If you just quit going to therapy without reassuring your therapist that the risk is managed, she could still get you hospitalized. If you convince her that you’re not at immediate risk, then you can keep working with her. If you are at immediate risk, you need help to reduce that risk, whether it is from friends and family, from your therapist, or by being in hospital. What is it going to take to get your risk to a manageable level?