I’m swear I’m not trying to be gross in posting these stories. I’m trying to grapple with what I did and how much my OCD may or may not be amplifying my fears.
This is the one other situation.
Me and my (now ex) had a night of drinking. we were both sloshed. both got sick the next day. We were in bed, fondling each other. Things were getting a little heated and then I asked if he wanted to continue, he said he was too tired. This is where I am worried – I remember being like are you sure and fondling him a little more, and I think I went and performed oral sex more maybe 2 seconds. I then asked again if he was sure he was sure. He said he was too tired again, and we stoped and went to bed. The only thing that was keeping me from thinking this was SA, was that I genuinely didn’t mean to cross his boundaries or break consent. I was drunk, and we and we did this kind of sexual interaction a lot. I feel so awful over it.
I can’t tell again if I did meet the criteria for sa or if my OCD is confusing me.
I know it was only 2 seconds and a brief violation and that it was unintentional.
The state I live in doesn’t care if all of it was an accident. It says online if there was a revoke of consent, and if sexual contact was continued, it’s considered sexual battery/ assault. I can’t tell how true this is? Like if it’s practiced differently in the courtroom and there is some room held for situations where there was no malicious intent and the moment the person realized the contact might be non consensual, they stop.
I don’t think either way I’d get convicted. I just feel bad and I’m terrified im someone who comitted SA
“the law does not require proof that the defendant intended to commit a crime or intended to violate the victim’s rights. In other words, even if the defendant did not have a specific intent to harm or offend, they can still be found guilty if they intentionally engaged in the touching and it was non-consensual and indecent.”
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Ok I will answer and I swear to frickin god if you ask anyone else this question ever again in your entire life it will prove how pointless asking for outside validation from strangers is and you will find a better therapist:
Not one single person on this planet thinks that a boy jizzing himself during a consensual make out session is a victim of assault
They think he “prematurely ejaculated”. You can tell by the way he wanted to jizz that same jizz but just jizz that jizz slightly later than he ended up jizzing
Feel better? No, of course you don’t
And when you get that better therapist, they will know about aripiprazole and risperidone