The saying “You’re not the main character in anyone else’s story” is true, but so is the reverse. None of you fuckers are the main character in mine. Be selfish and self serving. Put your self first. I won’t do anything that doesn’t benefit me, either short or long term. If I have to use someone as a stepping stone to elevate myself, I’ll do it. Don’t allow yourself to be stepped on. Protect yourself at all costs. The only experiences that matter are my own. This isn’t some iamverybadass type post, I’m not promoting using violence because getting locked up is counterproductive. I’m not saying I’ll never do a favor for someone, but I expect for it to be paid back. If I enjoy your company, or if you’re skilled / useful, I’ll do enough to keep you around. If your usefulness wears out, or you become a nuisance, I can cut you off no problem.
I don’t owe anyone outside my circle anything. I don’t care about your struggles or strife. I don’t care about what’s going on in other countries, it doesn’t actually affect me in any measurable way. All I care about is enjoying my own life, gaining as much as I can. I don’t even care if I’m remembered. Once I’m dead it doesn’t matter anymore.
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Not an unpopular opinion. Rather the motto of modern society.
Spoken like a true narcissist.
You’re a One Piece fan yeah? You’d fit in with the Celestial Dragons for sure
Yes sometimes its perfectly fine to put yourself first.
Sounds like a lack of empathy, ew.
There’s nothing wrong with being selfish from time to time
If this is how you want to live, no one can stop you. But it’s weird the number of people who say stuff like this and then wind up blaming “society” for their feelings of loneliness and isolation.
Except for your kids. You don’t get to put your needs over your minor children’s needs
How old are you?
You earned the upvote but like someone else said. Majority of the time , people with this mindset tend to blame everyone else when things go wrong. Just a bad way to live imo.
You sound very negative and bitter
Absolute narcissist. This is not a thing to boast proudly about (and is at best embarrassingly naive).
It feels good to make a small or even significant sacrifices to help people I care about. If everyone lived with your mindset the world would be a dark, lonely place.
Go ahead, just don’t be surprised if no one wants to do anything you and don’t come crying.
I’ve always tried to live on “my wants are not as important a as others needs.”
You can live how you want but this actually isn’t beneficial for you in the long run. Your idea of the world is a pretty intense take on individualism, and honestly, it walks a fine line between self preservation and a blatant disregard for others. Wanting to put yourself first isn’t inherently wrong but actively justifying stepping on other people for personal gain is where it stops being about boundaries and starts to look more like sociopathy or narcissism.
There’s a difference between saying you don’t want to be a doormat and you’ll prioritize your own needs versus saying you’ll use someone as a stepping stone and that if they’re no longer “useful,” they’re out.
Most of us want to live fulfilling lives, but fulfillment isn’t just about what “you can get.” It’s about connection and meaning. If someone doesn’t care about helping others, that’s sad. Burning every bridge for the sake of self interest tends to catch up to you. Loneliness, distrust, and regret are usually the price.
So, live how you want, but there’s a difference between self-care and callousness. And most people can tell. I can tell you’re super young but hopefully you’ll learn.
you need a balance
I don’t think this an unpopular opinion at all. It’s the opinion of many people I know who don’t see any issue with things happening in the world right now. Until it impacts them personally, it doesn’t matter to them. They don’t care about the suffering anyone else might have, and they don’t have the forethought to realize that if someone else is suffering, you run the risk of suffering in the same way…
People like you are a dime a dozen.
I don’t blame you. Do what you need to for you. I put myself last and put my health and life on the line for people who messed me up so bad I have to spend money on therapy to learn how to put myself first for once. I don’t want to use people because I know how that feels, i just want to and need to make myself a priority now. I have one child (who is now an adult and this doesn’t apply to) but I had to be responsible for so many other adults who used me. Take care of yourself and your children first (if you have any) because other people will suck you dry and leave you in the dust after they’ve taken everything they can from you.
Everytime I see “main character ” (which I only see on reddit) I know the author is a fucking clown
“I don’t care what’s going on in any countries, it doesn’t affect me in any measurable way.”
It absolutely does affect you in measurable ways. This is just a completely uneducated simplification that can only be made by someone who doesn’t understand how the world works.
A really easily researchable example would be Saudi Arabia’s oil production and its effect on gas prices worldwide.
Oh look, another teenager read Ayn Rand and thinks they figured out the secret to life
You sound just like the people who used my skills until I was burnt out and always promised to do something for me in return, but tossed me to the side like a broken toy when I no longer wanted to make them things without anything in return anymore. This sounds like a very lonely way to be.
You got one thing right. Once you’re dead, you won’t matter anymore.
ok see ya never then. dont be upset when you’re lonely.
This sounds like an advert for recognizing sociopathy.
Fair enough I guess but I’ll gladly never associate with people like you. Do your thing I guess
This is not as unpopular as many believe. While I don’t subscribe to this philosophy, many of my younger family and friends live by this completely. The simple rule: only you and your happiness matter, get the most out of life for as long as you can at the expense of everyone and everything else.
I talked with my cousin and he couldn’t, for the life of him, understand how or why anyone else could see any other perspective.
You’ll get what you want. But you will go through life without anyone truly caring about you. You won’t be free, you’ll be alone.
There are a few different issues in this post, and I agree with some of your opinions and not with others. You’ve somehow put taking out the household’s trash, helping your elderly neighbour with her groceries when you’re busy, and understanding the ins-and-outs of the Russian invasion of Ukraine all on the same level. Empathy, sacrifice, mild inconvenience, and current affairs all live in the same box in your head.
In summary, though, it looks like you’re just advocating for some kind of extreme individualism. Which absolutely makes it an “iamverybadass type post” and not a particularly unique or unpopular opinion. It just reads like you’re a selfish and self-involved teenager.
Have you been listening to too many podcasts?
Counter take: not caring for others is fucking boring. I can understand wanitng to be strong and independant, and wanting to have fun. I have a similar mindset sans the “stepping on others” mantra. Because that sort of independance is boring as shit. And there is a logical reason. You are repressing your social connection to people rather than chposing logically to be absent of it. Thats an important distinction. Your main motovation to be strong is still a social, interlinked deeply to your pride which comes from fear of shame. That shame can not be disconnected from others opinions and 3xpectations of you, and your identity can only exist by compatisons and interactipns woth others. Soon you may find yourself feeling the crushing weight of being beholden to opinions of others but reaping none of the rewards because of your decision to feed your anti-social tendencies.
Even lust and hedonism loses its luster when the novelty wears off whether its sex, drugs, alcohol, bullying, or accomplishment. When the novelty wears off its just bland routine, which turns into gluttony when ypu chase after what these thinhs used to do for you. Develop8ng an insatiabpe appetite that knows no satisfaction amymore. Socializing keeps us sane. And the more anti-social shit you do, the more youll be set in your ways because your reputation will follow you, and the shame of your past (should you accept it) will make you feel weak. Unfortunately the weak but humble are only the temporary suckers. The strong but arrogant are the lifelong suckers.
Lol is this really unpopular? They clearly said “outside my circle”. That’s what we all do.
Could you clarify?
>I’m not promoting using violence because getting locked up is counterproductive
Do you mean the only thing (or at least the biggest thing) preventing you from using violence against something you dislike is the thought of being in jail? What if you’re in a situation where you absolutely know you won’t get caught? Let’s say there’s someone that upset you for whatever reason. You have a chance to really hurt them, and you know that hurting them would give you satisfaction. If you find yourself in such a situation, would you or would you not hurt that person (with violence) when you know you won’t face the consequences? And why?
Oozing incel vibes dude.
Modern living sure is getting harsh!
I feel like I’d be the same way except for the fact that every time I see bad things happen to other people, I think “that could have been me”.
I’d love to live in my own universe and not care about anyone else, but the fact is that I need other people to care about me. As a result I do care for others out of the hopes that someone out there is doing the same thing and it will reach me one day.
Damn, I was supporting you until you explained how you went about it. I have the same stance but a different mentality.
this is literally what is wrong with everything in human society and why it is the way it is now.
Yep, this is an unpopular opinion
Humans do this without really understanding their motivations. Most decisions are self serving even if they don’t appear that way.
Even decision that appear altruistic are generally the product of some internal balance a person may be seeking. Whether it be feeding hungry people or just taking care of your own children. You do it for yourself, not for them.
Nothing really wrong with that, but I think many humans ignore the self serving nature of the decisions we all make everyday.
You’re trying so hard to be the main character it’s funny
We all live in a house made out of each other. Don’t be a dick.
I agree with you on almost everything, besides always getting paid back for the favors I’ve done and keeping people around only cuz they are of use to me and that I don’t care about other people’s struggles. I like being empathetic and helping others out, it makes me feel purposeful and productive.
…Your wording is going to upset a lot of people on here, cuz it makes you sound bitter, negative and self-centered and you will be labeled a narcissist. I haven’t even checked the comments yet and I am sure that you got called that at least twice already.
I think almost everyone would secretly agree with you to some degree, but they don’t have the gut to admit it.
You’re right. There is nothing wrong with putting yourself first. But you take it way too far. Not willing to do anything that doesn’t benefit you? That just makes you sound like a dick that no one wants to be around.
Like with most things, it depends on the context. There’s nothing intrinsically wrong with prioritizing yourself, but where it becomes a problem is when the balance between what you’re gaining or what you’re losing and what the other person is gaining or losing skews too far to one side.
Nobody is going to criticize you for not being willing to run out into the middle of active traffic and risk your own life to save someone else’s life. If you’re going to see someone else unconscious and bleeding out on a sidewalk, but choose to ignore it rather than call emergency services because you don’t want to be late to your hair appointment, though, you’re an asshole for putting your insignificant needs first. Where you want to draw the line as to what’s acceptable or unacceptable between those extremes is your choice, though.
I could probably be convinced that what we do for others is not the only thing that matters in life, but I don’t think I could be convinced that it is anything less than the most important.
Partial agree that you do have to take care of yourself. So sometimes that means saying no to that friends outing when you’re tired or cutting off a longstanding toxic friend who refuses to change. But taking care of yourself is sometimes being your own parent and making difficult decisions that may not feel good in the moment, but are better for you in the long run
Sure it may be easy to cut someone off because they got you a gift you didn’t really like. And having that conversation risks hurting their feelings and you don’t know how to approach it, so it’s easier to stop hanging out with that person and not talk about it. But what will that do for your own mental state some 5 or so years later? You aren’t friends with that person anymore and your personal comfort bubble shrinks, thus making you more sensitive and uncomfortable around normal human existence. And how will you fare when you one day find yourself in a situation where you can’t run away and ignore the problem?
You have to be careful to not let this go too far in the sense of “everyone must fit into my life the exact way I want or they’re cut off”. Or “I only want good vibes” and cutting people off when they inevitably experience down moments in life. Because people are people and no one is perfect, and that mentality leaves no room for the spontaneity of human existence. And some 5-10 years from now, those social connections are going to matter more than whatever products you bought
Not to mention, all relationships of every kind will inevitably have conflict. There will be rough patches every here and there. It’s only a matter of when and what will it be about. So healthy conflict resolution is a necessary skill for life
You say you’re willing to step on others while simultaneously advocating others refuse to be stepped on. What if everyone lived as you say, and no one allowed themselves to be used? How then, would you get what you want? You incorrectly assume your egocentrism and disregard is the only way.
You can live for yourself while still valuing and respecting the lives of others
>This isn’t some iamverybadass type post
Yes it is, lmfao
Being selfish is literally the stupidest thing you can do as a member of highly communicative social species.
What are you, five?
Downvoted becouse you just described human behavior 101. You can always relly on people to act in self interest, that’s just what we do. Some like to rationalise it or gaslight themselves into thinking it’s not the case but it is.
You would be a great politician
Such a lonely and poor life. Oh well.
Ok Ayn Rand.
But for real if everyone worked like that we would still be animals out in the wild.
Thanks Mr.Trump. I’ll be sure to be a self serving sociopath. What could go wrong if everyone took this advice ? Obviously society would continue to function and not devolve into anarchy.
Creation requires cooperation, allows for competition, and temporarily tolerates selfishness.
The things you enjoy and cherish exist because others worked together, remember that.
And people, very quietly, keep score.
Most won’t call you out on your selfishness, they’ll eventually just suss you out and vanish.
“The only experiences that matter are my own” If you think the sum total and purpose of your existence is entirely about your sense organs and what you can throw at them, sure, but at that point you might as well just become a fentanyl zombie.
If you are in fact a sociopath, which I imagine you might be, all you need to remember is the third thing I said.
you are the type of person that is the reason of all the bad things in the world, and your type is not rare, i’m not saying that you should be selfless, that is also stupid, but putting a limit to your egoism is the implicit thing that we should all do, the reason is that in 95% of the cases you gain something by stepping on others you gain crumbs while doing a lot of damage, it’s like stealing a car, you will sell it for 300$ but the owner will have several tens of thousands of $ of damage, this contributes to make the world a shit…. in other words you’re a public enemy, people should curb and isolate you
This is not an unpopular opinion
I wish selfishness was unpopular.
If I worked fast food I’d probably stick to this mentality until I got further ahead too.
This is the individualist capitalist society gone to the max. This is an absolutely awful take and exactly the problem of young people and the like in this day and age which will just drive us further apart over time. Humans aren’t meant to be solitary creatures and they evolutionarily had to work together and support each other and that’s just how most of us are programmed (to some degree).
Are you saying OP that you don’t do nice deeds for people without expecting anything in return? Everything is always transactional with you? If so, that is a pretty miserable way of life.
Look at the east how everyone is so warm and giving towards one another, they’re generally more happy and satisfied with their lives, even though they’re not materially rich. These communities always flourish (but sadly their governments are corrupt).
Yep and most people suck anyways! There’s no point of hanging out with people who don’t elevate you.
Be kind to each other but don’t expect special treatment. No one is special. We’re all people just trying to get through our shitty days. Don’t owe strangers anything and no one owes you anything.
I also thought the same way when I was 12
Have you ever been diagnosed as a sociopath? Not trying to be funny; what you write has very strong sociopathic vibes.
Agree, but not sure this is really unpopular. People will say it’s the wrong attitude, but deep down, people will always save themselves. We’re animals. Useless to pretend we’re not.