not writing this for sympathy or advice. just want it out of my head
so i live with 4 other roommates in a hostel. one of them… let’s call him R, i considered like my brother. like literally, a brother. i thought he had my back. he knew almost everything about me.
i had been feeling lonely for a while and told him i wanted to talk to a girl. just talk. make a bond. feel a little cared for. after asking a few times, he gave me an instagram id of a girl, let’s call her Z. said she was a friend of a friend from his coaching.
i messaged her. she replied. we talked on and off for about a month. she wasn’t too interested, not too cold either. just enough to keep me guessing. that “in-between” space that messes with your head. i never asked for video calls or voice notes. she posted pics. seemed real. convincing enough.
the id looked too real. bio, highlights, tagged photos — even random mirror selfies on stories once in a while. not just random text replies. actual presence. so i kept giving them the benefit of doubt. told myself, maybe she’s just a little reserved.
and the biggest blunder? i kept sharing everything about her with R and the rest of my roommates. screenshots. chats. doubts. overthinking. outfit ideas. feelings. even what gift to give her. i told them everything. every single detail became their tool.
i even asked R multiple times if she was real, or if his coaching friend really knew her. and he acted like he was offended. gave me believable stories. i trusted him like a fool.
then came the day before we were supposed to meet. she said she booked a restaurant seat, asked me to split the payment. i paid. we were supposed to meet the next evening.
but that morning, something felt off. i confronted R and asked again. “be honest, are you guys faking this?” and the way he acted, bro. like it was a movie. shocked face. defensive tone. pretended to call his coaching friend in front of me. said he was confirming it all for my peace of mind. i don’t know what performance school he went to but i believed him. AGAIN.
so, i got ready. went with R to the saloon. he picked my shirt. gave tips. hyped me up. made me feel special.
in the evening, she messaged saying, “wanna see my outfit?” and asked for a video call. excitedly i went to the balcony.
i picked the call.
and boom.
it was not her. it was one of my roommates — let’s call him K — on the video, laughing with the others behind. they had faked the entire thing. Z was never real. it was their fake account. every message. every emotion. all of it was a setup. a prank.
i stood there holding a gift i bought based on their advice. and they were laughing. asking if they could have the gift.
in that moment i felt like a clown. like my heart just died.
they didn’t just prank me.
they murdered someone i believed in. they murdered Z.
even after the reveal, they acted like it was just a joke. just fun. no big deal. and R? he slept peacefully that night. like nothing happened. like he hadn’t killed a part of me that would never grow back.
so yeah. maybe to the world it was a joke.
but for me — they murdered a bond, a trust, a friend i believed in.
and now i walk around like a ghost… and they laugh like it’s all just normal.
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That’s fucked up mate.
I’m sorry … That was not OK
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Brother, that’s straight up cruelty. Indeed they murdered someone you believed in and felt a connection with. They also betrayed your trust and all played along with it, especially R who you consider(ed?) a brother. My heart goes out to you. Wishing you well.
Stop crying like a girl. If you have a chance , beat this guy. If you don’t, stop all communication. Don’t be that much stupid next time
With friends like these, who needs enemies?
That’s low. Wow. Some people.
Bro, you did no deserve this fucked up act!
Move out when you can, leave them and never look back. If they can not understand the hurt and trauma this bs can/probably did cause, they shouldn’t be in your life.
It screams ‚no empathy‘, they dont understand the depth this action has for someone who needed an actual human connection.
I would suggest you to chat with people online, maybe gaming with a headset? I know a few people who made good friends like this.
I also think you should build your confidence and self-worth up.
Best of luck buddy, you got this!
Jesus, that’s just horrible. How can someone think this is even remotely funny? They’ve proven that you trusted the wrong dudes. Hope you cut contact and that everything works out great for you man.
As for all the revenge advice, I would think twice about doing it. The hurt they caused you cannot be undone, but you can decide how much control they have of your future. The more energy you put into these types of dudes, the more energy you wasted on them.
Feel free to message me if you want a friend to chat to. English isn’t my mothertounge, so I could use the practise 🙂
tldr
I feel like betrayal stings the most when the perpetrators just act like it was no big deal. Or worse, they act like it didn’t even happen.
It’s obviously cruel, but it’s also super fucking weird for them to spend so much time and energy on this whole thing just to ‘prank’ you. Lame ass dudes
All the people that pranked you are probably the biggest losers ever. Don’t let them get to you, cut any contact with them. I’m so sorry this happened
Distance bro at all cost!
Time for some new friends.
This is why you don’t have any real women interested in you. You’re overly sensitive. Buying gifts for someone you’ve never met. You fell in love with an idea. Your friends suck man. I think they taught you a valuable lesson in a horrible way. No woman likes an over sensitive door mat. Recover and get yourself some confidence. Maybe wash your asshole with your roommates toothbrushes too. Move and reinvent yourself. You got this.
I’m so sorry, OP. This was NOT just a joke and these people are NOT your friends. It was absolutely cruel. BTW, please don’t listen to any rude or sexist comments saying men shouldn’t have feelings or that women wouldn’t like it. Fuck that noise. Any decent person would empathize with you.
Brother.. these are not your friends. They are not your people. Please distance yourself from them. It’s not even funny.
That’s disgusting! I am so sorry this happened, I hope you heal and get away from this horrible situation soon
You need to cut these people out of your life, to these people you are nothing but a joke to them. Jesus if that happen to me I would be so pissed who knows what I would do.
Get away from those people before it’s too late. Those are not your people.
These people are bot your friends!!! They are horrible. You need to find another place to live.
They are not friends. Find a new place to live before you’re the target of the next. “prank”.
Pranks are harmless and funny for both parties. This was straight up cruelty.
Bullies. You should screw then over at your earliest convenience and then disappear and block them
Pranks are cruel by their nature. You need better friends. These ones sound like bullies.
Damn dude. Your roommates really suck. That was fucked up. I’m so sorry this happened to you. People are so mean.
That’s not a prank. That’s cruel, mean-spirited bullying. I’m so sorry that was done to you by people you trusted. It’s not easy, but you may consider cutting them off and finding a better class of friends.
Your “friends” are cruel jerks and not friends at all.
That’s messed up. “Murdered” is the wrong word to use. Nobody died in real life. You should have a heart to heart conversation about how wrong this is with them. If they don’t change for the better, you will need new friends. Sounds like their moral compass and level of ethics is askew.
Not a prank, it’s cruel and I hope the removal of these people from your life and time will heal this for you.
You’ve made internet strangers sad for you today
These guys are such losers. Get some new friends and I promise things will get better. No one with good things going in their lives would waste their time doing something so cruel and unnecessary
Those are not your friends. Move out, you don’t want those types of people in your life
Well luckily you know where they sleep. Time for the ol’ “handful of worms in the mouth” prank while they’re asleep. Winner is whoever has the most in the end.