Marriage vows talk about sickness and health but they rarely mention the secret fast food runs that lead to extreme ultimatums. Navigating weight issues with a partner is a total minefield. You want to be supportive and loving but you also want them to literally stay alive. One young wife on Reddit recently hit her absolute breaking point and dropped a strict timeline on her marriage that has everyone talking.
The Original Poster is a twenty seven year old stay at home wife. When she first met her husband he weighed two hundred and eighty pounds. He was always a larger guy and she accepted that completely. But they had a very clear mutual understanding early on in the relationship. She was totally fine with his current size but any additional weight gain would be a massive dealbreaker for strict health reasons.
Then real life happened. The comfortable relationship weight crept up on both of them and they each gained forty pounds. The wife gave him a totally fair pass during this era. She knew she could not judge him for packing on the pounds when she was doing the exact same thing.
Eventually the wife decided it was time to get back in shape. She put in the hard work and successfully lost almost all of her extra weight. She is currently passionately working on dropping the last ten pounds. Her husband went in the complete opposite direction. Instead of joining her health journey he just kept gaining.
The daily reality of his size started taking a dark toll on their household. The wife cooks all of their meals and ensures everything she serves at home is healthy and balanced. But since she stays home while he goes out to work she strongly suspects he is binge eating fast food on his commute. They also share one cheat day a week and she thinks he is going way too crazy when the dietary rules are lifted.
The true severity of the situation became impossible to ignore when she noticed him struggling to breathe while doing basic household tasks. Watching the person you love pant and wheeze just walking across the living room is absolutely terrifying. Curiosity finally got the best of her and she asked him to step on her scale.
The number staring back at them was a whopping three hundred and fifty pounds. The wife completely lost it. She realized her twenty seven year old husband was actively eating himself into an early grave. Panic and frustration took over and she delivered a completely savage but highly practical reality check.
She looked her husband in the eye and told him she is way too young to tie herself down to a man she will probably bury in two decades. She flat out told him that if he does not lose weight before the year ends she is officially filing for divorce. She refused to waste her youth only to end up as a fifty something widow or a full time caregiver.
Unsurprisingly the husband was deeply hurt by the brutal ultimatum. He called her horrible for being ready to drop him over the scale when he is otherwise a great partner. The wife actually agrees that he is a wonderful husband. But she ruthlessly pointed out that she could easily find another great guy who will actually live long enough to see her hair turn grey.
The final nail in the coffin is their future family planning. The wife desperately wants to have children before her biological clock runs out but she is looking at a man who physically cannot even bend down. Parenting a toddler requires constant squatting lifting and sprinting. A man who struggles to breathe while standing up cannot chase a two year old around a playground.
The internet is fiercely divided on this one. Some people think threatening divorce over weight makes her an ahole and a shallow partner. Others completely applaud her for refusing to sign up for a lifetime of medical debt and early widowhood. Sometimes true love means delivering a harsh wake up call before it is permanently too late. What would you do if your partner refused to take care of their health? Sound off in the comments below!