This Dad Called His Girlfriend “Selfish” for Going to a Job Interview Instead of Picking Up His Kids, and the Audacity is Breathtaking

We need to have a very serious conversation about single dads who date women not because they are looking for a partner, but because they are looking for an unpaid nanny who they can also sleep with. It is a tale as old as time, and honestly, it is getting exhausting. One man on Reddit just exposed himself as the CEO of this club, and his lack of self-awareness is truly something to behold.

Our narrator is a 36-year-old father of two boys, aged 13 and 9. Their biological mother is out of the picture, so he has been raising them with his girlfriend of two years. He works full time, and up until recently, his girlfriend stayed home and “took care of everything else.” And by everything else, he means she was raising his children, cleaning his house, and managing his life.

But apparently, this arrangement wasn’t exactly paradise for her. She would complain that the kids were causing constant messes and weren’t disciplined properly. She felt overwhelmed. She even told him that she felt like she was “more of a parent” than he was. And his response to this cry for help? He dismissed it entirely because, in his mind, “since I provide an income,” he is the ultimate parent. Sir, writing a check does not make you a father. It makes you a financier. Raising children involves actual labor, which you were happily outsourcing to your girlfriend for free.

So, the girlfriend did what any sane person would do. She decided she wanted out of the house. She wanted to go back to work. She started looking for jobs, and she finally landed an interview. This should have been a moment of celebration and support. Instead, it became the catalyst for a tantrum of epic proportions.

The day of the interview arrives. The girlfriend is prepping for this huge opportunity. And what does our “supportive” boyfriend do? He calls her. Not to wish her luck. Not to hype her up. He calls to remind her to pick his kids up from school.

When she reminded him that she was literally about to walk into her interview, he was “stunned.” He couldn’t believe she wasn’t going to drop everything for his children. He told her to just “go get them.” He actually expected her to blow off a potential career opportunity to run an errand that he, the actual parent, failed to plan for.

He refused to leave his job because it would “affect” him, but he had absolutely zero qualms about demanding she sabotage her job prospects. He even asked if she could just take “10 minutes” to do it. I am sorry, but have you ever been to a job interview? You cannot just tell the hiring manager to hold on while you do a school run. The delusion is off the charts.

The girlfriend, showing a shiny spine, refused. She told him she was tired of being at his beck and call. The kids ended up being picked up late by a friend, which is unfortunate for them, but entirely their father’s fault. He knew she had an interview. He just assumed her life was less important than his convenience.

When they got home, he had the nerve to call her selfish. He accused her of “ditching” the kids. He is projecting so hard he could be an IMAX. He is the one who ditched his kids. He is the one who failed to arrange childcare knowing his unpaid nanny was unavailable.

She called him an ahole and went to stay with her mom. And frankly, she should stay there.

So, is he the ahole? Yes. A thousand times, yes. You are the ahole. You treated this woman like a servant. You devalued her time, her career, and her contribution to your family. She wasn’t being selfish; she was trying to build a life for herself that didn’t revolve around cleaning up your messes. You didn’t lose a girlfriend; you lost the best employee you never paid.