There is nothing, and I mean nothing, like a giant, unexpected pile of money to show you exactly who a person is. Prenup conversations are always awkward, but one man on Reddit just found out his fiancée’s “principles” about money are, shall we say, 100 percent dependent on whose money it is.
Our story comes from a 33-year-old guy who is, by all accounts, doing pretty well. He makes $250k a year. His fiancée, 36, makes $65k. They’ve both been divorced before, and his first one was a nightmare. He got burned. His ex took things he had before the marriage, including sentimental stuff, just to be cruel.
So, being a smart, once-bitten-twice-shy adult, he “floated” the idea of a prenup. And his request was so reasonable. He wasn’t trying to hoard future wealth. He just wanted to protect his existing assets: two rental properties, his retirement, his house, and his savings. He made it crystal clear: “anything earned AFTER the wedding [is] fair game.” He even offered to pay for her lawyer!
This is not a red flag, people. This is a green one. This is a man who has learned from his trauma and is trying to protect both of them by setting clear, fair boundaries.
And how did his fiancée react to this mature, responsible suggestion? Oh, she was “not OK with it.” Her “feelings were hurt.” She pulled out the classic, emotionally manipulative line: “you’re planning for a divorce if I want a prenup.” She hit him with the “when we marry everything becomes ours” fantasy, and he, being a man in love who wanted to keep the peace, caved. He said, “sure.” He dropped it.
Fast forward a few months. Her grandmother, who was apparently quite healthy, abruptly and unexpectedly passed away. And in a stunning turn of events, grandma left the entire estate to the fiancée. We are talking roughly $800,000.
And what, my friends, is the very first thing this woman did, after her “feelings were hurt” by the very word “prenup”? You guessed it. She immediately demanded a prenup.
I am screaming. The hypocrisy is so rich, it should be taxed. She now wants a legal document to protect her new assets from him. And you know what? He was fine with it! He was like, “Great, let’s do it. You protect your new $800k, and I’ll protect my $400k in properties. We’ll sign both.”
And this is where the story goes from “oh, that’s hypocritical” to “oh, you are a full-on villain.” She said no. She refuses to sign his prenup. She is demanding that her $800k be protected, but his pre-marital assets must remain “ours,” as per her original, romance-novel argument.
Her “reasoning” is a masterwork of manipulative garbage. First, she says her grandma wouldn’t want the wealth to “leave her direct family.” Which is… LITERALLY… the exact same reason he wanted to protect his family properties.
But her second reason is the one that deserves a medal for sheer, unmitigated gall. She argued that the prenup “must not have been important to me because I threw out the idea after minimal pushback.” She is using his love for her, his willingness to compromise to make her happy, his capitulation… as legal justification for why he doesn’t deserve the same protection she’s demanding for herself.
So, is he the ahole? He is so far from being the ahole, he’s in another solar system. He just got a $800,000 wake-up call. He’s not dating a partner; he’s engaged to an opportunist who just showed her entire hand. He’s not wondering if the relationship is “salvageable.” He’s seeing, for the first time, who he’s really about to marry. And it is not pretty.