TLDR: A guy really played with my heart after pursuing me FIRST, when I didnt even want to pursue anyone right now.
Ive been really hurt the past 2 weeks by this guy that REALLY effed with me mentally and emotionally.
So, he reached out to me on Facebook in mid March. I didn’t see his message until mid April. We immediately connected well. We talked pretty much all day and night over text. We had a 6 hour phone call the second day we talked, and he was VERY into me.
Anyways, we planned to meet up about a week later. I have a son and he knows that and I let me son meet him too. (Mistake I know, but I had no sitter for my son).
We REALLY connected when we were together. He was really affectionate, giving me kisses, and being so loving and amazing. I have a chronic illness and I have symptoms that are really scary sometimes.
Anyways, he was so amazing. He kept me calm during the moments I had my scary symptom flares and was very reassuring.
I apologized for the episodes and said “This is just part of who you are, I accept it.”
That REALLY made me fall for him even more, saying that and acting the way he did. Mind you, I was in an abusive relationship for 9 years and so, I am not used to someone treating me so well and being understanding of how im feeling.
The entire weekend, he was telling me that he really likes me and will never do anything to mess this up, fumble me, etc.
So I believed him and literally allowed myself to fall for this person.
The day he takes me back home, he sends me all these texts. Ones like “I really enjoy being with you and I want to be a great figure to your son.”
“I cant wait to possibly see you guys next weekend, i need to see you again.” Etc.
Well, the next few days, he gets super weird towards me. His texts become dry, takes forever to reply and his demeanor changes.
I ask him if he still likes me or if hes okay because he seems off.
He makes up this entire excuse to where he cant talk to me right now or pursue anything with me because hes going through drama with his cousin and needs to get it figured out. He tells me he needs time and he doesnt want to lose me.
Confused, I agree to give him time and pull away. Well, it seems he made up with his cousin as I saw him talking to him on a Facebook post. So, why didnt he update me or at least say something to me?
We havent really talked since that night he said he needs to think about things for a while. He did comment on my facebook story about my son’s hair cut saying it was cute, but thats it.
Ive been trying to patiently wait for him to come back, but I lost my patience and need to move on. It just hurts because he pursued me first. I told him I didn’t want a relationship or to talk with men right now do to my chronic illness and thay I wasn’t ready right now.
But, I gave in once I saw how well we clicked and how amazing he really made me feel.
Then, today I notice he posted about finding another girl and how she’s the one. He literally told me that I was the one, not even a week ago. Wtf man…
I just dont understand what happened…