I (18M) and my ex (19F) started dating back in 2024 Jan. Things went well mostly until August where we had to go into LDR cuz of our studies. We ended up breaking up in September and went NC for about two months after which I reached out at the start of Nov. She told me she had moved on but around December mid we had a chance to meet up back in our home country and she said she was confused and we ended up making out but she still said she was confused abt her feeling and were not dating yet but I wanted to wait and I was ready to wait for her.
Then 2025 Jan comes around and we go back to our universities and around Jan end she kept talking about how the reason we broke up was cuz I messed up(which I did…I yelled at her when i got mad multiple times which lead to our break up and I understand why she left me). It hurt cuz she kept saying how we were just friends for now, and honestly it hurt and I asked her for a day to figure out what I wanted and when I returned to talk to her she assumed I wanted to stop talking and an argument started up which ended up w her blocking me everywhere.
Around March mid we somewhat started to talk and she says that she’s not confused abt her feelings rn and she doesn’t want to get back in a rs w me but I still wanted to wait for her knowing that the chances are slim. Recently two weeks ago I was on a call w her talking to her abt how I wanted to wait for her and I will wait for her which then the call ended in a good note but later that night she sends a video of her drunk and she talks abt how she kissed another guy cuz for the first time she felt desired by a guy which obv hurt me. I tried to talk to her that entire week(this happened on a Saturday) which I couldn’t cuz she was busy and when Friday comes along I tried to talk to her and she says she made it up to try and get me to move on from her.
A week ago I (being a very socially anxious person) went out w my guy friends along w some girls who we got comfortable w as a group and I told her about it and she thought I was trying to flaunt that I was getting flirted on which wasn’t true cuz in my mind all I want is her but she talks abt how I’m doing this to get her jealous but she won’t get jealous and not to involve her in this anymore when in reality I love her and I continue to and I don’t want anyone else and I told her how I never intended on leaving her life and how I need her in my life. I know she said she won’t get jealous but for some reason I do feel like she got jealous there which I thought could be cuz she still has feelings for me.
Day before yesterday night i was calling her and she says “you saying all these sweet things makes me want to fall in love with u again” which hearing that made me happy but the next day morning that’s yesterday morning I messaged her about how I still love her and asked her if she’s stringing me along please let me know. She at first promised she wasn’t and then she said maybe we should stop talking to avoid both of us getting hurt. I asked her why she constantly has been trying to stop talking to me or get me to move on from her and she says cuz she isn’t good enough for me…I want to talk to her but idk how to approach this. I wanna tell her to stop making the decision for me and I want to wait…am i missing anything here…please i need an outside opinion on how she’s feeling abt this cuz i don’t understand and i can’t even talk to her for now.
tl;dr: I still have feelings for my ex and I am unsure how she feels about me because of mixed signals
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You are only 18. Nothing will come from this friendship. Stop talking and move on. It is painful but it will be more painful to drag it on and on. These things are part of growing up.
You are only 18. Nothing will come from this friendship. Stop talking and move on. It is painful but it will be more painful to drag it on and on. These things are part of growing up.