I’m currently on the outs with my best friend of 30+ years because when I was at his house dropping off some stuff this past weekend, the dog got out the front door somehow and nobody noticed until after she was already gone. Thankfully nothing bad happened to her.
5 minutes after I left his house, he’s calling me on the phone literally screaming at the top of his lungs calling me an irresponsible asshole who never pays attention for letting his dog out. I swear to him ( truthfully) that she was safely in backyard when I last saw her. He then tells me never fucking talk to him again and hangs up in my face while I’m still trying to figure out WTF just happened.
I immediately turn around and tell him I’m coming back to look for her. He texts me back saying not to bother because he already found her, and that he wasn’t in the mood to talk. He THEN tells a mutual friend of ours that I’m on his “shit list”.
Almost 40 years of friendship, possibly fubared over an accident / mishap that could’ve easily happened to anyone. While he is rightfully angry, I won’t tolerate abuse. I’ve had to verbally blast him for getting out of line before.
We’ve got a lot of mutual friends, shared industry connections, and a few vested business interests. If we can’t reach an agreement, I don’t know how this is gonna play out.
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I’m currently on the outs with my best friend of 30+ years because when I was at his house dropping off some stuff this past weekend, the dog got out the front door somehow and nobody noticed until after she was already gone. Thankfully nothing bad happened to her.
5 minutes after I left his house, he’s calling me on the phone literally screaming at the top of his lungs calling me an irresponsible asshole who never pays attention for letting his dog out. I swear to him ( truthfully) that she was safely in backyard when I last saw her. He then tells me never fucking talk to him again and hangs up in my face while I’m still trying to figure out WTF just happened.
I immediately turn around and tell him I’m coming back to look for her. He texts me back saying not to bother because he already found her, and that he wasn’t in the mood to talk. He THEN tells a mutual friend of ours that I’m on his “shit list”.
Almost 40 years of friendship, possibly fubared over an accident / mishap that could’ve easily happened to anyone. While he is rightfully angry, I won’t tolerate abuse. I’ve had to verbally blast him for getting out of line before.
We’ve got a lot of mutual friends, shared industry connections, and a few vested business interests. If we can’t reach an agreement, I don’t know how this is gonna play out.
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best friend was dating an ugly chick who was incredibly insecure about him having any friends to hang out with (we were early 20s, so partying was normal). this woman lied and said I cussed her out on facebook. When I asked where the proof was, he said she deleted the message out of anger. lol. she cut him off from all his friends and they eventually broke up.
real shame. i would see his parents, and showed them 100% respect. i tried to salvage it years later but I heard he moved to a different country. that was…14 years ago.
He broke up with his girlfriend at the time because his rich parents didn’t like her. They had been dating for 2 years and she was very sweet and supportive. I took her side unofficially, but then he became an asshole after I broke up with my then girlfriend and didn’t put any effort in reconciling after. He wrote off a lot of people during this time
Edit: clarification
I was the best man at his wedding. We had each other’s back plenty. But in the end, I just had to realize that he was racist. It had always been quiet and subtle. But after Covid he fell off the deep end. I tried to make him see all the ways he was wrong. But when he decided to drop a hard R in front of me, in public, within earshot of a black man, knowing I was dating a black woman at the time… The end.
Grew up with this girl from age 5 onward. She was the sister I wished I could have had. We fell out I think because I told her that her 33 year old bf (we were 18) gave me sleazy upstairs neighbor vibes. Haven’t seen her in more than 20 years
He keeps ghosting me.
I’m a young man, so my answer won’t do you any good — I’d kill to have had a best friend for 30+ years. But, my best friend in college started hanging out with a different crowd. I had to leave for a year for a temporary work placement, and although I kept in touch with him, when I came back, there was a chasm that I couldn’t really cross — all those shared experiences that I had left on the table for the work placement became ghosts that haunted us. He stopped responding, I eventually stopped reaching out.
6 years later, and I haven’t really had a best friend since.
I realised I invested a lot more in our friendship than he did.
Wouldn’t say fallen out but we’ve definitely drifted. They started their career in finance, became dooshy, talk and act in a way I don’t respect. Just not the same person he was when we first met as students.
A long time childhood buddy who just increasingly became more and more unpleasant to be around. It got to a point where you couldn’t even have a conversation with him where he wasn’t blaming the x group of people for one problem or another. We’re talking full on unprompted rants where he’d just be yelling at clouds.
Lmao. I would have laughed at him and told him to eat a dick if a friend of mine ever spoke to me like that. What a fucking crybaby.
For whatever its worth, unless there’s a real history here of you doing dumb shit, you need to grab a six pack, show up at his door, and say “hey man, I wanted to apologize about the dog, but I also wanted you to know that you can talk to me about literally anything, no matter what. I’ve known you for 30 years and I literally love you like a brother so if you need to talk through something – even if it is about me – I’m gonna sit here, I’m gonna listen, and I’m still gonna be your friend.”
Point is, I’d bet you a box of donuts your dude has some shit going on in his life he doesn’t think he can talk to anyone about and it isn’t about the dog – the dog was just the last fuckin thing he needed.
A start would be to apologize. It sounds like you left a gate or door open and that it’s not your first time.
Why? Honestly, religion.
Remember the movie “Cuties” on Netflix? It was a sketchy movie, I didn’t watch it or had any interest in it. I had no opinion on it, but a now former friend of mine who also didn’t see sure had an opinion on it. And gay and trans people.
In 2020, dude I was very good friends with went on a crazy tirade about the movie “Cuties” and decided to toss in some homophobic and transphobic shit in there for good measure calling them pedophiles and how the movie was a tool to groom kids, etc etc. It was some seriously wild shit.
How did he get there though? He was raised Christian and the church he would attend was actually pretty chill. It had a robust youth program that had LGBT+ kids in it. Hell, this friend played in the youth group’s band! The irony of it all was he did some seriously borderline gay shit all the time. When I’d hug him, he’d squeeze my ass and I’d smack his.
When I first met him he wasn’t suuuper religious but after a friend of his committed suicide, I think that’s when he decided to “devote himself further to god”. His youth pastor was in a Christian fraternity at our local university and friend decided go to the same frat. I think the frat fully cooked his fucking brain.
He was dating this girl who was pretty cute but split because I don’t think she was “Christian enough” or some other stupid shit. Then he met another girl at the university, I never met her. I didn’t know her name either, all I knew was he met some new girl and he couldn’t join our d&d games. Fine, whatever, man. Then I’m randomly invited to their wedding which I thought was sudden. The wedding itself was weird and dry (ie no booze, none) and i regret not hanging out with his older brothers drinking PBR and smoking cigs in the parking lot. Anyway, a year later he’s knocked up his new wife.
Fast forward to people going nuts during Covid…. He left his old church and joins a new church, a mega church. A church known for not complying with Covid regulations. He then he’s got his crazy tirade and that’s when I think most of his friends started to sloooowly disassociate from him.
Same former friend was kind of a shit to his exes I think, always tried to be morally superior but in reality was still just a guy. He always wanted to fuck, which I’m sure he could have because he wasn’t a bad guy but I think because he wanted to get laid so bad, he decided to get married asap.
I dunno, in the end he was “concerned about soul” when we were teenagers too. Tried to shame me about smoking pot with other friends either. Maybe if he hit the bong he’d realize how much of a shitbag he was actually being.
Edit: this dude I knew since freshman year of high school, so about 12ish years I knew him. We bonded over heavy metal and music.
Edit edit: a downvote, really? Fuckin losers lmao
He started saying a girl. He disappeared from our friend group for a while. None of us really liked her much, but we kept a lid on it while he was dating her. Gotta give a guy a little space.
Then she dumped him. We all unloaded about our feelings, not really to let them be known, but more to support him during a hard time.
Then they got back together. Things weren’t the same again. He continued to be distant, more so than before.
Eventually, there was nothing. We were all friendly with him, but the bond was broken….it was awkward.
They broke up again for good a while after, but it was too late. I’ve not heard from him in 10 years.
It’s sad to think about.
He sold me a lemon (car) when I was in a very dark place and too this day has not contacted me about the vehicle or reach out with any sort of apology. When I let him know it failed his only response was “oh”
sucks to end old friendships but if it becomes a burden, then it has to end imo.
He was cheating on his wife, and had kids off marriage. The kind of guy that can’t keep his hands to himself. Liar, manipulator, not exactly evil but kept on doing such behaviours. Disgusting being in some aspects although he hides it extremely well. Very fun to be around and we vibe but i can’t tolerate his behaviour.
So i just stopped talking to him.
We met in boot camp, summer is 1992, spent the next 4 years serving together and became like brothers.
Over the years always kept in touch. No matter what.
He became a US Marshal.
2020, riots were going on and he called me up to bitch about the riots.
He said the most racist, vile nazi shit if ever heard and i was so taken aback i couldn’t respond. This was not the man I once knew.
He turned into a literal racist Nazi.
I hung up on him.
Couple of days go by, and called him back to say we couldn’t be friends anymore.
28 years of being brothers, broken forever.
I still get sad when I think of it.
She was increasingly checked out on the relationship and I was doing the majority of the work keeping the friendship going. Eventually I stopped to see if she’d step up and she didn’t.
I’ve fallen out with a few close friends.
The most frustrating one was my best friend since 3rd grade. *ANYTIME* he had a girlfriend he would completely change and started treating me like I didn’t convince him to stop wearing Velcro in the 4th grade.
Typically it’s just the basic stuff. Until he met his then Fiancé, now wife. I really don’t want to sound like I’m the bitter friend in this situation. For instance: She hated us so much she refused to have us in his wedding party. Only her brother with Downs was allowed. She had a full complement of her friends in tow though.
Now her friends were now his “core friends” He was talking about this summer BBQ (in a fucking group chat with us no less) he was having a few years ago, and we just had assumed we were invited, especially since another school era friend was in town from Washington for the first time in 5 years.
We gave him a call up telling him we were on the way; did they need any ice or any extra booze.
Dead silence and then he was like “sorry this is for my close friends only, not you guys” and hung up.
That was the last time I would make an effort to communicate with him until his father passed who I had known for 35 years – didn’t even get an invitation to the funeral.
I wished him my condolences and hoped his family well.
Left me on read.
One of my best friends got me evicted from two apartments, stole my truck, and stole my rifle.
We are no longer friends.
Skipped out on a bachelor weekend due to my mother being in ICU due to a severe drug reaction requiring her to be admitted and monitored as she was having manic hallucinations for 48 hrs. I had to fly out that day I found out to be with her.
…but of course IATAH because I said no to strippers and beer.
We were best friends and ‘brothers from another mother’ for 10 years. I went out of country for 6 months and came back. Everything seemed normal and then my little sister told me that before I left and while I was gone he inappropriately got too close to her(groped her one night I was in the other room and came to my house while I was away and went to go ‘cuddle her’). She was a minor at the time and was clearly not okay with it.
I confronted him about it and he dismissed it. Didn’t see anything wrong with it. I was also very close to his family so the thought of crossing that line with his young sister never crossed my mind. Then to undermine it? That’s no brother of mine. It’s been almost 6 years since we have spoken. I miss what we had, and I forgive him for the sake of healing myself and moving on, but can’t bring myself to bring him back into my life since it seems like he would just be a bull in a China shop.
he ditched me and the rest of the circle of friends for a woman. twice. back to back. after having to come back to us hat in hand admitting he fucked up after he did it the first time. proceeded to just do it again for another chick.
Man, I really feel for you on this one. Forty years is a long time to share history with someone, and it sucks when something like this blows up out of nowhere. From the way you explained it, it honestly sounds like your friend was reacting out of panic more than anything else. When a pet gets out, adrenaline kicks in, and people say things they don’t mean. Doesn’t make it right, but it might explain the extreme reaction.
That said, you’re also right to set boundaries. There’s a huge difference between someone expressing frustration and someone unloading on you in a way that crosses the line. If he cools down and reaches out, maybe there’s a path forward with a real conversation. But if he doubles down and refuses to meet you halfway, you might have to protect your own peace, especially with your shared friends and business ties.
Sometimes time is the only thing that untangles situations like this. Give it a little space, and see whether he values the friendship enough to circle back when the emotions fade.
He was cheating on his wife, mother of his 2 kids for 3 years. I had no idea.
My wife randomly asked me one day if I knew who “xx” was. I said “yeah, Dave(best friend) and her were fwb before he met (his wife)”
“Oh, because (best friends wife) just messaged me to ask as she found some messages on his phone but he said she’s just a friend”
He never forgave me, but I never asked him to. I didn’t mean to put him in it but he was doing a shitty thing anyway as his wife was a sweetheart.
He now lives in a shitty flat with an ugly lassie and has a nasty coke habit.
Been 9 years.
He was an asshole and I stopped entertaining his shit and feeling bad after each meeting. So I cut him off
I was there for all her problems during her break up. We saw each other every day. She found a boyfriend and suddenly I was basically cut out of her life. From daily to once a week to once every two weeks.
Then we didn’t see each other for half a year due to me being abroad.
She had new problems with her bf and I was there for her again and helping her fix things in their relationship.
I then told her some stuff bothering me in my life. She either ignored them or made jokes about them
My first high school best friend, who I’ve even had a couple of gay experiments with, just dropped off the face of the earth one day.
She’s slept with my ex, while we were together. They started dating after we split up, Then she started harassing me when he left her because she somehow thought it was my fault! 🤷♀️ 🤦♀️ she was amazing!! 🤣🤣
Had an argument with the guy’s gf. Many years back, can’t remember what it was about. He was being neutral trying to keep things cool between me and her. I decided to break contact because she would be unavoidable and putting a friend, especially a best friend, in a situation where they’re going to choose between two people is dickish and childish.
The other one, we were in a situationship. When the opportunity finally presented itself, i asked her out and she said no. We acted like nothing happened. Then a few months. later she asks me out. She really poured her heart out and brushed aside her ex. I really hated the guy. Couldn’t spell to save his life and was a party-er. She said he was a rebound and it wasn’t serious. While I appreciated her honesty, that killed anything I felt for her. I hated the jackass but there are some things you just don’t do…
That and she tried to sabotage a date with a girl I really liked….
My former best friend at work went through a divorce. Ive been friends with him and her since they were dating, best man at their wedding, met the baby after birth before family, crashed on their couch while I was going through my own divorce.
He wanted me to tell him that she was a piece of shit and didnt deserve anything HE had worked for. Since I was pretty fresh out of my divorce, I tried to give him good advice that would benefit both parties AND the kids. He quit talking to me for 6 months, and now we might say hi when passing at work
Does your friend’s wife / partner like you? What do they think of you? It’s possible he was pressure into yelling at you by their partner. Ofcourse this also means they are a spineless person without a pair. I ask and mention this because he waited until you left the house and made a call to yell at you. When we are impulsive we usually go at it on the spot, time to think would mean you cool off or an angry text message at most, this smells a lot like pressured, but I’m not psychic
We had a sweet (as in almost perfect, not confectionary) business that would have set us both up for life.
He got greedy. He decided drugs / gambling / prostitutes were more important.
You can guess the rest, I’m sure.
Actually 2.
1.
Knew since middle school and lived across the street from my parents. Considered this dude a brother up and we’re close up until mid 20’s.
He tried getting with my girlfriend at the time while we were having issues. He was texting her telling her to leave me saying he always had a crush on her and a bunch of other shit. I obviously found out and saw all the messages. At first I thought it was a joke but it wasnt. I confronted him and he ran inside and was yelling out his bedroom window to call the cops if I didnt leave like a coward.
There was a slim chance in the future we could’ve put that behind us but then he was arrested a year or 2 later for trying to get with a 9th grader while he was 27. He still lives across the street from my parents and I haven’t said a word to him since.
2.
The other was another childhood friend. At 27 I had recently moved back home temporarily and he needed help with bills. Asked me to move in and seemed like a win win for both of us. No lease situation but we split the bills 50/50 plus I paid rent. Ended moving in with him for 11 months.
This word gets tossed around alot but I really beleive he may actually be a narcissist. Started out good but turned into a dominance/power play thing with him where he thought he could just boss me around and disrespect me. Towards the end I was actually paying about 80 percent of the bills as well. because he’d blow his pay on stupid shit.
It was like living with a controlling parent / spouse. Any girl I was seeing he didnt like and they were banned (unless he was seeing someone too). Every friend of mine that wasnt mutually his was “a loser” so they were banned ( I dont hangout with shadey people or anything either). Meanwhile he’d invite groups of people he just met (usually a bunch of fresh 21 year olds) and they’d trash the place. Then he would expect me to clean it.
Then there was this weird shit where he would expect me to drop any previous plans to either hang with him or go to the bar with short notice. Sometimes it would be “me and such and such are going to the bar at 6, don’t be late. He would get “offended ” when I told him I couldnt and it would be his usual retaliation. Either
A. Stomping around and slamming things all night for a week.
Or
B. Punching walls and yelling .
Then he had a 8 year old kid who he’d have 1 night a week. He would encourage this kid to disrespect me. Like cursing me out or walking in my room at night and screaming while I was sleeping due to having work early. I yelled at the kid a few times and it was “don’t yell at my kid”. Also the way this dude would talk about the kids mother infront of the kid was disgusting.
He would also tell this kid these ridiculous made up stories feom high school (I went to high school with him btw) . Things like how he used to be a bully that everyone was scared of and even said that their last name is a “legacy”. As stupid as that sounds and how he wasnt remotely anything like that, why the hell would you be telling an 8 year old this encouraging them to be a bully?
I was just thinking fuck this. Im basically this dudes bitch. I gave him notice 3 weeks out, gave him rent in advance even for the next month. He begged me to stay due to him not being able to afford things. Nope.
After I moved out he tried to turn out mutual friends against me by lying about me talking bad about them behind their back. In all actually, he talked bad about everybody behind their backs. He was constantly involved in drama that he usually started. It was pure insanity.
5 year close friend and I had a falling out over certain (what some would call) draconian covid lockdown policies.
It’s not really that we had a falling out, they just stopped messaging me all of a sudden a year after I moved to another location. I tried asking them what was up and they didn’t really have any reason, so I assume it’s just because I wasn’t local any more.
He started hanging out with a group that got him into cocaine. He began to act recklessly and arrogantly. I had to cut him off as he just became far too toxic to be around. I miss him sometimes, but mainly the person he was.
Oh, this is a good one!
So my best friend, I introduced him to this girl I knew. They got hot and heavy, his and her first real relationship.
About a year later, they introduce me to her sister, who I started dating pretty seriously and it was going great.
Fast forward about two years, I’m still dating her sister, and this girl gets tired of my friend. She was younger than him, still in school and he’s going to college now and she wanted to start partying and being wild and he was (like me) a wet blanket. Every single time she tried to break it off with him he’d turn into a little bitch and start bawling and she’d take him back.
Few months later, suddenly, while I’m staying over at my girlfriend’s house, my buddy’s girlfriend starts having this guy over for sleepovers. Didn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out she had started cheating on him.
So I was a good friend. I went over to his place and had a conversation with him about what was happening. Let him know it’s happened multiple times and didn’t really give him any judgement about what he should do, just let him know that there was some shadiness going on and I felt he should know.
She convinced him that I was trying to split them up because I wanted her for myself… and he bought it.
He stopped talking to me after that and I kind of had to shake my head.
About six months later he caught her in the act. Came over while my girl and I were sitting on her couch and walked in on them going at it. He tried to rekindle the friendship after that, but I was all good. When someone tells you who they are, I listen to them the first time.
Not sure if we fell through because I’m still living it but it’s starting to feel like it. Reason? He wanted go backpacking through Europe but it’s pretty difficult for me to risk my job right now (he comes from money and I don’t) due to moving into a new apartment this year. He was planning it around another trip with his family and I felt peer pressured and told him I wasn’t doing it. He distanced himself from there.
The last time I had a falling out with a friend was over a woman a little over 20 years ago. To set the stage: 1) He introduced us 2) He was married – obviously to someone else. I still don’t fully understand what happened there as he just stopped speaking with me. I had heard second hand from someone that he had designs on the woman he introduced me too, but she thought he was a dork and he did have some issues. I can’t imagine ending a years-long friendship with someone because a woman you introduced your friend to was interested in him WHEN YOU ARE ALREADY MARRIED.
I had two close friends, brothers. The older brother and I went to high school together and still talk a lot, even though we are several states apart. The older brother experienced a sudden loss of his wife and was left with a 9-year-old daughter. It was traumatic for him, and he relied on friends and family.
Except my other friend, the younger brother, who never liked the now deceased wife, couldn’t be bothered to offer any kind of help, emotional or physical. Even said he was glad the wife was dead.
The younger showed his true colors that day, and I haven’t talked to him since. Around 2006 is when this happened.
He passed away before Covid.
He joined the Marines. His girlfriend cheated on him, and her and the guy for some reason gaslit him into thinking she cheated with me. He knows the truth now, but things have never been the same.
The ego. I’ve known her for over a decade, got first seat at some of her fights with friends… She even admitted to holding tight to her ego before she acknowledged she was in the wrong .. fate had it, it would be just that that got between us and she wouldn’t budge and me either. She prefers to keep her ego? Good. I prefer to try and talk things out, admit when I was in the wrong (which I was and admired it), but she just used it as fuel and arguments to feed her ego more..nope… That’s not the best friend I signed up for, in out, and at this point I realized I had been way too patient, not to say stupid, to take up so much shit
I had a close friend in high school. He struggled with his weight, his acne, and connecting with folks. He was the sweetest person, and I really bonded with him, spending a lot of time together, talking about a lot of shared interests. Unfortunately, I dated his friend briefly (which ended messily, and he never forgave me for it), which placed a strain on our relationship. I went off to college, my ex girlfriend wound up dating another one or two guys in the friend group.. but never him.. He had a really nasty holiday season where both his grandparents died suddenly, and I was pretty well out of the picture at that point. I’ve seen him two or three times since, and his whole personality has shifted. He’s sullen, spiteful, angry, and rude. It hurts a lot to see that change in him, and he’s managed to piss off all of our former mutual friends. He finally got his chance with that ex girlfriend, and immediately became moderately obsessed. She got freaked out, and he tried to SA her before things ended for good. I saw him recently at a car show, and he acted like he didn’t know who I was. I think that hurts worse than most of the rest of it.
He and my brother always made ‘edgy’ racist jokes. I assumed that’s all it was until he disowned his sister for being in a relationship with a black man. There was no drama, simply stopped talking to him. He accumulated iron cross tattoos and a motorcycle and moved to Arizona.
He could not beat his coke addiction and didn’t want to. After a mutual friend was found dead by his single mother, I swore off that whole life. He never did. He always tried to set up lines, even when i told him specifically its not allowed in my house.
After years of trying to help him get off it, and seeing him not even try, i tealized that I cant do anymore and he is a negative influence on my life.
We were friends for 25 years and we worked together at a company together for a couple years. I moved on to another company and he stayed. A couple years later the writing was on the wall- his company was about to be bought and dissolved and most of the staff was going to be let go. I lobbied hard to get him a job in my group and he got hired.
He was terrible. We were in a support group and he would just let problems languish until management freaked out on us. I later found out that at his old job he just stopped caring and they moved him to a position with minimal work to keep him out of the way. Around the time we hired him he married an outright racist and switched his friend group to some primarily racist trashy people. Eventually after many uncomfortable conversations with our mutual boss he got a job somewhere else. I love the guy and I still see him, mostly at funerals of our friends’ parents. But he blames me for the drama from where we worked together and hanging out with him meant also being around his garbage wife and friends.
I quit calling/texting one day to see if they’d ever reach out as I felt our friendship had become one-sided. They never did and it’s been 15 years. We were basically inseparable from childhood to our early 20’s.
Had my suspicion confirmed.
Made new friends, new social circle and just wouldn’t bother to keep the relationship between us.
Realized they just like laughing at me than ever laughing with me, when my long term girlfriend broke up with me he just made me the butt of a joke despite the fact this guy has a drinking problem and barely holds a job while living with his parents at 36.
My first friend I made after moving to a new country and job. We worked closely together and hung out all the time for 7 years. Groomsmen at each other’s weddings.
Then I left the job, in pursuit of greater things. He completely cut off contact after that. I also started hearing that he was saying nasty things about me to people I still knew at the old job. He didn’t even call or message me to congratulate me on the birth of my son (who he kept jokingly suggesting I name after him). Really glad I didn’t do that.
Best friend in k-12. Literally joined at the hip since 2nd grade until 3rd-4th year of college. He moved to SC and I was still living in NY. My GF and I took a road trip to Orlando and was picking him up on the way. When we get to his area, my gf and I slept at his parent’s house (who were like my second family because we were so close) while he left to sleep at his gf’s place.
So after that awkwardness, we get to Orlando and I’m super excited to hang out with him since it’s actually the first time we get to hang out when we’re over 21.
The entire time however, he is on the phone with his girl. And then like day 3 of 7 he says that he knocked his girl up and she’s demanding he comes home and wants us to literally cut our trip short to drive him back to SC. I tell him no fucking way. And he’s pissy the rest of the trip.
Dropped him back off after the trip was over and that’s the last time I’ve spoken to him. I’m 45 now so over 20 years ago. I’ve tried reaching out via his father once or twice, but he never bothered to contact me back. He has no social media as he’s always lived a rural simple life so I’ve never been able to ever find other ways to contact him.
My dad died. We weren’t close and he wasn’t a good father, or man for that matter. But I called my high school best friend once we had the memorial planned and asked if we could get together on what I knew would be a rough night for me after the memorial. He texted me after the call and told me he’d scheduled the day off so we could have a few beers and help me get my mind off the day’s events. We talked about it several times between that call and the memorial 2 months later.
I called him the night before I left to drive back to my hometown and he said “Sorry man, I made plans with my wife because I had the day off.” I decided I was done putting effort into relationships with people who wouldn’t show up for me when they said they would. I let him know I thought his actions were selfish, that I was done with the friendship and that he shouldn’t expect to hear from me going forward. Hung up the phone and haven’t accepted another call from him since. He left voicemails apologizing about once every six months or so for the first couple years, but he seems to have finally gotten the message and the calls have stopped. I’m not mad about it, I’m just willing to entertain it anymore. Sometimes the juice just isn’t worth the squeeze.
I gained a bit of weight in my early to mid forties. He would. Not. Stop. Constantly making fat jokes. I repeatedly asked him to stop. He was especially bad when he would drink. Finally just said, fuck it. And stopped engaging with him completely. Sucks because he was my friend for over 20 years. I get it. I needed to make some life changes to address it. But if anyone just sees that as “tough love” or I am being “too sensitive”, I don’t want to be their friend.
Best friends since I was 5 years old. Heard from his own mouth that he was verbally, emotionally and physically abusive towards his wife. After watching him scream down the phone and then drunkenly scream in her face when she arrived with the car I decided I was done. Compounding this were some lies he told about me to save face for a different friend. Haven’t spoken to him in 8 years
I think this guy has his plate full. Like horribly full. Wait for him to cool down and see how you can help him and his awful life. This should not be the end of a friendship. He’s struggling.
Friends for 40 years. Was best man at his wedding. Close and like brothers. 2 things soured it. I sold him my old car for £1000 back in around 2005, and he refused to pay me, only ponying up £200 over several months, despite all his promises. Just flat out took advantage of me and our relationship. The straw that broke the camels back though was about 3 years ago when he started acting as a volunteer supervisor to a kids club armed services club. Started acting like he was something special, and started living out his service-man dreams and fantasies. Even though he’d been fired from the services for being useless, lasting only a few short years. Now there are constant posts on FB about serving his country, the honour of being one of the proud few and all that kind of nonsense. Started hanging out with like minded men of a similar mental level through the club and basically refused to give me the time of day anymore. Constant requests to meet up for a birthday drink, a Christmas meal, to watch a movie, or to exercise etc, were all rebuffed. So I just gave up trying after being rejected so many times. I’ve seen him once in like the last 2 years. It’s a shame, but when someone tells you they don’t want anything to do with you and take advantage of your friendship, it’s better to just walk away.
He became hooked on Vicodin, thanks to the white coats. His personality change was shocking and abrasive.
I don’t know man. It sounds like there was stuff going on before this and you guys were probably going through a lot of friction. If he’s been like this in the past then why would it be different now? The only other possibility is an acute neurological/psychiatric issue. Give him some time and reach out to him and tell him that you wanna work this out you’ve been friends for so long. And if he absolutely wants to end this friendship then he needs to communicate with you anyway because of your mutual business interests and beefing like this will make doing business extremely unpleasant for the both of you. I had a falling out with a friend of 12 years. He started doing drugs progressively more and more heavily and started acting more and more disrespectfully and erratically. He refused to get help so I had to cut him loose.
Was going to go to his wedding, had flights and such booked. Because I wouldn’t be at the bachelor party his wife told him that there wouldn’t be seats available for me. He believed her and told me not to worry about it and that he’d “hit me up later”. 5 years later and haven’t heard from him.
I had a friend of 20+ years I went no contact with. Everything was always 1 sided, and I believe he is an alcoholic. If I helped him move, he made me drive the truck. If we went somewhere, I would always drive. He would blow through his money, and I would end up buying drinks and post event meals. This was about 3 or 4 times a year.
The final straw was an overnight trip we scheduled to Busch Stadium to see Def Leppard, Journey, and Cheap Trick. He bought the tickets, and I took care of the hotel. 3 days before the concert, he bails on me. He said I could just have the tickets since I booked the room. The day of the show, he requests that I buy him a t-shirt since he is out $60. I bought the shirt because I felt bad he missed the show and just tried to fade away. I finally told him why I didn’t chat much with him anymore and that led to a phone call that ended the friendship for good.
He was in the Navy, married a nice Italian girl brought her back to the states and her life was hell. He lost multiple jobs for drinking in the job as a security guard and decided to go to rehab. She had no green card yet and couldn’t work despite having a college degree. He told her he was glad she got to see what his life is like while he was away. They had an infant at the time as well. He was drinking again 2 weeks out of rehab too.
I noticed he kept getting romantically obsessed with 19 year old girls. The man is in his mid 30s. Also seeing other women on the side. The only thing he talked about? How in love he was with that 19 year old girl.
Porn…it was porn for me
She was a very long time friend. Knew how I was being treated in my marriage. When we finally agreed to split my long time friend took her side. That ended the friendship right then and there.
He supported child molesters.
A couple. Both that I’d known for over a decade and both around the same time, though for unrelated reasons.
The first was a super sudden deal. My cat died couple years ago who was the main reason I’m alive. One of our other mates went to tell him and he responded “I don’t have time for this shit” and left the call. He made a lot of people’s shit lists that day and I’m not sure he’s even aware. We’re loosely on speaking terms but I don’t have any real interaction with him unless we’re both playing with a mutual.
The other was a slow burn. He was falsely accused of some serious shit and he progressively became more of a draconian cockwomble as the case was drug out. Hyperaggressive, weird ass rules in his Discord server, all manner of stuff. It came to a head when we were playing ARK on our private server and he stole someone’s prize dino off their body as a “protection fee.” They were safely offline in a reinforced communal shelter. They got on, found out, and exploded in the voice call. He exploded back. You could hear the fight through my headset from the next floor of my house. We still have 2 separate servers since the resulting schism and we still don’t do much together but he’s made significant efforts to rebuild bridges in the past year or so.
He kept trying to borrow money from me.
He became a conspiracy nut job.
Phones work both ways. I stopped initiating conversations and haven’t heard back since.
She tried to seduce me and this break up my family. She tried over a few months. The capper is she was doing this to a few people so even if I did leave my wife she would have had been with others.
This happened a couple years back and it still triggers me. Therapy is working but fuck, it’s awful to think someone would destroy other people’s lives for some new dick.
We went to Vegas and I partied so hard I had to spend another night there. He basically stopped talking to me after that. I probably deserved it.
Fwiw: Dog owners are supposed to train their dogs to not run out of the house when the door is opened. I had three Rottweilers growing up and we made sure they were trained to not run out of the door was open. Now, sometimes the gate would be left open and one would get out and go play with the kids playing street hockey, but only an irresponsible dog owner doesn’t train their dogs to not run outside.
He was visiting with another friend of his that I didn’t know and they got wasted and wanted to drive home. Not that it matters but this was like 2 hours home, not around the block. I took his keys and locked my door. Next morning they pounded on the door and I figured enough time had passed so I gave them the keys and they left. Wake up an hour later to find puke in the bathroom. Didn’t hear from him for like a year. Never a sorry, nothing. Haven’t spoken in 10 years.
Sounds like he’s got something else going on.
I slept with his girlfriend. Not worth it by the way. Lots of drugs and alcohol that lead to her coming on to me. I should have turned her down. But the mind was weak and flesh was willing. That ho is long gone and I miss my friend.
Best man at his wedding, 25+ years of friendship. But it all came down to “ they want to see you do well, but not better than them” we could be friends as long as I played no.2 when that changed he sabotaged my business and friendship group and reputation. Best thing that ever happened to me. Filtered out all the waste. I prospered in the end and he moved to another country.
2 Cases:
Number 1 thought I stole a trading card from him, when I actually got it from a friend and decided to turn the entire school against me and initiated 6 years of rampant bullying… that was a bit much imo.
Number 2 I had to move halfway across the country and loss contact with him cause his info changed as he moved houses a few weeks after I left.
Anyway, I spent 10 years on and off trying to track him down and finally found some niche SM he used and was able to reconnect.
And then 6 months later he dropped and ghosted me. So yeah, no clue why.
Guy was my best friend for more than a decade. I’ll give him an out. At the time I was too sullen. Had a relationship with a person I wanted marry burn down, family member sick, battling my own health issues, and had my dog almost die.
He was an extremely empathetic and compassionate guy and I loved the dude to death. Would’ve had his back for anything and did. At one point he gave me a timeline for grieving my family members death, stopped really caring about losing the girl, and said “it’s just a dog” when it almost died (pretty much the last thing I had). I had lost my shit on him about those things, but then about 6 months later he came back asking me to be his best man. I accepted, figured it was just something he was going through that wasn’t like him. In fairness to him, I couldn’t do that great being there for him.
Covid dropped, we had a friend group chat, and he just started instigating things with people about covid. I really wasn’t cool with it, but fuck it, I defended him. I’d take people aside, tell them he was going through a rough time, and generally get them to calm down. He finally started trying to heat me up over some stuff. I let it go, but he kept going with a friend and I. I got mad at him in the chat, basically held my own, and didn’t speak with him for a few weeks. A few weeks later he added us in a chat, and basically condemned us for how we were to him. I just said fuck it, and told him all of the things that would severe a friendship.
It was about 50 50 to be honest. I’ll take my ownership of it, but I won’t apologize for the shit I said because it was truth.
He introduced me to a friend group which includes a married couple and the wife started cheating. Sent me a lot of risky stuff that I regret encouraging. The friend group fell apart and my friend stopped talking to me.
Got a girlfriend and he switched up on everyone.
Helped my friend out of homelessness for 8 months, and helped pay for his 1st month rent at his new apartment when my lease was up. Friend was having beef with one of my friends at work. I stayed neutral, and he got mad. I back home for two weeks to reset mentally. Came back and I was blocked on social media and he turned my whole friend group against me.
It feels more like a one way friendship these days. I just told myself I’ll focus on being stronger and happier and just wait for their eventual return.
We had a falling out after he was using Covid as a reason to deny living his life instead of admitting he just had massive anxiety issues.
I celebrated my 40th birthday and asked friend to come for supper (this was 2022, long after Covid times) with myself, spouse and kids. He responded he wasn’t comfortable with that due to needing to be there to take care of his parents; like they were going to die any second (they weren’t, they aren’t, they’re in their early 60s and healthy!!).
I asked if he was just going to hide in the basement forever? I meant this as him using Covid as a way to justify not doing anything he found uncomfortable. I did NOT mean that he was going to be a creepy basement dweller living at home like some kind of negative neckbeard stereotype.
He wrote me a 7 or 8 paragraph text about how his parents friend died of a heart attack when he was working alone and how his dad didn’t deserve that, among other similar sentiments. It was so surreal; it seriously felt like reading an HR cover letter and we haven’t talked since.
I think I put in more effort than he ever did. Called himself a best friend/brother. Whenever he was feeling down or whatsoever, I will be down to cheer him etc. Same for birthdays, I have never received any birthday wishes for the whole of our friendship.
I stopped hanging out with him after I saw how bad his character was, he was victim blaming others for everything. We have a weekly badminton session whereby if his mood drops, he will get angry and blamed all of us for not playing well (FFS, this is a casual game and not a competition). Most of the time, he will blame us for serving weakly (the shuttlecock will touch the serving line and you scored), high serve.
He will be super friendly after the game and said it was a joke to teach you how to play better in the future. Nah, that’s enough of the shitty character.
Life feels slightly better without a narcissistic friend.
Had a close friend that i had alot in common with. He started being touchy feely with my girl friends when he’d tag along to go out. They made a few comments stating they felt uncomfortable around him. I had talk with him and he did it again. I never invited him out again and slowly trickled him out of my life.
I got divorced and they weren’t there for me. But not only did they never reach out to talk to me about it, they were talking to other people about my divorce.
Made me realize how lopsided the relationship was.
Could never apologise or admit they were in the wrong.
Fell out with a best friend of 5 years after their crack addiction, he got so far bad that his new crackhead buddies called me and told me the previous night when he was begging me for money he was bragging to them on how he manipulates me for cash. Even though those guys are still drug addicts till this day I respect them for calling me and telling me this. Anyways, one day I decided to try and get him into a government subsidized rehab. I got him an appointment with a none profit and a wonderful lady who was a former addict herself, I basically was able to get him at the top of a waitlist to very good rehab clinics and detox centers that would’ve otherwise cost thousands. He didn’t show up. Can’t help someone who doesn’t wanna help themselves.
He tried to become friends with me again after I cut him off for 6 months. Literally the day I picked up the phone he asked me for 40 bucks, fuckin ridiculous.
I still have one friend who is mutually connected to him and have cut off everyone and anyone else related to him, dude apparently regrets everything but there’s no going back for me ever.
Multiple times, actually. First big one was over money. I brought over a toy gyro copter that his brothers played with while I was asleep and when I brought it home, it didn’t work anymore. I confronted him, he found out his younger brother broke it and promised to pay for a replacement. 2 years, never saw a dime, but noticed he was going on bigger dates with his gf so I asked him what was going on. He went ballistic on me saying “can’t squeeze blood from a stone” and other bullshit, then put his mom on the phone where she told me how I was just jealous of his relationship. I hung up, we didn’t speak for a few years. We started talking again and things were great. But he started ignoring my texts, inviting me to things less, would cancel last second for plans constantly, miss my birthday unless I invited him to stuff, and told me the truth less and less.
Now we’re just acquaintances, really. He’ll say I’m his best friend, but I don’t feel that way anymore and when I tell him, it’s usually “I’m sorry, I’ll try to do better” or just using how busy he is as an excuse, like I can’t see him playing video games 80 hours a week through account activities, no actual improvement. I’m just disappointed at this point.
6 years of friendship. She dropped me as soon as i’m inconveniencing her.
He was far too closed off, we mainly did what he wanted to do and he almost never gave me an option, and sometimes acted like an ass to me. When he insulted my family, I ended our friendship. We’ve since made up and become friends again, but we’re not anywhere near as close as we were.
Betrayal. Depression. Assumptions. Lack of effort.
I got married and had kids, and she expected me to stop everything for her whenever things went wrong for her. We had been friends for 25 years but when I wouldn’t leave work, my wife, and my kids to go see her for a weekend, she snapped and ended our friendship.
Yeah… he’s a bish
He was the best man at my wedding.
Pre-wedding, we’d get together, have some beers, and talk about the importance of family, our wives, kids, buying a house, and leaving behind the life we had been in as single guys. He was already married and they had a kid.
So I got married. We bought a house. Worked on having a kid. He suddenly wanted very little to do with me. He did have a party at his place, I went, and he made a comment that I was lucky and I didn’t have work like he did. Huh?? I worked my ass off to get the job that paid enough to get that house. Meanwhile, he made it clear he had “new” friends who believed in him doing all the old things we said we were going to leave behind. I warned him that if he kept doing this, his wife would leave him, and he blew me off.
So we stopped talking. His wife left him. I built a life, he continued to live as he always had as a guy stuck in his 20s
And basically, that’s the way it’s been with other friends: I built life, people get weird.
I was a blackout drunk for years. My best friend was the only one who offered to get sober with me, I still said no. He was the last friend to leave me after he had enough.
He was fucking my girlfriend while I was away at work. She didn’t know anyone else here. I asked him if he could let her tag along once I’m awhile when I was away.
She picked me up from the airport one day, got home. She told me she didn’t love me anymore and she moved in with him the next day. They lied for about 5 months. They ended up getting married and then divorced 10 years later.
He definitely did me a favor in the long run, though. She’s fucking useless.
2 stories
First: Best friend for years. He was like my big brother. He was dating a girl that had him wrapped her finger. She was like a sister to me. She hooked me up with so many of her friends. One nigh I was out with her and one of her friends. Wasn’t a 1st time. She had a bit much to drink, and to piss him off, suggested that I got her drunk on purpose to hit on her. Couldn’t have been further from the truth. He came by that night, talked a bunch of s#!t. Then threatened me before storming off. We didn’t speak for years. We eventually got back in touch once he was out of that toxic relationship. That was 25+ years ago. We laugh about it now.
Second: I was really close to my ex-wife’s brother. Even more so after she and I split. I went into business with him. A year later I was being sued for money he and his wife spent. They claimed they would take care of it. They didn’t do a thing so I stopped communicating with them all-together. No one else in their family knows what happened. I still get invitations to their family events but don’t bother responding. I managed the lawsuit on my own.
He started talking down to my dad, when he had asked him something.
Started college with 2 friends, one who I was close to since grade school. It seemed to me we were together 24/7 but found out they were meeting girls and going out on dates without me. When I asked why they apologized but explained the reason was the car only seated 4 people. They soon transferred out and I haven’t seen or heard from either of them. But I learned a lesson from this, I was on my own and didn’t need them or anyone else to meet women.
I didn’t grow up with a lot of friends… I’ve always been a kinda lonely guy with a lot of acquaintances that enjoy my company but I’ve never felt close to anyone. Made a friend who I felt I really connected with who ended up emotionally abusing me for over 20 years… I think the pandemic woke me up but I don’t know… i guess a part of me always knew… we don’t talk anymore.
He used the term “crisis actors.”
Our friend group was made up mostly of couples, with a few of us being single and dating people outside the friend group off and on. One day, my closest friend in the group (opposite gender) told me they had feelings for me. Actually their words were, “what if you and I were a thing?” It was awkward, made only more awkward by the fact that they were engaged to another friend in the group.
I will always regret not saying anything to the victim of it all. But, I did cut ties with the person who said that to me, which lead to me losing contact with the whole group – even those who knew what had gone down.
Skipped my wedding to go ‘on vacation’ …
I got really sick earlier this year and couldn’t message much. Haven’t heard a peep from him. This is after he dropped me prior because he couldn’t deal with our ‘fairweather friendship’ and I reached out to him after a year of silence. Tried to be a good friend when his wife kicked him out, get him out of the hospital with a place to stay after getting arrested. Some people just don’t care as much as you do.
Short version: My best friend from high school owed me money. A lot of it. My family was in dire financial straits. I tried to collect from my friend to help them out. Payment was refused. Words were had. Ended up getting a payment of 1/6th of what I was owed. Haven’t heard from said friend since – and have been blocked on all social media and phone. It’s been 6 years, and it still hurts. I would 1,000% rather still have my friend than the pittance of money I got out of that mess. My friend’s birthday was two days ago, so I’ve been thinking about this more than usual lately.
He was a classmate in school. Then he turned into a Hardcore Right Winger.
I’m 42f. 20 year friendship.
My 19yo daughter was working at the same pub (for maybe 4 weeks) as best friend 45f. Daughter went to check a message on her phone, another worker saw her and told bff. Bff stormed in and started yelling abuse, “everyone wants to punch you in the head”.
We waited for a message, apology, any sign from bff. Daughter went to work 4 days later, nothing. So daughter resigned and put the reason in the letter. Then bff messaged me, blaming me. No remorse or even an explanation.
Friendship annihilated.
I absolutely will never be friends with her again.
beacause I told her I have hots for her
He was a little bitch
My friend and I struggled a lot with mental health in our early 20s, and to an extent I think we ended up in a weird kind of distant co-dependent situation. I then dropped out of college, moved home and, after a year of getting my depression under control, went back to school.
I was absolutely killing it in my new classes, but around that time my friend got on some new anxiety/depression meds and mixed them with some weed/alcohol. It all came to a head when I was at the last big party before finals were getting started, and my friend started texting our entire group with really unhinged and dangerous sounding shit. I called a wellness check for them and tried to keep them talking as best I could.
I spent the entire night worried instead of enjoying myself, couldn’t and couldn’t get any studying done over the next few days, but ended up passing all my classes anyway. At that point I decided that was it. I have my own life that I need to take care of, and they knew how important this was to me and was still (unintentionally) dragging me back anyway.
He got into drugs and disregarded everyone’s advice and helping hands.
There’s only so much you can take.
He lost everything, went to rehab and now he’s out and working. Still a far cry from what he could have done, if he thought that drugs weren’t cool as a teenager.
After 20+ years of friendship, he was down bad and needed a place to stay while he saved up for an apt with his girl. So I let him stay with my wife and I. He had before and we both enjoyed his company. This time was different.
Immediately started treating the place like his own. Brought work friends over while we were sleeping. Caught wind that he was cheating on his girl with one of the young waitresses at work. Was planning on confronting him cause I cared about him and his current GF. That night, he slipped up and it became apparent he was selling drugs out our back door while we were sleeping. Next day hit shit went in the street and I haven’t spoken to him since.
Still friends with his brother and hes never recovered. He moved in with his GFs family after he got her pregnant. Last I heard, she made him move out, but doesent trust him with the child so she goes over and cleans/cooks and makes sure the little one is safe. He cries about it all the time making it sound like the world is out to get him and none of it it his fault. Part of me feels bad, but mostly only for his ex as shes is an absolutely amazing person that deserves much better.
Tried to pull me into a MLM scheme relentlessly despite my many warnings for him to get away from it
My lifelong friend who was my best man at the wedding. he is a godfather to my son, his wife godmother to my daughter,…. just stopped communicating… it took me a while to figure out I was out.
Last time I saw him was 5 years ago at my mothers funeral. I was so happy to see him, he left quickly although I asked him to stay and talk over a meal and drink (this is common in my country after funeral). I still don’t know what happened. I talked to mutual friend, same happened to him too
Mine is a bit more simple, but he has a wife and kids now, its not that were not friends anymore just dont really ever see each other or hangout.
One of my high school friends completely lost his mind over the COVID shenanigans. Went to lunch during a visit home and he and his wife refused to wait inside the restaurant. Our son hadn’t been “vaccinated” yet so they made their children sit at the other end of the table (an outside table that we waited 45min for vs the inside tables that were available after 10min).
Have never been able to fully come back from that. It was so completely unnecessary, especially since it was 2022 and the majority of folks knew exactly how bad we’ll all been manipulated at that point.
it’s not about friendship or kinship. people at times like to react or think with feelings intact or bias towards what they know or like.
if you could compartmentalise, and know that your view isn’t always right or you don’t always need to win or there’s always other way to view things or to think in other pov, then all situation will end up being a better end state.
which is also why some people learn to meditate, know how to be zen and calm. and some, think with empathy without ego, pride or rashness in tact.
as a infant being brought onto this world, we can with nothing. no money, no judginess, no status. it’s the things we see, the people we meet, the traumas and problems we overcome that shape what we will become.
if infant can change when they grow up. so can you or your friend. he’s probably don’t value the friendship anyway. so good for you to find out and exit. never too late
He Turned into a Crackhead
He started to date an ex of mine, so I rarely see him anymore.
She got angry because I didn’t ask her for help… I barely ever ask anyone for help and she knows that but this time she got quiet upset about it.. so she don’t wanna talk to me right now.
I’m giving her space but I kind of feel like it’s unfair for her to be mad at me.
He’s a racist trumper and I’m not.
Why i fell out with a male friend? He started openly flirting with my then-girlfriend at my place. Talking about how strong he was, showing her his “strongness” by randomly doing push-ups on the floor and talking about his modeling work.
She responded by holding on to me a bit more tight and telling me that he was weird.
I spoke about it to him that i wasn’t sure what i’d thought about it and that i thought he went too far.
He replied with “you’re on cloud nine now. The moment the relationship ends you’ll come crawling back”
He and i stopped talking November 2023. Relationship ended April 2024. Haven’t spoken to him since, i rest my case.
Why i fell out with a female friend? It wasn’t really falling out. We talked A LOT and hung out much, all platonic. She wasn’t interested, i wasn’t interested. We were good friends. All of a sudden she started dating someone, sure go ahead. We still hung out and played videogames and whatnot.
The dating turned in to a relationship this January. How did i know? She hardly spoke to me, when i asked her 6 Months in if we’d ever hang out again because i missed her she said “you know i’m busy with work, and i’m at my boyfriend every weekend, i don’t have time”
A few days later i replied with “i know that you’re busy, but please let me know the moment you’ve got a bit of a gap” and she promptly blocked me.
You know what i find fascinating? When i had a relationship i always made sure to make time. Either with her at my place or her place, or alone while consulting her.
If this is out of the ordinary for him, it might be something else. There’s gotta be another catalyst that set him off. I’d give him some space, but couldn’t hurt to check back in. Something as stupid as this should kill a 40 year friendship.
What does “verbally blast him for getting out of line” entail? Sounds like your relationship is rocky to begin with.
We kinda just drifted apart tbh. In junior high he started hanging out with the “popular group” and it remained like that in high school.
My best friend and I started out as co-workers about 25 years ago. We were so close that I was the best man at his wedding, and we lived just 20 minutes apart, so getting together was a regular part of life
That all changed when he moved out of state 15 years ago. We kept in touch, but it wasn’t the same. My job at the railroad with its unpredictable schedule added another challenge to staying connected
He moved back 10 years ago, but an hour-and-a-half drive still made it difficult to see each other often. Even when he moved closer in the last couple of years, the relationship had already changed. Between his growing family, new kids, and just the general struggles of adult life, the friendship has naturally grown apart. It’s a reminder that sometimes, life just gets in the way
They started dating someone gross (toxic with a history of cheating). I put a hard boundary in place that I didn’t want them in my house but happy to meet up elsewhere to get to know them better… Since they spent a solid 3 months slagging them off before they started dating.
They’ve been on and off again for about 3 years and I don’t think they have any friends left because of their partner.
He was best man at our friend’s wedding, I’ll call him H. He was going through a tough time so said friend asked if he’d wanna move in with him and his wife. Not long after tensions between H and the wife grew and not long after that, it had been revealed that they were fucking the whole time he had been there.
I couldn’t believe that a man could do that to his best friend and it blew up our friend group. I was angry and in shock so I cut H out of my life. I know cheating isn’t the worst thing that could happen, but watching what it does to the victim is heartbreaking and I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone.
Thankfully, he’s stable now and over it for the most part, but I just don’t associate with cheaters.