Those who masturbate, is it easy for you to go cold turkey? Or is it a bit hard?

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For me personally, so I’m 22 (turning 23) year old young woman, and i discovered it myslef, and have been doing it since pretty long.

I just saw this this post about desensitisation of nerves due to excessive use of vibrator and many in the comments advised to go cold turkey.

Now i thought about this and felt, that it would actually be pretty tough to entirely leave it for an extended period of time, because I do it mostly before i sleep, and start feeling the urge at that time, so i just wanted to know if this is ok.

And what do others feel about this?

Tldr: op thinks that it’s hard for them to resist alot of times and they want to know If it’s similar for others in any way.

Comments

  1. sum117 Avatar

    As every other addiction, it is hard to stop if you use it as your primary source of joy.

    I’ve not touched myself for months now, because I actively tried to stop and wanted to find more bliss in my routine.

    Didn’t change much. I don’t even know why I was so bothered by it in the first place, but here we are:

    I projected all the needs I felt for masturbation to reading and gaming.

    It makes it easier if you are not trying to be celibate either. Start small, don’t force yourself too much, just “avoid” it, if you can. If you’re not already truly addicted, things will go away naturally the more you actively slight them.

  2. FlamingInferno3 Avatar

    I’ve gone cold turkey many times and it’s fine, but each person has their own struggles. I just go through phases where I just don’t wanna do anything for months.
    If you find going cold turkey too hard, maybe just do it without the vibrator so you can sensitize your nerves again? Just a thought.

  3. Tungstenkrill Avatar

    >Those who masturbate, is it easy for you to go cold turkey? Or is it A BIT HARD?

    I see what you did there.

  4. AttentionRoyal2276 Avatar

    Are you actually having a problem or with decreased sensitivity or is it just because you read some post? Why not just use your fingers instead of the vibrator?

  5. ZenBuddhism Avatar

    Look up the easypeasy method. Nofap banned the term because it works so well

  6. Dry-Window-2852 Avatar

    I could go a few weeks without or I could do it five times in a day

  7. QuirkyForever Avatar

    That’s BS about “deadening the nerves”, btw.

  8. Admirable_Bug_2362 Avatar

    I disagree with cutting completely cold Turkey. That’s gonna be rough unless you have a partner who you can have sex with pretty much anytime you want it in the day lmao

    Instead I would say scale it back slowly to the amount of times you do it per day and then next week maybe only do it every other day.

    To slowly get that nerves back so that you can actually enjoy being with a partner

  9. Grabatreetron Avatar

    I’d direct this question specifically to other women, as masturbation is different between the sexes.

    For men, masturbation seems to be a physiological imperative. Vanishingly few men (without access to sex) report never masturbating. Orgasms are something we basically have to have and even staunch r/nofap types will get nocturnal emissions. 

    Whereas masturbation habits vary far more between women, and a good chunk of women (between 15 and 25 percent, depending on the study) report never masturbating at all.

  10. AaronicNation Avatar

    I’ve tried it a lot of different ways but can’t say I’ve ever done it with cold turkey before.

  11. anotherNotMeAccount Avatar

    (full disclosure: I’m a guy, but I’ve done a bit of research on a few things that overlap your question. I’ll be taking from behavioral view of things.Take what you will from it)

    I would suggest not going cold turkey on masturbating completely for a number of reasons:

    1. You may have conditioned yourself to needing the release to go to sleep. Based on you mentioning you get the urge most before bed time lends to this possibility. So your body might need those happy feeling chemicals to help you sleep.

    2. The desensitization comes from the high speed of the vibrator. If you get something that is mute similar to fingers or tongue, that simulate “normal”/”real” sexual activity, you won’t run that risk.

    3. The desensitization isn’t just on the nerves, but in your mind as well. Your brain will “train” itself to enjoy the vibrations and will make achieving orgasm harder when there are no vibrations. Men have a similar issue of they “dry rub” too much.

    The takeaway is: Keep pleasing yourself, but try to simulate human interaction more closely.

  12. Master-Mango-1590 Avatar

    I’m a guy, I stopped for a while, but sometimes I do it once a week or so. I don’t have a gf no more so it’s ok to do so. I don’t really wanna hook up with some random girl just for sex. Thats not me.

  13. FrostyPain4672 Avatar

    I haven’t even thought of it since listening to The Easy Peasy Way to quit Pornography on Youtube. It’s a lifesaver.

  14. Livefiction1 Avatar

    I usually do warm turkey because it’s much more soft and pliable.

  15. Hoopajoops Avatar

    I’m roundabouts in that I do it before bed, but it’s probably only once a week on average. I still have problems falling asleep if I have a hard-on

  16. hess80 Avatar

    This is not a real problem for most people

  17. Mellowfellowjello Avatar

    Quitting cold turkey is certainly easier when:

    • you are in a different environment (traveling, visiting fam, etc) — this helps to break the habit initially too
    • work & post-work activities are keeping your brain occupied

    Otherwise idk ¯_(ツ)_/¯ your will power / discipline will really be tested!

  18. BurantX40 Avatar

    I mean, if I’m busy enough, I won’t do it.

    Sometimes boredom, or leisure, give way to thoughts and opportunity.