Context I’m an only child with chronic health problems
My free time is usually spent in physical therapy or resting so I don’t trigger chronic fatigue . It’s so slow going that like maybe every 3 weeks I have a noticeable progress.
So in terms of my life , I don’t know what to say
Or it’s just not shareable— talking with psychologist about ptsd, I don’t want my parents to know about the ptsd
But my parent is ill and I want to check in, however they’re too tired to be doing the talking so it’s more me that has to carry the conversation
So I’m writing a list – and I have
– books
– a romcom I saw recently
– a baking fail
that’s like the last three weeks 🫣
all friends are going through too private /intense problems or too TMI lol
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Talk about good memories from going up. Hey do you remember when?
Anything you read on reddit
I’m not an only child, we’re three sisters and our mom. We like to:
We have mental and health issues as well, and sometimes there’s fighting or silent treatment happening between two or more of us. We are only four since the rest of our extended family live in other countries.
Have you got cousins OP? My friends who don’t have/get along with their siblings tend to be closer to their cousins
I don’t exactly talk with my family weekly but we have a family WhatsApp chat where we each check in a few times a week, just things like showing the fruits on my strawberry plant, being horrified at having to evict a huge spider from the house, offering to lend books we think the others might enjoy. The other day my mum sent a picture of her with a huge fluffy mammoth toy which was random but really sweet! It’s nothing major, just nice to be in touch throughout the week and share the minutiae of our days without the pressure of having to make conversation at a set time
I only talk to my mom (small family) and I talk to her multiple times a week. It’s about: work, weather, school, podcasts I’ve listened to, books, something I’ve watched, plans for the weekend, friends (she likes petty gossip), friends of friends, something weird I’ve seen strangers on the street do, things I saw on tiktok (she does not understand tiktok, but she appreciates me showing her cute animals), health, how I’m feeling, how she’s feeling, holiday destinations I want to go to, hobbies.
I’ve taken up asking her about things from her life before she had kids. I’m asking the questions now so one day when she’s not here I know all her life, which is horribly sad to think about as a motivation but it has been so insightful. “What you like when you were 10? What is your best childhood memory? You used to do sailing, what was that like?”
I said to my mom the other week my only good part about being an adult is now she’s not just my mom. Like, she’s always my mom, she’ll always do mom things even when I beg her not to, but she’s also one of my closest friends. I don’t think there’s much I can’t discuss with her. Her advice is sometimes old fashioned or rather blunt, but once I’ve sat with it a bit I’m like yeah…actually, that was good advice. And it can be hilarious to find out lore about her teens/early twenties!
I talk about my baby niece, the family drama, the random drama from my mom’s colleagues, my work, my work drama…. Pretty much anything that happens lol
We talk daily and mostly talk about politics, current events, sports, books movies and whatever bs that happened that day.
My dad wants me to check in once weekly. Usually it’s not much, just a “hey, I’m still alive and nothing is going wrong” check in
I usually listen to what’s going on in his life cause he has to drive a lot for his job, so stuff always happens there
Talk to your parents about anything positive in your life. Parents tend to worry a lot. I’m sorry about your chronic health condition – that has to be hard. Try not to feel guilty if you do want to talk about your hardships. Perhaps talk about a Netflix show they should watch or play cards with them. Or if they like gardening or what not, find something you all can share together and talk about.
I spend a lot of time with my parents because I just love them. I yap at them about everything. The Tiktoks I saw, what the Real Housewives are up to, American politics (yikes), my pet peeves, my cats, which high school friends are pregnant and engaged, what food is on sale, do I want to have kids one day or not, why is life like this, why are people so obsessed with Amazon and why can’t they recycle, why am I so easily irritated with people, why am I so different from my siblings, are there any good movies coming out soon, how is Babcia (my dads mom), etc etc