My boyfriend wants a threesome between him and I and another woman. No specific woman, just another woman. He says he only wants one now that we are together because he feels comfortable enough with me in our relationship to want to explore such a thing. He’s been bringing it up for probably a year now. He wants both girls to do things to him, him do things to both girls, and the girl to do things to me. I have planned to marry this man, I cannot stomach this desire he has. It makes me physically nauseous. I could never be in the same room with him naked with another woman. I could never be in the situation where any other woman is doing anything sexual with him or him to her. I would never be able to look at him the same, our relationship would be over. I would be physically ill and just the thought of it sends me into a panic attack. I’ve tried to convince myself into a different perspective on it and it’s just not happening. I think it would make me hate him genuinely, I would never be able to look at him again. Opinions?
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You two are not compatible.
Ask him about another man. Nothing like the threat of a devils threeway to get a man to think straight.
I mean don’t do it and if he doesn’t like it get rid
Break up with him.
> I cannot stomach this desire he has. It makes me physically nauseous. I could never be in the same room with him naked with another woman. I could never be in the situation where any other woman is doing anything sexual with him or him to her. I would never be able to look at him the same, our relationship would be over. I would be physically ill and just the thought of it sends me into a panic attack.
Have you told him that?
Tell him how u feel and if he doesnt like it, leave
Oh dear this brings back memories. When I was 23 I dated someone who refused to make our relationship official unless I had a threesome with him and another girl (he didn’t care who the girl was and said I could even choose who I wanted it to be- how generous of him) stupid me even highly considered this because I really liked him. I’m so glad I didnt go through with him, best thing I ever did was cut contact with him.
Please do not do this unless you’ve fully weighed out the pros and cons . If you’re not 100% certain then don’t let him pressure you into it
Have you said that’s a deal breaker?
Communication shouldn’t be this hard, you’re not into it. Express that and tell him to never mention it again if he wants this relationship
Not an unusual fantasy for men, but not that often acted upon.
You said no. End of discussion. If he keeps bringing it up it’s because he’s a creep and doesn’t respect you or your bodily autonomy.
This one is simple: tell him all this. Make it clear you’re not interested. If this upsets him too much, tell him to fuck off. If he wants a 3some more than he wants you, then he doesn’t deserve you. That age gap is a bit of a red flag anyway.
I think your age gap is too large for your current age.
talk to him about how you feel
Tell him how you feel.
No no no no no. Do not do something sexually you are not comfortable with. If he doesn’t understand that and it is his hill to die on, you need to move on. Because what next? What other sexual or other thing you aren’t comfortable with is he going to force onto you? How else are you going to compromise your feelings and values? I am not against threesomes or people being open with sexuality and kinks but my hard line is forcing, pressuring, manipulating someone to do something they don’t want to do and yours should be to. He should be thinking about building a life with you…..not a different person he wants to have sex with?
So you don’t like the idea and you still asking on Reddit? you posted this for attention because that’s the only thing besides you are a little bit dumb…
Sounds like he wants the benefits of being single and in a relationship. Don’t waste anymore time with this guy. He will disappoint you further.
You will never get round this if it happens, and he should back down before you run away.
Fantasy is fun, making it happen is a road to hell.
I think this relationship is over. I’m sorry.
Lol hes trying to get a free pass to cheat. That conversation of ‘ i feel comfortable asking you this ‘ is a form of manipulation to see if youll find it sweet and let him do his thing. Youre 22, he’s 28, leave his ass and got find someone else, preferably closer to your age
Find another man. Have some self respect. You’re only 22 for crying out loud!
I’m sure that someone has a better answer than me for this topic, I can only speak from my own experience. I wanted the same thing your counterpart wanted when me and my wife first got together, and she felt the same way you do. I just never got it, I got over it, and we have been married for 23 years. If you love someone. You can put things like this aside and just let it go. I’m sure someone has something more intellectual to say on the subject, but that’s how I feel. Good luck hope it works out in both of your favor