TIFU by accidentally liking two guys, I’ve only used Reddit one other time so bear with me. I (21f) have a friend (22m) I’m going to call John, who I’ve known for five years and I have how to crush on him, with this crush fluctuating in how strong it is since I met him. I met my other friend (22m) who I’ll call mark,
For some context about a year and a half ago when we first met, he almost immediately had a crush on me, but I was dating someone else. He asked a mutual friend to keep him updated if I was seeing anyone or not when me and that boyfriend broke up, I entered a sort of talking stage with this guy for a couple months until I decided things weren’t gonna work because we didn’t see each other a lot (or ever) and I “friend zoned” him. Couple months ago found out that he still had a crush on me and I thought I’d give it one more chance because in all honesty I did have a small crush for him going back to friend one, John two years ago I had a party that long story short ended up with me and him cuddling on a couch and me falling asleep on him, we didn’t actually do anything, but I think that’s when he developed a crush on me a mutual friend, funny enough, the same mutual friend as me and Mark talked to John and as John was one of my friends, I didn’t want to ruin a friendship by dating him and he ended up apologizing for that night, for the past two years, he has had a crush on me and I didn’t really know, but apparently it’s been very obvious from the rest of my friends, and it is a very, very big crush too. A week ago, the same thing happened with him. There was a party, and it ended up with us, pulling an all nighter and cuddling on a couch while watching a movie and both of us falling asleep again we didn’t do anything this time other than that, but still, I was not trying to lead him on as I do have a crush on him I simply don’t want to ruin the friendship, but my crush on him is pretty big. The only problem is I currently have a date with Mark and with Mark I have friend zoned him twice and I would feel absolutely horrible to say hey look I actually like another guy as well as you because I do like Mark I like him a lot. I feel like I need to tell them what’s going on, but I don’t know how to explain it in a way or I don’t come off as an asshole because I feel like I’m being an asshole, but I’m trying my hardest not to be and it was just been a bunch of mistakes that have added up to be really bad mistakes and I do want to go on a date with Mark But I don’t wanna hurt John because that is my worst fear to ruin our friendship. If anyone has any advice, please let me know. 🙏🙏Thank you.
TLDR Accidentally led on two guys, both of which I have a crush on and who have both liked me for over a year. And I have a date with one of them in a week and I’m unsure of what to do!
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Good grief…
First off – grammar. This was so hard to read. Trying to distinguish when you were talking about John and not Mark, or Mark and not John was very hard.
Second – you need to pick a lane. You clearly like one more than the other, and dragging the other around while figuring that out is not right. You say it might ruin your friendship? Yeah, maybe. But keeping them there like a backup option will do that more surely than giving it a chance. A feiendship between 2 people who like each other in more than a friendship way will only lead to future problems with the relationships you do choose to get into.