I (18F) accidentally lied to a mormon 2 weeks ago.
HELP ME!! ADVICE IN THE COMMENTS!!
TLDR: I lied to a mormon, told him I was interested to in going to church when he asked me on the street just because he’s cute.
Sorry for the grammar mistakes but im freaked out and rushing
So two weeks ago, (the week before easter). I was rummaging through my purse at the train station when I hear “ Would you like to come to church on Sunday?” I look up and see the two most jaw dropping men i’ve ever seen. Now i’m somewhat religious, I grew up baptist since i’m black and do believe in God, but i’m not insanely religious yanno? Anyways, after they say this I immediately say “Yes” with the most puzzled look on my face because i’m so shocked these two gorgeous men are asking me about church.
They continue to talk to me more and reveal they’re mormons and would like me to go to church that Easter, my train was approaching so I tried to cut things a bit short. However the one that was not talking to me asks to grab my number really quickly so he can text me the information about church, I oblige and give it to him, get on my train and think not much of it. However, I receive a text from them stating the information for the church service that coming Sunday no more than 20 minutes later. Im in awe and I explain I forgot I had plans but I would go next Sunday.
We dont really chat for the rest of the week until Thursday comes, he asks to call me and talk about God and such and I FREAK OUT. I make up an excuse and say ill call tomorrow. I feel bad so I ended up calling him while my friend was in the room so it wasn’t awkward. We talk about God and im freaking the FUCK out because im like omg he wants me to go to church THIS SUNDAY.
Feeling genuinely bad and like it was too late to back out I tell him ill be there Sunday. Sunday morning rolls around and me and my friend are reluctantly getting ready when he calls me and reminds me to come to church! Im so im shock because what how did he remember?! We’re leaving the house and explain we will be a little behind on time (like I said we were getting ready all slow and stuff) We get there and call him and tell him that we’re outside and both of them come and get us and take us in the church, the service was nice, nothing crazy but at the end they asked us to stay after a little to talk about baptism. Now i’ve already been baptized but it sort of felt like I COULDNT say no because when the service ended, he told us “Stay here, we’re going to gather the rest of the group and go to the room for baptism talk”. AND THEN PRACTICALLY RUNS AWAY!???
So me and my friend just wait there and they come back. We talk about baptism and blah blah blah, he hands me a book of mormon at the end and tells me to keep it. I do and we get toured around and then we leave. AS WE LEAVE WE REALIZE (omg) that theyre walking infront of us literally the same way we are and as we wait for the bus we realize they’re also standing there. Im literally losing my mind because why are you guys always there?! We get on the bus but sit at opposite ends and as we exit they tell us to have a blessed day and we return the words. The thing is during that baptism talk he suggested we get baptized by May 18th and nobody spoke up and refused! My friend and I get home and I tell her this was a bad idea and I dont know what to do!
He texted me earlier today asking if I wanted to join them on a zoom Wednesday and I said yes, before I realized what a bad idea this was.
Reddit, PLEASE help me PLEASE and what do I say?! I have this message pre typed out but let me know if I should post that too!
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Girl got honey dicked
Say you actually have a crippling irrational fear of drowning
This sounds like a real thing that definitely happened and not like something made up for internet points.
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As a Mormon, just say hey I’m not interested. Please don’t contact no more.
If they bug you block the number. They’ll figure it out eventually
“Thank you for the invitation. While I found the service beautiful and your community welcoming, I have decided that I’m more comfortable with my family church and the community I grew up with. It was a pleasure speaking with you about our faiths and I wish you well on your journey with god.”
Tell him thanks and you enjoyed hanging out, but you have no interest in converting. They will be relentless if you keep going along with it. It doesn’t matter how gorgeous they are lol.
His only goal is getting more baptisms under his belt, that’s why he’s being so pushy. He’s on a “mission” as they call it, that’s why he was in the station with his friend, and he will likely return to his hometown soon. Their only purpose during their “mission” is proselytizing, they didn’t meet you on the street accidentally. Think of them like the telemarketers of the Christian world; like jahovas witnesses if they accosted you on the street. The Mormon church is an abusive, racist, homophobic, misogynistic organization that will leave you a shell of your former self with only self-loathing left. I’m sorry you got tangled up in this, but if it were me I would just ghost him honestly, if you try and build a relationship he is going to keep pushing this, because he probably sees this friendship as just a way to ‘add another soul to God’s army’
GUYS I WANTED TO START OFF BY SAYING I WILL NOT “SOAK” HIM !!! Or however you use the variation of that word😭 Number two, I have a pre typed message, please let me know what you guys think and if I should send it or not send it, and if you guys want screenshots i can show them😭
The message reads as following: “Good evening Elder Gal! I just want to be really honest with you. When you first invited me, I said yes because you’re honestly so cute and sweet 😭 and also because I was a little caught off guard and didn’t really know what to say in the moment.
I have SO much respect for you and your faith, but I didn’t realize how fast everything would start happening with the church, and it’s been a little overwhelming and surprising for me.
I’m not sure if I’m ready to fully commit to something so deep right now, just because it’s all so new. I hope you understand — you’re amazing, and I genuinely didn’t mean any disrespect!
I’m just nervous because it feels like a lot to balance with school, work, college plans, life planning, and now a whole new religion all at once, that if I study, i’d want to study right.
This doesn’t change my view on Mormonism at all — I still believe it’s truly amazing — but maybe diving headfirst just because I thought you were attractive wasn’t the best way to explore my religious options😭
I’m definitely still open to practicing it, but maybe on a slower, less intense scale and when things aren’t as chaotic.
I really hope you understand and aren’t offended!”
Since you’re not able to say no I guess your getting baptized again, soon!
I’m an ex-Mormon. Most missionaries are just teenagers doing what they’ve been told, trying to recruit new members. They’re usually not too aggressive if you’re clear with them. The key is to be firm. Don’t say things like “maybe” or “I’ll think about it,” because they’ll take that as an invitation to keep following up. It’s better to be direct: tell them you’re not interested, you don’t believe in the church, and you won’t be converted.
If they still keep contacting then, drop the gloves and be harsh.
Sorry. You’re a Mormon now. You touched the book. That was dumb dumb dumb dumb dumb.