I work in a nursing home as a security guard and there’s this cute young African-American lady who’s a nurse. Keep in mind she’s not a permanent employee—she says “I make my own schedule” and that she doesn’t know if she’ll be working here in the coming weeks. This gave me a sense of urgency to get them digits. She willingly gave me said digits and said we can go out for Indian food one day. Now that I did it I regret it because I love This job. Like I said she didn’t make it sound like she was coming back. I have a rule for not dating coworkers so am I the world’s biggest dumbass? I’m worried if (keyword) she stays on and she sees me again that she’ll think I’m stalking her.
TL;DR asked a cute RN for her phone number because I couldn’t help myself. WTF did I do?
Edit: I have reason to believe that one of my coworkers is playing hanky-panky with someone’s caretaker. Maybe I’m not totally in the wrong.
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Bro you’re not the world’s biggest dumbass, just a human with a crush and bad timing 😅 If she gave you her number willingly and even suggested Indian food, that’s a green light, not a restraining order. Just play it cool, don’t be weird, and you’ll be fine.
Why would she think you’re stalking her?
If she said she was leaving, and then willingly gave you her phone number, it’s probably all fine.
In general though, I say one should never look for dates at work, at the gym, or at family reunions.
Is face to face social interactions so bad these days that we need Reddit to ask if we messed up when successfully asking for a girls number?
You didn’t even go on a date yet
If you’re acting this fucking weird about the situation now, then I really feel bad for this girl.
Stop second guessing yourself. All you’re doing in this post is scrambling to find a reason to engage in negative self talk.
If you are a security guard and she is a nurse, you are not in the same reporting structure so there should be no problem if you date.